How do i know if he is the right one for me? what questions should i be asking myself? i love him and want things to work out, but i feel very afraid at the same time. My parents are divorced and i'm terrified of having that happen to me. I think another factor in my fear is that although our relatinoship seems to work now, i come from a hispanic background that is different from his american background. our parents are very different...does that matter? any advice is welcomed
2007-10-25 15:04:00 · 12 answers · asked by dontworrybehappy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't let your parents divorce affect your life. there are never any guarantees, got to get rid of fears and not buy trouble when there may be none. u are marrying him not his family, true they do play a part in it, but if he loves u and u feel loved and valued than it has a good chance of working out. everything is great in the beginning, and if u always try to stay in god's will it has a better chance of working out.
2007-10-25 15:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cannot predict in the long term but some things you can ponder.
1. Does he respect you, your parents and your culture? Is is flexible and open minded in terms of trying new experiences ?
2. Do the parents respect each other?
3. Do you get along?
4. What are his or your future plans ( ie career, children, ..etc.).
Finally I think living together is much better test then dating. I say that because unless you live together and face the day to day changes or life and marriage you are not getting a true picture of a marriage...
2007-10-25 15:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by ensoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Background differences really mean nothing.
What matters is are the two of you able to respect each other for EVER. If you both have respect, you will be able to get through anything that life can throw at you.
Love is not always butterflies in the tummy.
Sometimes, love is going to the store at 1am when it is cold and rainy to get cold medicine for them.
Sometimes it is surprising them by cleaning their car with out them knowing you did it.
Sometimes it is keeping your mouth shut when you want to say something, but you know it will not have a positive effect at that time.
And sometimes, it is butterflies in the tummy.
2007-10-25 15:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look im also hispanic and i have to tell you dont think about what his or your parents think your a woman now and hes a man make your own decisions if they dont approve well to bad also why are you so scared of getting divorced if it happens it wouldnt be the end of the world but just make sure he loves you and you love him then you guys will never divore. buena suerte y llevate de tus sentimientos
2007-10-25 15:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont' rush into marraige.
spend time getting to know this guy. have talks about children. talk about your ambitions and goals. figure out what you have in common, and whether that is enough to base a marriage on.
also, step back and take a look at how this guy treats others, especially his mother and family. look at his habits and decide whether you can tolerate them for the rest of your life -- after all, you can't change him. what he is now, is what he will be after you say "i do".
take a year or two to get acquainted. there is no rush.
i'm sure after a period of time, you will know whether he is the one for you, or not.
2007-10-25 15:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you're happy when you're with him; and if he respects you. What happens when you're mad at him? Does he listen? How does he act when he's mad? How do you resolve conflict? Do you have a lot of the same interests? The same beliefs? Are you both looking for the same things in a relationship? Does he make you feel loved? Do you feel comfortable telling him how you feel? Do you trust him?
2007-10-25 15:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mich 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cross bridges when you get to them... in other words, when the two of you are old enough, and have been together long enough to start thinking about marriage, then start worrying about this stuff.
In the mean time, enjoy life and notice the blessings that surround you.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 15:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date for about a yr. and also think:
Does he have a job, his own transportation a place of his own?
If no to any of those 3 questions then youd better back off.
2007-10-25 15:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age should have no bounderies if you love each other. Just continue to love each other.
2007-10-25 15:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by David 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you love him,is he a good bread winner,do you trust him do you trust you ?
2007-10-25 15:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by vonezel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋