My neighbour recently had a baby and now I've discovered my husband has paid several cheques to her in the last couple of months. Her husband left her about 4 months ago and had a fight with my husband in our garden. My husband says he hit him because of the football score that day, I know he can get quite heated on match days so did not read too much into this. When I asked my husband about the cheques, he said he just felt sorry for her. I even offered to look after the baby as my husband wanted to take her out for the night to cheer her up. Am I being naive?
2007-10-26 00:03:33 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has always been close to her though and part of me believes that he just wants to help her. She is all alone with her new baby after all.
2007-10-26 00:14:05 · update #1
Honey u sound like a soft wonderfull caring but naive person. Shame on your husband to treat u so badly. Tell him that his little missy could not keep her mouth shut and someone told u that she said that the two of them are an item and created a child together. Also trust your gut
2007-10-26 00:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, what a terrible spot your in, I think deep down you are being naieve, but only because you dont want to believe what is happening, you sound a kind hearted really gentle person, and the nasties of this world will always use you and your gullability, you cant toughen up over night, its not possible, so suggest to your husband that all 3 of you go out, then if he makes an excuse, be a bit suspect, if he say's yes, then go, you must, watch their body language, if they keep looking at one another, if their a bit touchy feely as well, you must listen to your head, and not your heart, if your husband gave her money, why not discuss it with you first, there would have been no harm in that, I so hope I am wrong, for your sake, but play this carefull, and protect you and your really nice character, I wish you so much luck and happiness, be strong now, best wishes Janxx
2007-10-26 04:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by jwhot14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.He's being paying her money over the last couple of months, which you've just discovered. (So, he didn't tell you that your family's money was going towards supporting her. Why?).
2.Her husband fought with him in your garden and left her. (So, her husband was angry enough with him to hit him before he moved out. Why?).
3.He wants to take her out for the night to cheer her up. (So, he wants to be alone with her. Why?)
Either your husband is a saint or a sinner. Somehow, the halo doesn't seem to fit. Let's hope the child isn't his as well.
I think you need to talk to your neighbour's husband, your neighbour, and also the man you are married to.
Good luck.
2007-10-26 02:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you're being naive. What you think is going on is going on. This woman is vulnerable and lonely, a recipe for an affair with your husband. You should have taken her out not your husband. Where is your common sense at? You need to put your foot down if it's not to late. Never allow a hurt/lonely woman around your man. I rather have a **** around my man then a lonely woman. I say that because a **** will never be lonely and she always has men lined up. A lonely woman will settle for any/any body's man.
2007-10-26 01:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by KSR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know already love. Of course you are being naive !!! Demand the truth and if he wont tell tell him to leave. My first husband did the same - was even in bed with my neighbour when I went into Labour. You can guarantee that all the other neighbours already know and are wondering why you put up with it. You're worth more than this - get it sorted. Good luck xxx
2007-10-26 00:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you should worry, this isn't healthy. It doesn't seem right that your husband would be taking out your newly single mother neighbor while you watch her newborn child. Is that child your husbands? Are you sure? Is that woman looking at your husband for comfort? If you answered yes to this last question then you need to end this and end this fast your going to be the newly single.
2007-10-26 00:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has my husband been sleeping with my neighbour?
2014-12-15 03:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were gonna babysit so he could take her out ? NO ! I think if he didnt discuss helping her that this is rather odd.. That is something he should have discussed with you. Does he normally go around supporting single mothers ? This just isnt normal. Yes you are naive. I think its time to chat with the neighbor and find out the truth regarding your husband and her... I think baby is his and thats why he got hit and her husband left. Try to contact her hubby, he will be the honest one.
2007-10-26 00:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is there any way to contact her husband? perhaps he knows about the affair if there is one... does he come around to the house? talk to him if you can... if not, you need to tell husband the money has to stop going to her... it's your money too... tell him you will divorce if it does not stop... perhaps he will finally speak up then, and if there is an affair, divorce, girl... your husband is a liar and a cheat... good luck... your husband wanted to take her out? ugh, why didn't you all go and get a sitter for the baby? sigh... I believe he's up to no good... get to the bottom of this, and don't sleep w/ husband, you need to find out the truth!
2007-10-26 00:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I cannot believe how naive you are being!? Why would you offer to babysit for her and let your husband take her out!? And why are you ok with the fact that he is giving her money because he feels sorry for her!? Honey, they are blatantly flaunting their affair and you are letting them get away with it! If you want to try and work through this I suggest you talk to your husband and ask him why he is sleeping with her. And move house. Fast.
2007-10-26 00:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋