is spouse allowed to make bad comments about your familly?? when the familly is really nice to them and never done any harm?
2007-10-25 14:39:12 · 18 answers · asked by Ak B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your spouse is your family now. Maybe he or she is hurt because their spouse is showing more love/caring/attention to their "family" rather than them.
2007-10-25 14:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you feel they have never done any harm, but your partner may of seen, felt and heard other wise.
A spouse, lover, friend, anyone has a right to speak how they choose.
There has to be a reason why they spoke bad of them.......did you bother asking why? Maybe try that and then take it from there.
I've had 3 marriages. The in-laws treated me nice when hubby was around, but like dog meat when he wasn't. He didn't get to hear the nasty things they would say to me.
Talk about it.
2007-10-25 21:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Families can ruin a relationship. I always put my spouse first and he always respected my family and vice versa. However, it was quite the opposite with me and his family and they were always the thorns in the side of our marriage. Maybe he feels they are a threat for some reason. Be very careful not to turn your family against your spouse. I would try to find out why he does this.
2007-10-25 21:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it's not nice, or proper, i suppose a person can say whatever they like?
If your spouse is making bad comments about your family, perhaps there is some jealousy issue?
Sometimes, when people are envious, it makes them a little angry.
2007-10-25 21:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope..I would never say a thing about my hubby's family even though I would have alot of ammo. And I would kick his *** if he ever said a bad word about my family, who have done nothing but help him and love him as a son and brother from the very beginning.
2007-10-25 21:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends onthe situation. Is the comment true? I'll tell my husband in a heart beat if I think his family is doing something wrong or whatever the case. I've told him that they are dysfunctional, which is the truth, and he knows it, so he doesn't argue about it.
2007-10-25 21:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by SoSickWitIt! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone is allowed to say whatever. I don't see any good that could come of it though. I used to critisize my husbands Mother, but realized I was driving a wedge between my husband and I. He would get defensive and side with her.
She isn't perfect, but I've learned to keep my mouth shut.
2007-10-25 21:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one should make nasty comments about anyone. However, you don't "allow" your spouse to do things. He/she is not your child.
2007-10-25 21:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is the spouse right?
2007-10-26 00:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the comments bother you no they shouldnt say bad things to you about anybody.
You should tell them you dont want to hear those comments about your family. unfortunately you cant stop him thinking badly, but he should respect you enough to not tell you his issues when you dont wanna hear them.
2007-10-25 22:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by Paul E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋