ok last night me and husband watching 28 weeks later the movie i got kindof upset that the man in the movie left his wife, ok i asked my husband would he ever leave me and he said yes i asked if he would save my life or protect me from someone and he said that he would try to save anyones life that my life was no better and that if it came to my life or his he chose his now that hurt becouse i married him and that doesnt make me feel protected or loved " my lifes no more better than anothers" i understand that but were married its supposed to be us for eachother right.. ok well im pissed and hurt and wanted to see how yall would feel every woman wants to feel protected and safe right? guess i better go get some self defense classes becouse its me alone against the world!
2007-10-26 01:36:13 · 27 answers · asked by misty l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs some sensitivity training. I think I would be more upset about the "leaving me" statement than the die for me statement.
2007-10-26 01:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by J E 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what a person says after watching a movie sitting at home may and probably would have no bearing upon what a person would actually do in a situation where a life is at stake because it is easy to try to analyze a situation when there is time to think but not when a situation is actually happening. If it came down to it, he may indeed give his life for you or he may run and only time would tell that.
You should get the self defense classes though for your own benefit. Not that he would do anything, but in two high profile murders by spouses that come to mind, Scott Petterson, and Stephen Grant killing their wives, had the wives had self defense lessons they could have protected themselves there and would be alive today, and self defense might save your life on the street one day as well.
2007-10-26 02:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who makes his wife feel insecure and threatened is a sorry excuse for a husband and a fool.
The sad truth of this matter is that your husband doesn't love you the way that he should, but you probably knew that. His words have now changed that from being a 'feeling' that you might have had, into undeniable truth. Being a good husband requires sacrifice --- a willingness to put yourself aside for the sake of your wife. I'm truly sorry that you don't have a man who is willing to do that. I'm sure that your husband will never understand how much he has hurt you, and he'll never be able to figure out why you'll end up being cold towards him.
My wife is the most important person in the world to me. I would protect her and save her life even if it meant losing mine.
2007-10-26 02:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has to be so immature if he could say something like that to his wife! That's ridiculous!
Well I would confront him and start by saying "that was very immature and rude and it really upset you". Then say "if you can't say you're going to stay married to your wife till death do us part and you don't want me to think you will save my life, protect me and make me feel special, etc. then you're the one with the problem! You married me! Why the hell did you marry a woman that you want to disrespect? Why the hell did I get married if you don't know how to love a woman? Only men know how to treat a woman and make her feel happy, special and very protected, so why aren't you acting like a man? Maybe I made the mistake".
Do not put up with anything you don't like about your husband! Don't just walk away when he makes stupid comments, or he upsets you in any way, because it will only get worse and he will never respect you!
Get some self respect, pride, dignity and value and make sure he always knows that he is luckiest man on this planet, because he married you! Never let him make you feel insecure. Tell him he's a loser when he talks like an immature baby and YOU WILL ONLY STAY MARRIED TO A MAN!!!
2007-10-26 02:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked him, and he was honest! So although you disagree, don't be upset that he answered a question you asked. The fact that you even asked a question like that signals to me that you already felt that way, and that he shows you that in other aspects of your life. So get down to the bottom of that vs staying on the surface and picking the scab! But to be honest, he is human, he is entitled to be fearful too, even if he would have said that he would save you, that doesn't mean that when the time came that he would. People freeze up, people panic, people do all sorts of things in that situation. and it has nothing to do with you, or anyone else. It has to do with the fact that they are human, and not everybody can be the hero. Some people are just ordinary, which is perfectly okay!
2007-10-26 02:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think any logical thinking person would assume that, yes he would save you but only if you were savable. The fact that she ran up the stairs showed that she is kind and wants no child to die if she could help it. MOST mothers would save a child. Now the fact that the room was completely engulfed with "zombies" would of course change any ones thoughts on the situation. If, as she was obviously, UN-save able any rational thinking parent would think of their own children above any one else. If he ran out to save his wife in that one particular situation they would have both died. And the fact that she wouldn't leave the child is another issue. He could barely save himself let alone 2 other people. I would save my husband but if it meant killing myself in the process and not seeing my children ever again. I would leave him. It makes no sense for 2 people to die. Its like trying to pull the titanic up from the bottom of the ocean by your self. Well its just not logical even though you want to save your husband/wife.
2007-10-26 02:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it hurt your feelings? He pointed out that he would try to save anyone, no matter who... That means he has a kind heart. Now, he was just being honest about saving his own skin. Most humans would. I honestly can't say for sure I would trade my life for my husband's. I can of course state with 110% that I would for my kids. I guess it all depends. I would try everything in my power to save my husband, but when it comes down to it, our kids need to be taken care of.
You're not alone in this world, you have a partner. Does that mean that he should have to rescue you out of every little thing? No. You should know basics to defend yourself, especially because you both aren't always together. Don;t be pissed or hurt, he actually gave you an honest answer. Be proud of that. Besides... would you rather he lie to you and say what you want to hear?
2007-10-26 01:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Er, . . .uh, . . . DEFINITELY wrong answers. As his wife, you are suppose to be numero uno no matter what. If two lives were at the same risk, would he save you first, or try to save both of you, and ending up loosing one? When you asked your husband these questions, was he distracted? Are there other issues going on between you two? And I'm curious why you would even ask the question, which leads me to believe you suspected this answer . . . . . Honestly, just go talk to him and get it resolved.
2007-10-26 03:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by S S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me that i'm starting to be older... yet is has little or no to do with my husband. I in simple terms in simple terms omit the days even as i ought to positioned on some thing i wanted with no need to imagine how my butt seems in it or maybe as i ought to go away the homestead without makeup and in no way even observe it. i'm pleased with my seems, it really is in simple terms i'm starting to be older, and there is not any escaping it. the international is done of pleasing youthful women, and that i'm grateful that my marriage isn't in accordance with seems. i imagine it really is in simple terms organic to get excitement from searching at pleasing human beings - yet to carry a lengthy-time period courting jointly, there must be some thing more suitable significant there than actual attractiveness.
2016-10-23 00:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big deal. that is a hypothetical question. i am sure when it comes down to it, he will do different. guys say a lot of things they don't mean and sometimes, to their defense, they don't know it. my guy and i have seen other guys do the same, totally does the opposite of what he says. he thinks he could not care about you that much to want to protect you but the truth is he does and would. he is just to immature to let you know this. guys suck sometimes when it comes to having them share those emotions with us ya know.
and to answer you question, yes most woman want to think that a guy would protect them and most woman need to feel safe with a guy. it is romantic.
2007-10-26 02:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that does make you feel like you are not the 'team' you thought you were. Even though nothing like that is likely to happen, he could have at least told you what you wanted to hear. That you have each others back.
Bide your time dear, you will get the opportunity to give it back to him. Remember tho, it should be done jokingly, not with malice.
2007-10-26 02:14:36 · answer #11 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋