Hello my name is sally and i am 19 and wanting to have a baby really bad can you please give me advice?

Answer 1

why would you want a baby so bad when you are still growing up?
A kid is something so precious and so great a responsibility, not to be brought into the world unless everything is almost perfect if you know what I mean.
you should concentrate on your studies or job, become an independent person, enjoy your life and freedom for a while until you are mature enough to think of a serious relationship and only then in common agreement with your partner have a baby.\
Not now. The world is a complicated place to bring kids into it unless all is well defined.
if you have strong sentiments and want to be around kid, why don't you use some free time, spare time and work with orphans, as a volunteer. that way you will know what it means to be an unwanted child and also you can give them all the extra affection you have.
if that is too much and you have no time for this, well get a pet as a compensation. A dog or a cat will fill part of the emotional world you have void now but not represent a danger to your growing up step by step.
good luck and be patient. all comes in the right moment if you wait and work for it.

Answer 2

You need to ask yourself why you want a baby so badly. If its because your are ready to bring a miracle into this world, stay at home on the weekends, and never have the same body as you do now, then you might be ready. If its cause you want someone to need you then you aren't ready. Being 19, I'm guessing you just graduated high school; you probably don't have a good full-time job with benefits; you don't own a house or have a degree and you might not even own your car.

These are all things you need to consider before you decide you want to bring a life into the world.

Answer 3

I had my first at 21. I got pregnant on my honeymoon, and I was perfectly happy with my baby Hannah and my husband Steven. But 18 months later, Taylor came along. Then 24 months after that, it was Maggie and Audrey. And in another 11 monhs, I was holding Lucia. I thought I was done. But you're never done until you stop having sex. Three years after Lucia, I had Jordin. Then India, then Reese. And it's only been 13 1/2 years. I love my babies, but they're alot of work. Let me tell you now that unless you're married and have support from your mother and father, it's not going to be pretty. My husband and I came from big families too. I have 5 sisters (Amanda, Rebekah, Nina, Eva, Laura) and he has 4 sisters (Charlotte, Lucy, Kate, Emma) and 2 brothers (Adam and Grahm). Both my mother, and his parents were and still are right there by our sides helping us be the parents to our kids. You arn't ready. Enjoy your sleep and freedom, and when you're ready to get married and have kids, you'll know it.

Answer 4

i have been with my fiance for 7 years and all my friend are having babies and unfortunatly only one is married with th babies daddy. Everyone thought would be first to have a kid but I became a nanny and she how hard it is. I love my job but its hard work and I LOVE to go home at the end of the day and relax and not having a little one saying mommy get this i want that pick me up, thy cry they poop they never stay still.
Do you like sleeping because u will never get rest. All my friends who have kids say they wish they waited and I am glad I am. JUst wait a little im only 2 years older than u trust me wait.

Answer 5

Get settled in your life. Whatever that means for you. Buy a house, if you can. Make sure you have money saved up. (LOTS) I was 19 and wanted to be pregnant too. I got pregnant. I wish I had waited, because it is such a strain on a relationship to be pregnant, and even more of one to have a baby. It takes over your entire life. Every single aspect. The sleep, the food, the pain, discomfort, the SEX (is nonexistant now...). I miss my young before-pregnancy body. Dont get me wrong, I am more in love with my baby than I could ever imagine. But I really wish we had waited longer.

Answer 6

Offer to watch someone's twins for a week. That will cure it and help out the mother. Trust me, a mom of 16 month old twins I would love to just have someone be able to watch them overnight beside my mom. Even my husbands mom wont do it. Live a life like that for a week. We never expected our first to be 2 firsts and what if you have a retarded child would you be able to haandle that either?

Answer 7

Please wait.
I was 24 with my first child and I felt young.
There were so many things I should of done before having a baby. I adore my three kids and don't regret having them. I just wish I hadn't been in such a hurry.

Think of it this way....would you let a 2 yr old drive your car?
Would you let a first year med student do heart surgery on you?
I am not saying you will totally mess up, I am just saying that you are ahead of yourself.

A baby or a man will never fill you up. You will never define yourself with a child or man. THey are wonderful to add to life, but they can't make you ....you. You are the only one who can do that.

Answer 8

are you married??? college??? or at least a good job??? i think you need to put this whole baby thing on hold. its natural for a woman to want a child-and they say you are never ready but at 19 years old i think you need to settle and find who you are before bringing another life into this world.

Answer 9

wait! Go to school do something you want to do with your life before you have a baby! Babies are a lot of responsiblity and you can't just get up and do anything you want without thinking of how it will effect them. Your young! Have fun with your life.

Answer 10

You are too young. Wait until you are at least married. Wait a few years. You will be more mature, and hopefully better off financially. Raising children is very expensive