son having difficult time and had been a a few rough years being tossed from one counseler to another,He is a beatiful child-who can be so loving and sweet-but has severe anger/behavior problems.Finally this week after waiting for an appt with a child psychiatrist hes been dx with high functioning autism and aspbergers syndrome-so then the ever needy selfish father claims hes coming unglued hearing voices,conversations-animals are biting him that arnt there-damm him couldnt he for even one minute put his son first.Its a ploy.I can watch it-its like watching tv-hes waiting to see if anyone is watching and then acts unusual/out of sorts-we are in the middle of being divorced -i just cant take the lies the stealing the manipulation.ten long years of being told who to speak to.where to go/or not catchiing him in his stories and all he can so is oh well-im done its time-i want more than this-he wont leave the house and unless he threatens physical violence.he likes to lurk stalkfrightenhelp
2007-10-25 16:17:29 · 10 answers · asked by resigned 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually your husband could be really ill and the condition of your child is masking the reality. It's not normal for an adult to behave in the way you describe and the symptoms sound Psychotic/Schizophrenic. Even if he's faking it, that's not normal, adults do not behave like three year olds normally. For the record I've dealt with a son with Schizophrenia and some aspergers, whilst dealing with a brother with severe, psychotic depression and a drink problem in the same house. I became ill for a time with anxiety and depression whilst dealing with them.
It sound as if your capacity to deal with anything more is exhausted. You probably need space and help for yourself, in order to get that you'll need to let go a little with your son, professional help is best, but friends/family can help. There is a way out, but it'll take time. Unless your partner is taking drink/drugs (especially Cannabis), there is some hope. A good doctor will be able to prescribe some meds, that will return him to something more helpful. However Cannabis is a killer for psychotic illness and will override any meds. The stuff you are dealing with is too much for one person. You need external help and deserve it.
For the record, life got much better when I stopped struggling with my son and got an outreach team to deal with him. He's now living on his own and is much better. We got my brother a place in sheltered accommodation, he's got worse, and when he started taking heroin, I made the decision not to take pleading phone calls, life's better now, as the support team will tell me if anything real happens to him. We now don't have to put up with endless pleas for rescue (unspecified, except for money for drink and drugs). The Psych team backed us up and said we shouldn't enable him to behave badly. We live in the UK, and all the support, accommodation and meds are free
2007-10-25 16:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I have to say I wish there was something I could do to help you but I think you should go to somewhere like The Citizens Advice Bureau as they will have a line on someone who can help You personally, you need to do something before you have a problem that stops you yourself functioning [do not leave it another day] and once again, sorry I cannot do more.
2007-10-25 16:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by One life. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you are frustrated by the way you are writing but I am having a hard time following your statement/question. Husband hearing voices and so on or son? (help for a six and what?)
2007-10-25 16:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by KM 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is still living in the house while you are in the middle of a divorce? Have him evicted. You shouldn't have to put up with all that crap. Forgive me if I am wrong. Your paragraph is really hard to read.
2007-10-25 16:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think aspergers syndrome can be diagnosed without a battery of testing which is very involved..i hope the DX is a mistake.
just my two cents...
meanwhile, your husband is a goofball. too bad you didn't get out long time ago.
2007-10-25 16:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he wont leave then you must do so.. its up to you to protect your son.. he don't need that kind of confusion going on anyway.. go to family or friends or a shelter but go.. good luck
2007-10-25 16:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would just let him know your no longer happy and leave him and try to help your son i have always been told to put your kids first
2007-10-25 16:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by rebelmom 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Use less adjectives, more periods, and the spell check, then resubmit your question and maybe I will understand you.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 16:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You chose him. You should go and get the degree, since you seem to have all the answers.
2007-10-25 16:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Indeed convinient!
Time to take your boy and run girl!
2007-10-25 16:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Judo Chop 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋