He just won't talk. He doesn't even say hello. It is like pulling teeth to get him to look at me. And if I do get him to say anything he tells me he is pissed at everything and is getting ready to snap He says I haven't done anything wrong, then he turns around and says he keeps finding small things I do that piss him off. Like doing my schoolwork when he is near. Then he just won't say anything until we get ready for bed. But he will sit there and text someone. And he always hides it even when I only see it out of the corner of my eye. He keeps thinking I am gonna look over his shoulder, when I respect him more than that. And as for space he normally is out every other night until 2 or 3 am and gets mad when I ask.
2007-10-25 16:15:15 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a real jerk and it doesn't seem to be your fault so please don't blame yourself. I mean he stays out till 2am and apparently spends more time with his friends than you,. It sounds like both of you have been married a few years or less, I find alot of guys aren't really committed to a marriage and don't understand what it takes. He can't give up his bachelor lifestyle. If he pays more attention to his friends than you and won't listen to you about it it's hard what to say to do, you can't give him a curfew but hopefully he would listen if you tell him you'd like him to spend more time with you, if not maybe you should break-up, I mean I know it's a hard thing to do but I've known people who have had miserable marriages for 25 years, you seem nice and deserve a better guy than that, you can e-mail me if you have any more questions
2007-10-25 16:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by B B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there. I believe he is having an affair. As typical of most males (notice I said most, not all) He is doing things to make you mad so YOU will end the marriage. Him not talking, staying out half the night, texting in front of you are all ploys. Some men cannot or will not end the relationship so therefore they cannot be the blame of the end. Why do they do it, who knows but I am 52 years old and I have seen this more often than not with myself and my friends. Ever notice how men tend to kill their wives rather than divorce them where as women will just leave. I guess they just don't like blame. Run girl, run!! You deserve so much better.
2007-10-25 23:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by doodlebug 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont know what he is doing but it definently sounds sketchy. Whatever he is doing, he is not being respectful to you at all. You definently need to pull him aside and tell him that there is a big problem in your marriage and talk about it. Try to get to the root of it all, and figure out why he is being so angry and distant. Dont tell him any assumptions of cheating though, because that might just set him on fire. Instead, touch on how his behavior is making you feel, and discuss what measures to take in order to mend or end this relationship.
2007-10-25 23:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sideway Sunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned this from an old "dutch" women known for straighting out a few young marriages.
I hope your marriage is'nt wrapped around the axles because you don't have 15 minutes to devote to your husband at the end of the day.
Most real man will bust butt for 12-hours a day plus for their family just like a good mule, but you cut off their 15-minutes of fun time at night and given some time you end up turning that mule into a real jack-***.
Sounds like your man is acting like a jack-***. Try a morning and evening dose and I bet you he comes around in a few days.
2007-10-26 00:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this one you can figure out on your own. Look into the picture, read your comment as a reader and not the person that is in the picture. You know what you have to do, you don't need others to tell you what to do. Good Luck hun, I know its tough I've been there :) take care!
2007-10-25 23:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to discourage you, but the fact that he is constantly finding things that "anger" him about you.....that is a surefire sign that he is on his way out of the relationship.
The second clue is this texting and hiding thing.
He is doing something secretive.
I am sorry....I see you do care about him, but he doesn't seem to care about you.
Do you have kids together? No? Then get out of the marriage, and get yourself a relationship where you are LOVED.
That is not a happy way of life for you.
All the best to you.
2007-10-25 23:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by gg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd ditch his a*s. I'm sure that being passive-agressive is just one of many issues this guy has. If you're married to someone who talks to his friends, but not his wife, and stays out until 2 or 3 am, it's time to heave-ho. He's just another case of arrested development.
2007-10-25 23:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break it to you, but it sounds like he's having an affair. If he's getting pissed off when you ask him why he's out until 2 or 3 in the morning, it isn't his male freinds he's out with.
And sorry, but doodlebug730's answer below is VERY offensive. It's not most males who do what her husband appears to be doing; it is very few. And to even suggest that men kill their wives vs. divorcing them is totally outlandish, and I don't care how long you've been around.
2007-10-25 23:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by TheOnlyBeldin 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the spark has gone out of your marriage and he is having an affair. Ask him to go with you to a marriage counselor and if he refuses, file for a divorce.
2007-10-25 23:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds more like a sullen teenager then a husband. He is mentally abusing you. Get some counseling so you can figure out why you tolerate this.
2007-10-25 23:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋