Now I know this may seem weird but I have a fantasy to see my husband having sex with another woman! Now he thinks he is totally up for it but in his mind he still considers it cheating?? Am I crazy to have this fantasy?? Is it really cheating if I tell him I want him to do it??
2007-10-25 16:40:26 · 29 answers · asked by Kikikins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know of this one woman that did that with her husband and to make a long story short her husband ended up leaving her for the other woman. Kill the fantasy. Its just not worth the risk.
2007-10-25 16:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by lowery44 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tricky one you have one your hands. First of all everyone has their fantasies mind you some weirder than others but thats not the point. A fantasy is just that exactly and if you persist on having your husband do this then you better be able to accept full responsibility for anything that might happen afterwards.
I see two scenarios coming out of this. Both of you getting divorced because you realise that you couldn't handle it happening in real life or you guys become a really kinky couple. Who's to say that it can't work but then again who will be to blame if this after all is your fantasy.
Good luck
2007-10-25 23:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Johny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating. Plus, there is no room for a third person in a marriage, even if it is one night. Yes, you are crazy.
And here is why.
The other woman you are fantasizing about is Not another woman. It's you.
Yes, really.
What you are fantasizing about her doing with your husband are all your insecurities with your own performance.
Yeah, Yeah your good in bed.
But the back of your mind is telling you ( I could be better).
So let me help you out here.
One Halloween (how appropriate) I bought a long vampire wig at the costume shop. It went all the way to my waist. My hair was that long when I first met my husband and he always missed it. I cut it really short after our second child.
Anyway, he comes in and I have long hair, and I could not keep his hands off me.
At the end of the night, I went to take off the wig and he would not let me.
What a wild night!
So do not get another woman, make yourself into another woman. Wigs, clothes, make up, fake accent.
Dress up can be so fun from time to time!
2007-10-25 23:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by rulestheroostwithkindness 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is cheating? Well, the definition of it is to influence or lead by ways of deciet or fraud.
I see no deciet or fraud in this situation. However, if it does happen, just know that it is a fantasy for a reason. Let it stay a fantasy and use it sexually with your husband.
If you do decide to go ahead with it, just remember, fantasy's are not as good as you thought they would turn out to be.
2007-10-26 00:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by jcdunton30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your husband and discuss each others willingness to pursue the fantasy. Ultimately the decision to make the fantasy a reality and then live with the outcome of it are yours and your husbands. Just be open and honest with each other. What works for some does not work for others.
2007-10-26 14:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by sportsfanstl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not crazy if its your fantasy, your entitled to your fantasy and no one can judge. If you and your husband are okay with it have fun and just do you! Now whether its cheating or not is gonna depend on what your personal definition of cheating is! But if you guys have discussed and your both okay with it who cares whether its cheating or not. DO you!
2007-10-25 23:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that as long as everyone involved, especially you, are okay with it and you are present for the whole thing that it is not cheating. He is not being dishonest, or sneaking around behind your back. You are all consenting adults, so it is cool. It is not weird or unusual to want to spice up your sex life, and adding a third or fourth party can be a great way to do that.
2007-10-29 06:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crazy!!!!marriage is sacred,a sacred bond between a man and woman,did the preacher say do u take ur husband and a another woman to be ur husband?NOT!yes it is cheating and why would u want to share!I dont get people!U marry because u want to b with that person for the rest of ur life and because u love them!not to marry and have sex with other people!have u thought about STD's??
2007-10-25 23:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by Don't take life 4 granted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just a ONE TIME fantasy for you, right ? OK, but what if HE wants to have the fantasy OVER AND OVER after the first time? YOU will have set the precedent. Also, what if HIS fantasy in return is to see you do it with ANOTHER GUY ?? Then what?
2007-10-25 23:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by you having this fantasy it means that you are able to separate sex from "love"...that means that in your heart, you dont feel that it would be cheating, as long as it is just sex....if he feels different, dont try to change his mind...that is were the problems will start......100% of the people in the "swinger" lifestyle(which I have been)...believe that as long as BOTH parties are on the same page, there will be no problems. Until he feels differently, dont mention it or try to act on it....leave it as a fantasy....but if he ever changes his mind, there are MANY swing organizations throughout the world that would welcome you. :-)
2007-10-25 23:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by NCNC4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋