A baby in college?

Question

I want to have a baby with someone i truly love. And is it good to be pregnant while in college?

I have found my guy and we're ment to be (my friends would say so..) but...there are things going on at the moment.
My guy doesnt want me to go out and have sex quite yet (no he's NOT my boyfriend, but he cares). He loves me.
Idk. Shall i wait for him, or keep looking for others. My guy (im not dating) has a girlfriend at the moment.

Would it be hard to be pregnant while in college?

Answer 1

Having a child in college is a bad idea. It can mess a lot of things up.

Its best to honestly wait until your finished and married. You'd regret TTC in college. Your education is very important and raising a kid is VERY EXPENSIVE and VERY time consuming. You don't have time or money for that if you're in college. Education comes first.

Just wait :)

Answer 2

I am in university at the moment, which is like the equivalent of college in my country. I am about 6 months pregnant and just in exams at the moment, about 2 more weeks and I will be finished. I will tell you that being pregnant while you are studying is really hard. I don't have a job, and just the commute to my campus and keeping up with my work alone has been quite difficult for me personally.
You usually get really tired while you are pregnant, and sitting in a chair all day studying for your exams doesn't do your back alot of good. You need to take breaks frequently. I will be taking a whole year off next year to spend quality time with my bubs. I was lucky that my timing was good so that I was finished before I got really big. But the early stages were hard especially with morning sickness.
It is doable but will will make everything harder. It is not something to be taken lightly, you need to think about it long and hard about what you are about to do.
Plus it doesn't sound like the person you want to do this with is in a good place right now. If anything you should try and make sure the person you are going to do this with is in a sturdy long lasting relationship with you, if nothing else. It will not be easy being a single mother in college.

Its your life, your decision, but please don't walk into this lightly. Think long and hard about what you are going to do, it is a lifetime committment to your child, and in most cases the father too, you will always share that common link.
Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

I'm in college and pregnant. I'll say it's not a good thing. I get looks from other students. Some of them aren't good looks either. The stress of being pregnant and not knowing what to expect during pregnancy combined with stress from classes, mid-terms etc is not good either. When the baby comes, it'll be even more stressful because you'll have to worry not only about yourself but the baby too. I actually plan on taking my Spring semester off, that is when my baby is due.

It would also be easier if you're married or have a partner who is committed to you. It's always nice to have someone there to support you. I know I always have my husband to vent to.

As for your guy, I think you should keep your eyes out for others. It's kind of weird how he loves you but he has a girlfriend. It makes me wonder if he doesn't love his girlfriend more than he loves you. Or if his love for you is different than the love he has for his girlfriend. You should talk to him, and see what he has to say. If he still wants you to wait, start looking for a different guy, and keep your current guy as a back up.

Answer 4

I wouldn't advise it. I had to stop college to move back home b/c I was always sick & didn't know if I would pass out or something with no one there to take me to a hospital. All of my family including my bf lived 2 hours away. I'm pregnant now & wouldn't change it for the world, but wish I would've been more cautious before it happened. So think about it before u do it. U could have a complicated pregnancy & be sick & miss class alot or the baby may come in the middle of the semester or anything like that. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

You might think it is ment to be, but if he has a gf, he doesn't think that way. Don't limit yourself by waiting on something that might never come to be. And if he doesn't want you out looking, but it is ok for him to have someone else, he really doesn't sound like "the one" You just happen to be something different to him... On the college question... Yes it would be hard to have a baby in college, but then again, unless you are super rich and have no worries in the world, no time is the perfect time. Babies come when they are suppose to whether you are "ready" or not. But I would say, don't have one with him... not now...

Answer 6

OK...let me get this straight. You have a "guy"friend who dating someone else but you're sure "he's the one" and that you'll be togehter someday so you want to have a baby with him? AND you are in college? With all that reasoning how did you get into college? You're nuts! Having a baby by yourself is hard enough. I had my first while I was in my last year of college (I was already married.) and it was not easy. You are so tired, you can't concentrate worth a dang, you don't have a desire to study anymore because you want to sleep or play with your baby. What do you plan on doing with the child while you are in classes or studying for finals? How do you expect to pay for childcare? You need to really think out the more important question before you decide you want a baby.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It would be really hard on you, and completely unfair to your child. I'm not saying that people that already have kids and are in college should just go and get rid of them or somthing, but honestly you should wait untill you are out of college and have a job. Also you "guy" doesn't sound very stable. Again I'm not saying that you can't have a child by yourself, but it is better for the child to have two stable parents.

Answer 9

well if he has a girlfriend it wouldn't be fair of you to get pregnant to him... Maybe you should tell him how you feel about him (I wouldn't mention the whole baby thing straight away though) and then he can tell you honestly if there is any chance of you two being together. If he says no, then move on. But if he says yes, well he'll have to break up with his girlfriend to prove he's serious.

Answer 10

There's no harm in waiting a few years to see how things pan out. Yes, he may be the right guy for you- but if you don't know his parenting style, his level of commitment, etc. it's better to wait. And I hate to sound like a stuffy traditionalist here, but if you have the choice, it's better for kids to be conceived in a marriage.
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