How can we discourage single women to get entangled with an extramarital affairs with a married man?

Question

Family's stability is very crucial for a person's security, but its adversely affected by extramarital relationships. I don't want to judge people, particularly women who as mistresses have contributed greatly to the erosion of the marital commitments to stay together and work out any differences and conflicts. With whom do we start, is it with the woman (mistresses) or the man (philandering husband)? and how?

Answer 1

Both parties are to blame, but I don't believe that there is going to be a simple solution to the question. I think that we have to start from a much deeper place, for the women we have to encourage the to get their self esteem up. No matter what they say I firmly believe that mistresses have an esteem problem. Why else would you allow yourself to be second? And for the husbands I think they need to communicate to their wife what their needs are and give her a chance to fill them. Instead of one assuming she should know, and 2 being so ready to seek that instant gratification outside the marriage. We have to make sure our mate is someone that is capable of being PRESENT-physically and EMOTIONALLY in the relationship before we say I do!

Answer 2

I think more times that not that it is the philandering husband. I mean he lies or leans on another woman... How many times do you hear that the woman though the wife was dead, divorce was final or they are separated and getting a divorce? Think about it. Now, I'm not saying it is JUST his fault, because it takes two to tango... And there are those women that actively pursue a married man.

So in reality, until we can eliminate either one, meaning the woman that pursues and the husband that lies... We are going to have this problem.... Then, what about the cheating wives???? I don't see them in your question. I think they are just as much scum as the others... So, basically until we get rid of the single PERSON that pursues a married PERSON, and get rid of the lying SPOUSE, we'll still see this issue.

Answer 3

1. This should start by teaching children who are future adults the difference of right and wrong, beginning when they are young. This teaching should raise up mature adults who are faithful to their spouse. This includes keeping children away from questionable TV shows and questionable music that promotes having an affair.

2. Basically, if a married man gives in to a single woman, it's his fault, not the single woman's fault. He has the power to say no, he has the power to go to his superiors to have her stop hitting on him if she continues. If he does not go to his superiors he enjoys the woman hitting on him, which is cheating.

3. If a married man stares at, flirts w/, has breakfast lunch or dinner with, emails (as well as all other computer contact), texts, telephones... a woman who is not his wife, he is basically saying, "I am available for extra marital fun".

It all boils down to the man saying no, and the man not doing things that would give a lady the idea that he has the hots for her...and that's the truth.

PS... to the lady that blames the wife, the man should speak to his wife about whatever the problem is instead of telling another lady about his wife then sleeping w/ the lady! fooey...

Answer 4

The problem is bigger than what meets the eye. I would say we start with the Men, cos our Men are the ones with big eyes looking at single Women and leaving their wives at home. If men started by sticking to their partners then this whole thing would end. The single women would remain single for the rest of their lives. Men must learn to control their feelings and not claim that they were seduced by these single women a man can never be raped by a Woman unless he wants voluntarily to sleep with this woman. The bottom line is that Men are in control and only them can stop these extramarital affairs.

Answer 5

It seems to me that the good moral values we are taught are viewed as "boring" and people get entangled in affairs because it seems "exciting". What they don't realize is that it is also selfish. Then if marriages don't seem to work out instead of working on it and doing whatever they can to save the marriage it seems easier for a "do over", which ends up hurting everyone in the end. Sometimes I think society is going to hell in a handcart, if you know what I mean. So my answer, is that it should start with education and be reinforced by example. It starts young.

Answer 6

First of all the woman are not responsible for your husbands wondering eyes you need to address your husband on these issues instead of the mistress she only goes by what a man tells her. come straight out and let the man know that you will not tolerate his behavior.

You don't have to try and discourage single woman on how not to date a married man because if he is truthful to the woman in her heart she knows right from wrong it is up to her to do what is right.

Answer 7

Are you kidding??????This is new?????? And you say you don't want to judge , but in your next breath you degrade and throw negative , unsubstantiated comments at women and particularly mistresses?????? What group of nuts do you work for or with?????? Who is the ""WE""???????

What planet are you from? I would never want to spend 1 red cent of my vacation money there.

Answer 8

If the husband feels a connection to his wife and is totally satisfied at home, he won't stray. Problem is, too many wives think their husband's needs aren't that important. When someone else comes along who wants to make hubby happy, he gives in, or jumps in, however the case may be.

Answer 9

I don't think you can. If we all learned from other people's mistakes, we'd all be perfect by now.

A woman attracted to and having an affair with a married man, is......attracted to a guy that CHEATS on his wife!! Hello!! There's no future in that. But they do it anyway.

And how many women begin conversations with, "I know I shouldn't be involved with this guy, but...."

And how many women are DEAD SET against sleeping with a married man....until....they find themselves in an affair with a married man, then it's okay.

If we learned from other people's mistakes, affairs would not happen, teenagers wouldn't drink, people would do drugs, people wouldn't get DUI's, etc....

Doesn't mean we can't try. I still try to save every troubled marriage I can. I try to talk my male friend from cheating and my single female friends from getting involved with married people. There is always hope.

Answer 10

Here's the thing.

When I was married, not a single woman ever approached me even suggesting the idea of hooking up for some kind of on-the-side relationship.

It, therefore, seems to me that it is up to the married person (male or female) to honor their marriage vows. If he/she isn't out there flirting, he or she will not end up betraying the marriage vows.