But she just got married in begining of July of this year, isn't that called an annullment instead, and how do you get one?
She called me and asking me, I don't know I've been married for 9 years, it's my first marriage. Can someone point us to the right direction?
2007-10-25 16:21:34 · 13 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For anyone who wants more info, her husband lost 200,000 dollar that she saved up on 1 stock, she said she fall out of love with him because of it.
2007-10-25 16:23:17 · update #1
She wants use that money for a house, it's all her hard earn saving.
2007-10-25 16:28:47 · update #2
I don't think that after 6 mos. your sister is eligible for an annulment to get out of the marriage, she would need a divorce. If she is a Roman Catholic Christian, she will need to get an annulment from the church before she is allowed to marry again and still receive the sacraments.
I would suggest that you encourage your sister to get marriage counseling before she decides on a divorce. For her husband to loose $200,000.00 on a stock is amazing to me (hard to believe). You mentioned this in your other question. He would have to pay $200,000 for a stock and then for it to become worth $0 or pay $400,000 and for the stock to drop to half the price it sold for.
The reason I mention this is because if her husband is honest, he was incredibly foolish to have invested so much with no knowledge of the stock market. It also shows lack of caring for your sister because it was her money he lost, not his own.
About your sister, "falling out of love" with her husband because of this, I don't think that that happened. I think that she is very angry with him and because of that, no longer has any loving feelings for him. Anger does that. Generally, I don't think that people should get married just because they, "fell in love". or get divorced because they "fell out of love".
Falling in love is a chemical and hormonal reaction of our bodies. It does not mean the person would make a good husband or wife. To me getting married is a commitment for better or worse. However, I think that there are reasons to divorce a spouse.
What should your sister do? I don't know with the few facts that you supply in your 2 questions. Thats 1 reason that I suggest her and her husband see a good marriage counselor. I am extremely sorry that the $200,000 that your sister saved by hard work and sacrifice, is gone.
May God bless and guide your and your sister.
2007-10-25 19:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kind of a hard one.. she shouldnt get divorced so quick, but then again, someone shouldnt be wasting her money like that especially that amount. i would see what the church would have to say. I think it is called an anullment. Go to your local courthouse and ask them what she can do. She might have to go to court to prove that she needs a divorce/annulment. I've only been married a year , so i'mnot sure how any of it works out. but i hope i was a little helpful.
2007-10-25 16:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by lilmomma86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think she needs to look at the bigger picture. Does he have a serious problem with money or did he just loose at an investment? I can understand if she feels she can't trust him if that is the problem then seek therapy to see if that can help first. If not then divorce. There are certain requirements for an annulment. You would have to speak to an attorney.
2007-10-25 16:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by KM 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is for better or worse, richer or poorer. But see a lawyer. I think if the marriage was consummated, she can't get an annulment.
2007-10-25 16:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's sad that she all of a sudden decided she was going to think about the money she lost instead of him. Marriage has its ups and downs. Wonder if she would have thought the same of him if he had gambled or drank it away? Oh well. Life is life. Move on.....
2007-10-25 16:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by IDoToo 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
1) She shouldn't have let him invest it if she wasn't prepared to lose it. That's what stocks do most of the time, lose. Its half her own fault.
2) Have her call a lawyer. Laws may be different in each state.
2007-10-25 16:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know the situation, but I don't think she's shallow. If he lost all that money, it shows a lack of respect on his part.
2007-10-25 16:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She fell out of love with the $200 grand, not the guy.
Well, she probably needs to contact a family law attorney for advice. Yes she'd go thru an anullment.
It's a shame she's so greedy.
2007-10-25 16:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋
You married your sister?
j/k.......
How the h*ll could she LET him take her life savings and blow it?!?!?!?!
She should have had that somewhere he wouldn't even know about it!!
**********************************************************************
Did he know about this money BEFORE they got married? Because if he did, then it sounds like HIS love was for her MONEY, not for her.
and THAT is FRAUD!
2007-10-25 16:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
What a superficial person. Didn't she vow to stay with him for richer or for poorer? Tell her that it is too soon to quit. She needs to try again.
2007-10-25 16:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Grandpa S 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋