im 16 and this girl knew i have a girl friend that i care and love since im 14. we have not sex yet as we thought we're not ready so we're both virgins. this other girl is 18 and she always attend our basketball games even i'm with my GF. she calls me many times a day that i don't answer her anymore since i told her i have a GF and will will not cheat on her. she,s very determine and told me whatever it takes you will be mine, i told her just go to my older bro since he's also 18. she said its you that i like, i know you have a big penis it shows while you play and i like men who are still virgins. should i be scared and my team mates said just go ahead and play with her and dumped her after. i dont know if it correct...whats your thought on this?
2007-10-25 20:18:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
She sounds like a stalker -- trouble is all you will get from even being polite to her. Your penis size is none of her business, and she has a lot of nerve making comments like that. Avoid her if you can; be rude to her if you must.
I had a friend (unhappily married) who was pursued by an admiring woman. She finally threatened to kill herself if he didn't get a divorce and marry her. The man was really unhappy in his marriage and too kind-hearted to want to be the cause of this creep's suicide, so he got a divorce and married the creep. She tried to control every aspect of his life and used her trump card (suicide threat) whenever he showed signs of any kind of independence. She finally ended up in a mental hospital, and he got a divorce after about a year, but it was totally awful for him being controlled and emotionally blackmailed by this woman. Beware of stalkers!
2007-10-26 07:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not sure what to think of a female "cherry picker."
I suppose that it might flattering to be wanted, if she were not so aggresive about it all.
I wonder, is this girl psyco-chick in everyday life? Is she insecure with boys her age? If so, why? Does she need to feel in control, hence younger partner? Does she engage in this type of behavior often? If so, why? Also, if so, does she have a STD?
It sounds like she wants to "poach," you from your younger GF. This is potentially quite painful for your GF. I suppose that you might ask her what she thinks of you having sex outside of the relationship that you and she share. (I would expect a very hurt look from GF if I were you.)
If you decided to abstain from sex because you are not ready for that level in a relationship, then you are not ready for sex with any girl, regardless of age.
It is interresting to find a 16 year old male who actually stops to consider the consequences of having sex. Most would react like your teammates, i.e., get the sex at any cost. Casual sex for males is more socially acceptable by their peers, and more prevalent than casual sex by females.
Lastly, while it is not uncommon to find people your ages who are committed to each other in a relationship, it is uncommon indeed to find one of those relationships still intact and functioning even just a few years later.
I note that the female respondent, above, suggested for many many reasons that you not have sex with this woman. She has applied the common female reasoning that you will not like yourselft if you do. This reasoning, while perfectly valid for her, does not necessarily apply to a male psyche.
2007-10-25 20:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Schtupa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a wide variety of answers here, but i think that one fling with a girl who is going to do this same thing with another guy after she has you once, will hurt you emotionally. She is a user and let her know she is not going to have you anytime. Do not allow yourself to be overwhelmed by her dominant role and agressiveness. Ignore her and if she calls do not answer. When you see her in school, avoid her. Do not allow yourself to be used. Your standards are high and you should stick by your desire to be with your GF. It is not necessary to have sex in HS. I went through HS without it and am glad i did. If i had, had sex in HS i would have destroyed my youth and just about every girl that found out that i was hung like you. i set my standards and said no to any potential sexual advances. i did not allow myself to even be put in this position. Enjoy a good relationship with your GF and keep it clean and simple and your focus on school and a good life will win in the long run.
A one time fling with this girl will destroy your relationship with your GF , and if you care about her, stay focused with her. Sex is not important and will destroy your life and get in the way of a good relationship.
Stick to your standards and say NO.
randy
2007-10-25 22:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by PSW s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definitely don't waste your virginity on that stupid girl. I can see why the other guys would say that but you sound like a special guy. You don't want to be like them trust me. Think about how hurt your gf would be if she found out about this & also any girl that just wants you because they want to have sex is not worth cheating on somebody you love for. You will totally regret it in the end!! I wouldnt worry too much about her she'll give up eventually if you show her how much you dislike her.
2007-10-25 20:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why add drama?
You are going to have lots of opportunities in life to have sex, and you will be faced with temptation a few times. Dont bother... it does more harm than good.
Stay with your girlfriend and tell this other girl to take a hike. If she continues to call, pick up the phone and tell her you are serious that you dont want her to contact you. Sounds like she only wants you because you are a virgin. That spells nothing good.
Also realize that this may be a set up to see if you can be trusted. Dont blow it by having sex with her. You wont like yourself for it.
2007-10-25 20:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her cheating is a bad thing soo just always try to ignore try have more time with her when you see the 18 year old. hold hands with your Gf and stuff. To let her see u dont like her.
2007-10-25 20:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I applaude you by still waiting to have sex and as for this other girl she is stalking you if she does continue to call you or harrass you in anyway call the police and file report on her and if she continues then you can get restraining order against her
2007-10-26 09:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by gregg98133 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stick with your girlfriend this older girl is just playing with you remember if you do decide to experiment your girl will find out and probably be devistated. remain faithfull and become a decent young man with an obviously very nice young lady.
2007-10-25 20:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by chickybabe1371 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋