i am trying to get a job & have one in progress, however, he says this isn't the reason . i don't know what else to do to make him happy. what should we do? thanks
2007-10-25 14:53:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do the housewife duties....i clean, cook do laundry...everything that a housewife should.
2007-10-25 15:27:20 · update #1
i do the housewife duties....i clean, cook do laundry...everything that a housewife should.
2007-10-25 15:29:43 · update #2
I strongly suggest the two of you get some marriage counseling ASAP. Good Luck.
2007-10-25 15:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone else happy because happiness comes from the inside, not from the outside. Of course we can have happy marriages, happy days, be happy when we buy something new, feel happy when we are told we are loved or receive a hug.
If your husband is unhappy, let him know you are willing to listen if he wants to talk. You might also remind him that you hope he will do whatever it takes to feel better, and that you will support him.
Leave it at that and give him a few days to roll it around. Men are problem solvers, and use logic to figure things out... so they have to think about it for a while.
I sure hope it works out. Perhaps he will come around and talk. hugs
2007-10-25 22:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take advantage of him because he works?
If that is the case, then make up for it by working around the house. Do laundry, make dinner, vacuum, mop, and clean around the toilets,etc.
That should earn your fair share. Right?
Most of all, do it because you love your husband and you want him cared for.
2007-10-25 22:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to sit down with him and ask him what it is that he wants of u and try to do it whatever it is. don't confront him or attack his character, make him feel emotionally safe and encourage him to open up to u. some people are not happy within themselves and blame their spouses for everything. best thing is to get some therapy and encourage him to go, get a third party involved who can listen to the problems, maybe a minister.
2007-10-25 22:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do all that plus work and go to school and my husband still calls me lazy and expects more and is still not happy. ITs not me or you its them. I do what makes me happy and found "other outlets" staying married to him for right now allows for a better life for my children and myself. Plus he is rarely here
2007-10-26 00:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Greeneyedqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he won't tell you straight up what the problem is, he must enjoy being upset and holding it over your heads.
2007-10-25 21:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be clear with you of what is bothering him regarding your relationship. You need to talk to him and ask him point blank what is it that he wants.
2007-10-25 21:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we" take advantage?
there's a red flag right there.
2007-10-25 21:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋