Now I know that cheating has been around since mankind has existed. Its nothing new and never will be. I know that. But for the sake of a conversation and disscussion. . .
Do you feel that cheating has become as big of a problem as we're always hearing? Has it become too much of a common-trend? Do people even second guess their actions?
Do you think the people who have the affairs, even really care who they're effecting and how their actions will effect others? Cause that's what the problem is.
And from what I hear, a lot of people who do cheat. Feel "entitled" and "deserving". . . really? How much of these people are actually "entitled" to do what they do?
And another thing I've seen, is pride. A lot of people seem to be very boastful of affairs these days. Like its an accomplishment. . . Why is that?
And last. . .your final thoughts?
Mine is. Its a damn shame. . .
2007-10-26 01:59:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont know if its gotten worse as such ... I know that it is thought to be worse (on appearance).
I tend to boil things down to my theory of why people do things.
Because it seemed like a 'good idea' at the time. Good idea is mutable - right thing, to seem worse (if thats what the person seeks, as then it effectively becomes a good idea in order to achieve the effect). The reasoning as to why thats a good idea to them is another question and one I dont care to know, they had a multitude of other options at the time - if they choose that one - I know enough about their quality.
Although without really thinking on it beyond the pride aspect - it shows that to them they have increased their sense of value.
They are now somehow more valuable (albeit in this sense as a disposable pleasure, even if they may view others in that sense, by default due to their actions thats all the value they can hold).
Their reasons are nothing more than justifications for their actions, their actions paint a picture of their beliefs (about themselves and others). This I believe, because of the presence of alternative options. Take any given option and it paints your life on the canvas so to speak.
The ultimate question is do you and do you tolerate it in people that close to you.
And yes ... it does seem something of a shame doesnt it.
2007-10-26 02:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Andy C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes think it is a damn shame as well that some people are willing to risk it all for fleeting pleasure. I don't think some people really care how their actions will impact on others simply because I think they assume they will never get caught.These same people forget when you play in the mud a little of it will stick on you. We are living in a society in which some people think people are disposable and that gratification is instantaneous.Some want it all now or there must be something wrong.To me people get out of life as much as they out into it.Afterall who benefits most from your daily efforts than you.In regards to the point about people feeling entitled and deserving I just have this to say."Those people who feel they don't get everything they deserve in life should be thankful". No one has to participate in a lifestyle they don't approve of.There are many good people out there with strong values.I must put in one qualifier though.As human beings ,we are not perfect, and when you love someone you cannot demand or expect perfection( it does not exist).You can ask someone to try their best each day , so each day you learn more about each other and one day hope it will reach the point where you not only love the person you are with ,but that you like the person they are not who you hope they become.
2007-10-26 02:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cheating is very wrong a person should never get into a relationship if he or she is gonna cheat and no I really think they are not thinking at the time on who they hurt when they cheat its not an accomplishment its a failure that they cannot be a true honest person to the one they say thay loved its a total weakness they did not want to take the time to fix instead took the easy way out and cheated
2007-10-26 02:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you know there are people who want to cheat but cannot? They can't find anyone.
That's a damn shame too.
Then there are those who have permission to be with other people, but who can't get permission for the divorce. What's up with that?
I do think cheating is wrong though.
But hmm, I've tried to understand people who do it and have even gotten to where I can understand the feelings causing one to want to.
2007-10-26 02:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by dumbuglyweirdo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its funny you ask. I have been noticing that on alot of the television shows that are out know, are really glorifying cheating. So even hollywood is putting it out there more. People are more supseptable to cheating when they feel that they arent getting enough out of there relationship. Or maybe something devastating has happened in there life that causes them to just pull away.
2007-10-26 02:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by pumper 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1st thing you must understand is that only married people can cheat or commit infidelity, this stuff about, oh my god,my boyfriend just cheated on me, is highly blown out of context, as you cant cheat on a boyfriend or girlfriend, now you can have sex outside of the relationship, but its not cheating, its screwing around! Most married couples who go outside of their marriage do so for different reasons, men commit adultry for sex, they need a quick fix, maybe their not getting sex at home, so they turn to someone else. Women on the other hand commit adulty for opposite reasons, they do so for companionship, and someone to comunicate with, maybe their hubbys arnt paying enough attention to them, and bamn here comes a man who is paying attention to their needs and wants and next thing ya know their in bed. So thats my thought on cheating and adultery.
2007-10-26 02:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
people who commit cheating, adultery and infidelity usually comes from a wreck family. no strong family values. no strong foundation. the question is how come there are more broken families now than before? more divorces? maybe as the world progress people change. priorities like their lifestlye is far more important than relationship. i think now people are more materialistic. true it's a damn shame.
2007-10-26 02:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by isla 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It IS a bragging thing. It's all guys talk about at the office.
2007-10-26 02:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋