survey:how do you tell someone they're no good in bed?

Question

without hurting their feelings?

Answer 1

you dont need to tell them. you need to teach them

Answer 2

If it's someone you are planning to be with for a while than you need to do something... Get a sex book ... they have some good ones in the self help section or you can order one. They have some good ones that are for couples and they aren't gross or perverted. Tell him you would like to try some new stuff and that you like him so much you think it would bring the two of you closer. If it's uncomfortable to look together take turns...mark the pages you enjoy. Good-Luck.

Answer 3

Sorry, there IS no way to tell someone they are bad in bed without hurting their feelings. I would just stop sleeping with them.

Answer 4

I don't understand this really. If a partner isn't cutting it in bed, take the initiative to change whatever it is that isn't working. Just say what you want or what isn't feeling good. It takes two to make it hot in bed. If you're too shy to say it during sex, talk about it later....ask what their favorite part about sex is and then tell yours. He/she needs to be told since everyone has different likes and dislikes.

Answer 5

Don't just tell them, first train them to do better, (if you're still interested in them) then when they are better, tell them how great they are, but they didn't used to be. It cushions the blow, telling someone that can be very hurtful. If you're done with the person as a sexual partner, then just tell them and gently suggest some practice. (Not with you!)

Answer 6

Tell them you want to try new and exciting things. Suggest new things. Go out and buy things to help out in that area (if you know what I mean). Don't flat out tell somebody ... hey, you suck in bed! That is mean and it's not necessary. I would just assume you break-up with that person than to make them feel self-conscious and worthless.

Answer 7

When they are done, finish the job yourself, and then say "if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself"

OH you said WITHOUT hurting their feelings~try telling them what you like in bed, tell them what you want~the person who is bad in bed is the person that won't communicate their needs~teach them what you need done to have satisfying sex~be nice, gentle and give plenty of "show and tell"~once they see how into the pleasure you are~then they will more than likely jump right in to help!

Answer 8

BY saying someone is no good in bed I always think of a 3 inch wee-wee. Now, when that is the case I change my number, my address get plastic surgery and visit a shrink once in a while.

But most men are not as good as they think they are in bed. Maybe (if the size is not involved) you should talk to him during sex and tell him what it is you like and how you like it.
yeah..just like a dog....train Boo-boo to do it right.

Answer 9

You really can't. No matter how you approach the subject their feelings are bound to be hurt. Maybe the best thing to do is to just stop sleeping with them.

Answer 10

Sexual compatibility is kind of like hitting the lottery.

You either win, or you gotta work like crazy untill you do...

I tend to get things backwards, great sex, but I am not much of a talker...Oh I can get excited in the bedroom but I dont like to talk talk talk...I hate to argue, but I love jokes and comedy...Guys love my phone voice but I totally HATE talking on the phone. I love a guy filling up the air with convo...I guess I am weird like that... I like to listen... or to act on my feelings....but one day I will find the right guy...we shall see.

Answer 11

just tell them hey and then like sit them down and then tell them umm you are no good in bed i am really sorry so you dont hurt there fellings because thats what you asked for i hope i helped