Our son has a friend who comes over all the time. Our son invites his friend to golf with him and toss around the football. His friends parents have always seemed odd, but yesterday, our sons friend told our son that his parents do not like our son and that the only reason that they let him come over is that our son is inviting their son to play golf. They will not let him do anything else with our son. Of course you can imagine this upset our son (who is only 12) and he was bummed... most people (especially parents) adore our son. Do we ask them why they don't like him or do we ignore it? We don't want to ruin the little opportunity they already have to hang out but at the same time, we want to protect our son and his disappointment of wondering what he has done that make them not like him so much.
2007-10-25 21:04:33 · 19 answers · asked by florida_sassy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would ask them if they can't or won't answer you then tell them that their child is no longer welcome in your home.It could be a miss understanding but this can be a life experience for your son about people who use others in my opinion if my son is not good enough for the other child to be with at other times then the friendship is going no where.
2007-10-25 21:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is really rude of them. I'm sure it makes you wonder why they don't like your son.
Are the boys friends or do you get the impression that the boy is using your son?
You could go one of two ways. Either ignore it and not let your son hang out with him anymore or invite the parents over for dinner. I know both seem extreme but based on your instincts, you will know which is more fitting.
If you're curious about why the parents feel this way, you can be casual and say, "Oh, the boys have been spending so much time together, we just wanted to get to know you two a little more." Or something to that affect. Then maybe you can get the scoop yourselves rather than using your son to figure it out. This could make explaining the situation to your son better (if they give any hint as to why they may not like him).
And of course, ignoring them and giving them a big F.you by not taking their son out to play golf would get the point across that you're not going to let your child be walked on by two weirdos.
2007-10-25 21:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It could just be your son bragging (you know how boys are - they say stuff happened that didn't) showing off his bravado for his friend - yeah, man, I got a cute girl in the house and I'm getting some of that - Think about it before you accuse anyone of anything. Keep VERY close tabs on the situation and see what happens - you may find you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
2016-04-10 06:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite them over for coffee one afternoon and make small talk and gradually work your way towards the subject. You don't want to seem paranoid about it. Remember too, that kids will be kids and your sons friend may have misinterpreted a statement or heard wrong. But if it does turn out to be true just explain to your son that it was no fault of his and some people in this world make bad decisions (i.e., his friend's parents).
2007-10-25 21:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Crocodile Dundee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could invite your sons friends parents over to a bbq and try to work out what kind of people they are. It sounds like they could be users if they only let their kid hang out with yours for certain things that maybe they cant afford to do? Also encourage your son to have other friends so if this friendship ceases he will still have a strong group of friends.
2007-10-25 21:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by opal 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think you should ignore it. it's understandable that you would feel protective, but you have to let your son experience situations like this so that he can learn to maturely come to terms with other people not liking him sometimes. it's situations like these that make people. if you baby him all the time and are always on the look out to make every situation better for him, then he'll miss out on making decions and the experiences.
also, i'm sure that they will see how good your son is. just don't let it get to you or to him either. let him be a child and hopefully they'll see that they're wrong. :)
im 18 and i feel that my parents have sorta spoilt me too much and have been over protective. i wish they hadnt been tho.
2007-10-25 21:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by 1080 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ask your sons friends parents just to clear things up
2007-10-25 23:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask your son not to go round to visit . and just ignore the whole thing .. your son has a friend .and the parents of the friend is not included in the friendship.. it happens ..
There are parents who cant see further then their noses .
to be honest .not a good parents..
2007-10-25 21:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's his friendship, he's old enough to handle it on his own. Advise him to ask the parents himself if he has offended them. It will be a valuable learning experience for him to find out why and to try to get in their good graces. Of course keep the communication open with your son to monitor the situation.
2007-10-25 21:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by Oxl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
UMMMM, I would ignore it, and their would be less and less opportunity for their son to play Golf with your son, until there was none, (get it), chalk them up as "Weird" and move on because, THEY ARE ! Some parents hated me because, their son would get in my car on a sat. night, and return drunk, apparently I was the one holding their son in a head lock, and forcing alcohol down their throats, I was the cause, not there son's drinking habits, it was ME !
2007-10-25 21:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋