Then they get so mad at their spouse when he say's he's not interested in starting a family. They could still have sex of course, but kids is just not something he wants.
The women gets so angry with him and tells him how he's cold hearted and selfish,etc.
2007-10-25 15:33:57 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
its a biological and societal pressure that comes up sometimes and increases as career dreams fade
2007-10-25 15:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Not all women want to have kids, I know of a few girls that are in serious relationships and don't want kids yet. Probably because they are not ready.
With myself, my hubby wanted to start trying for a baby in the first months that we were together....5 years later we had one =)
I'd say that in this case the male isn't ready but the female is. I don't think that's being cold hearted or selfish. If anything she's the one being cold hearted and selfish for making him feel bad about it.
2007-10-25 15:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Huh? "Always" want to have kids? I never did, and that never changed. Increasingly, couples are electing not to raise a family. The reasons for this are complex, and unique in each case.
Get with the programme.
EDIT; Wendy
I sometimes think couples give more thought to which vacuum cleaner to buy. And yes, people like this - who don't do the necessary homework in advance - end up divorced.
2007-10-25 17:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a personal problem. You should have worked that out before you got married.
I'm a woman and I do not want kids. What you're doing is called a stereotype, or a sweeping generalization.
Women don't "always" want to have kids. I'm with a man who would give his left testicle if I'd have his baby, but I'm not having kids. He also pressures me to get married, and I don't want to do that either.
Why do men always want to marry women who don't want the same things they want? Sounds silly, doesn't it? Kinda like your question.
So there.
2007-10-25 15:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger R 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Children are something to be happy about, I would have like 5 if the world didn't have an over population issue, so I'm aiming for 2-3. I love kids, they are hard to manage, but it's so rewarding to know that you made them who they are.
2007-10-25 15:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Saadz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would people with such conflicting life goals get married in the first place? Seriously people, you have to have love, of course, but if two people can't see eye to eye on something this important, why did they get together in the first place? Is THIS why divorce is prevalent? People don't even know each other, or what they want out of life, before they get married.
2007-10-25 17:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by wendy g 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not all women want kids. Your problem is you got married before discussing that issue. Considering many people get married for the purposes of breeding that's a pretty important thing to discuss before hand.
2007-10-25 15:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lesley 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 17:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can tell you, there are just as many men who want kids as women. i know a woman whose boyfriend is very unsatisfied with the fact that she is in no way interested in kids. in some ways, i think society is harder in general on women who don't want kids, because women are expected to want kids. if they don't, they are viewed as somehow cold or unwomanly. when you suggest all women want kids, you are clearly accepting a gender stereotype based in myth, not in reality. talk to all the women you know; you will find they all have varying values, wants, and needs, just as men do.
2007-10-25 15:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kinz 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
For one thing, WOMEN DO NOT ALWAYS WANT TO HAVE KIDS. You are a presumptive fool for making that assumption. I do not want kids, and I have numerous friends who are not interested in it either. On the reverse end, many men DO WANT TO HAVE KIDS. I suggest you do some significant growing up and work on overcoming your gender stereotypes before you get involved with anyone. Let alone, oh, god forbid, end up with someone who GETS PREGNANT heaven help those children. Second generation to someone who is an underinformed chauvanist.
2007-10-25 15:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sister Lourdes 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Yeah... that's why I always go for (slightly) older men... you tend to be on the same page. 5-8 year difference is best... at my age, any older than that is kind of creepy.
Not that I want kids right now or anything, but when I'm ready (probably in my mid-30's? I don't know), someone who is slightly older will probably be more likely to want kids than someone my own age.
2007-10-25 15:38:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋