should i forgave my husband again? the last time he has the girl pregnant but they abborted it..i'ts been 2 years now we are now separated.. and I meet this guy who is a born again christian also.. I fall in love with him... cause he encourage me that there is still life awaits me inspite of everything.. but is this okey?? I mean he is also separated..IS THIS A CHRISTIAN WAY??and in my place no divorce allowed...PLS! HELP...
2007-10-25 15:23:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does not sound very Christian to me, but I am no expert.
The real question is what can you live with? What will bring peace to your mind?
Search within yourself and you will find the answer. Once you have it, use your strength and follow through with whatever it is.
No book, not even the bible can tell you what is really right for you. If you follow your true feelings, not urges, how could any god hold that against you?
2007-10-25 16:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's o.k. for you to get a divorce once your spouse cheats on you but, you shouldn't be seeing a man that is still married and only separated ! reason is alot of them really but , one is you never know if they will get back together or get a divorce for sure until he is really divorced I wouldn't see him !! they sometimes go back to the wife you know ! being separated doesn't mean anything!! Alot of those that are separated still see each other and mess around together too, like they still have sexual contact with each other even though there not living together ! it happens alot with married couples that are seperated !!! and sometimes they still see other people , so it don't mean a thing !! you should wait to meet a single man or tell him he has to get a divorce first before you can be with him !!
2007-10-25 15:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, aparently they don't teach grammar at Born Again Christian School. I don't care what religion you are. You have a husband who cheats and gets girl pregnant, he's doomed. I'm not religious or anything, but what he's doing is certainly not the Christian way. And, you most certainly do get a divorce. He's not going to change and aparently, adultry is a sin and grounds for divorce. Or, you can just whip your sins away hoping he'll one day see the light...yeah, that ain't gonna happen.
2007-10-25 15:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are married to a cheat and separated then you should get a divorce. Since what he did to you is called infidelity then that is allowed in getting a divorce. Your husband should not be allowed to cheat six times. He could have cheated one time and then taken him back but six different times is a bit too much. Have the life that you deserve to have and be happy.
2007-10-25 15:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a christian too...I love God and I know that He does NOT want any of his children to be unhappy. The bible talks about us as believers not to be unequaly yoked, as in don't be with a non-believer, I think that divorce is right when the other person is obviously NOtT willing to try and it really sounds like he wasn't trying @ all! I'm sorry 2 hear it, but I think divorce is the way to go in your case...Pray about it!
2007-10-25 16:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people get married when they shouldn't have. Your husband does not treat you the way a man should treat his wife: with respect and consideration as an equal partner in the marriage. He's just doing as he pleases...because for him there are no consequences.
I don't know where you live, but you might consider moving and creating a whole new life. It sounds to me like it never was a true marriage to begin with. Sure it was one that was recognized by the secular world, legal and binding, but in your heart - the only place that God really cares about - you are no longer a married woman. Jesus said divorce existed because of the hardness of Man's heart. It is an escape route because we are imperfect and, like any parent who loves a child, God does not discipline His children to inflict misery. Nor does he expect us to inflict misery upon ourselves unless it somehow teaches us something. He only doles out enough hardship upon us that we learn something by it. After that, if the hardship only serves to limit our ability to learn further, then it defeats the whole purpose of living...which is to learn to be wiser, stronger, and more whole. It sounds to me like prolonging this marriage helps no one. Not you, not your husband. You are beating a dead horse. Enabling your husband's cheating by not standing up for yourself doesn't help you, and it certainly doesn't teach him anything positive, does it? He just knows that he's able to treat you (or any woman) with this kind of disrespect and there are no consequences. He needs to learn that it is unacceptable. Sometimes leaving a destructive person is the greatest act of love you can perform. It forces them to reconsider their actions and how they have led them to this point in their lives. This is the first step to change.
Best of luck to you both.
2007-10-25 15:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by intuition897 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though most religions frown on divorce, I don't think God would expect us to lead unhappy lives married to people that do not honor their vows. Though it is divine to forgive, it should not be misinterpreted to mean let this louse of a husband walk all over you and carry on with his whore mongering since he expects forgiveness.
You and your prospective should end your marriages and be together if that is what you want.
2007-10-25 15:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bamboon
2007-10-25 15:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Effu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get a divorce and marry the other guy that makes you happy and that you fell in love with no woman should have to put up with men like this cheating and no respect and i would forgive him but i would move on with my life
2007-10-25 15:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by lil momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you read the bible and are a true christian it says the only way divorce is allowed is if your spouse betrays you. if you think you can make it with a man that constantly cheats stay with him maybe you can work it out.
2007-10-25 15:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by shante 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋