I've been having such horrible days these last couple of days... My boyfriend (who i have been with for the last 4 yrs) has changed in 1 day... sunday he was himself (sweet, caring, there for me) and monday everything just went wrong. he was so distant. he said we needed to talk... and later on that night he told me that he was really stressed, that he hasent been happy at his job for a while, that he needed his space to figure things out, that he felt like he was being pressured into marriage (WHEN IT WAS HIS FREAKING IDEA). and ive been trying to give him his space these couple of days but he is really taking advantage of the situation, he comes home really late, last night he came at 3am! he would never blow me off, or come home so late. he used to always sent me text messages saying i love u through out the day but i dont even get that anymore... i dont know what to do. I love him and i want to work things out, but i cant work things out alone. i need help....
2007-10-25 15:15:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to move on with your own life. You should go out with YOUR friends until 3am and see how he feels about that.
Sounds like he's trying to keep you around without having to make a commitment (so maybe he can keep his selfish options open).
Also, sounds like he's met someone else.
2007-10-25 15:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's using this as an excuse to get out of the house and cheat on you ! What man that is married or comitted to someone is going out at night and staying out late ? He is has to be doing someting !! And if he's never done this before and suddenly he has changed? Thats a sign he could most likely be cheating on you !! Don't put up with what he's doing !! If you do he'll keep treating you like this ! Only you allow what he is doing to you !! so you best stop him now !!! I mean a guy just don't stop doing things he use to do for No reason !! Come on !!!! Wake up !! sorry but this could be the case !! Yea he has really changed !! Go look up some web sites about cheaters or men that cheat the signs of cheating look that up !!! you need too asap !!
2007-10-25 15:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it clearly sounds like your boyfriend's found someone else, but I might be wrong. What you need is to stop trying to hang on. Go out, visit old friends, find a distraction to keep your mind occupied. A man doesn't just "change" from one day to the next, unless he has someone else -or some other interest- and he's decided to go another route with his life. Show him indifference, see how he reacts.
2007-10-25 15:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust your boyfriend?Do you think there could be someone else?What do your instincts tell you?Unusual for someone to change so drastically and so quickly unless there is a catalyst of somekind to cause it...have you had a good,solid heart to heart chat with him?Have you thought of going to visit him unannounced at work?What do your friends think?Good luck...as much as it hurts..the truth is the only thing to live with otherwise it is all worthless...maybe you already know the answer to your question...feeling for you.
2007-10-25 15:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is try to live apart but still see him maybe you just need a break from living together. May be go on a weekend vacation or go stay with a friend for a little while, just so that you can think.
2007-10-25 15:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by misscapula 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you can't work this through alone...
You can ask your boyfrined for some time to chat... let him know how all of this has you feeling. Ask him what he wants to do. Even ask if he wants a trial separation.
If he isn't happy you are not going to be very happy, either.
I think that if you communicate now, things won't be so difficult later.
Take care of YOU. i wish you all the best.
2007-10-25 15:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
lady, he dont' want to married you. secondly, that his is fooling around on you. why out of the clear blue that his job is stressing him out? And this coming in late from work? yeah, right working with another female. I suggest to you to leave him and move on.
2007-10-25 16:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHacking up, sex having kids out of wedlock is not a committment hon, it is a TRIAL.
Sounds like he may have found someone else.
Maybe marriage was his idea because he felt like you were pressuring him into it and he brought it up first so you wouldnt think you were having to pressure him into it?
Then maybe his feelings have changed.
All you can do is wait and see what happens.
2007-10-25 15:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you gave him space?Are you pressuring him after he just mentioned the word marriage.I bet you have done nothing but talk about marriage to him uh?A couple of days is probably not enough time for him.Give him more time.
2007-10-25 15:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him that since he got his space this week you want your space this weekend and go and stay at your friends house all weekend and don't tell him what or where you are at and see what happens from there if he is so worried about getting married move the date to a later one and just allow him to have his time out with the guys good luck hope all goes well
2007-10-25 15:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by christy b 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋