how can i explain my reason for saying no to abortion?

Question

i had sex with a friend and the condom broke and just found out that pregnancy came in the result of it.He is pressuring me to get an abortion and i CAN'T do something like that.Can someone please help me find a way to explain to him that i DO NOT want an abortion?thanks

Answer 1

Just tell him "NO" he should know the consequences of not using protection and he should not put you in that situation, tell him to be ready for parent hood.....


Mother to twin 2 year olds and a 8 month old!!!

Answer 2

My daughter got pregnant with a bf who wanted her to have an abortion. She said NO. The baby girl that she gave birth to has been the light of our lives. She is a blessing.

This is YOUR body. NO one, not even the sperm doner of the baby has any say of what you do. JUST say NO

Tell him that you believe that from the start the fetus is a human. Within a short few weeks there is a heart beat and a spine, arms - legs etc. This is a new soul. A new person who is growing in side of you ,and that because you believe that you can't even think about an abortion. Tell him if he doesn't want anything to do with the baby that is his choice, but you will love and raise this child. (btw you can get some child support from the father even if it is a firend and the condom broke, but don't tell him this yet)

Tell him that ocassionally there is an abortion where the fetus is alive for several hours. Back when I was a student nurse there was a lady that had an abortion, and the baby came out in the bed pan. The tiny tiny soul stayed alive for several hours. A nurse wrapped the baby up to keep it warm and held her until she died. Yes the abortion killed this little soul and the mother didn't want to be bothered with a child.
I have lots of experience dealing with people who all, yes I never met one who didn't regret their decision to abort.
It is loss of a family member. Even men can have long term sorrow over an abortion their partners had many years ago.
I have a male friend who's high school girlfriend got pregnant, He gave her money to abort. To this day he grieves the loss of that child. He feels very gulity. This especially once he had his children who are almost grown now. He can't get rid of the loss and the guilt. It is very sad.

Another reason to NOT have an abortion is that there is a risk that you might not ever be able to have a baby . Abortion can cause scar tissue that would make it impossible to get pregnent. That is a huge risk.

Please be strong. It is your body and YOUR baby. Don't let your friend talk you in to anything. You have a new little person growing inside of you.

Gosh, the abortions when the uterious is scraped out or suctioned out.....well those little bodies are torn to pieces.
What a inhumane thing to do to a little life.

A higher power (aka God) could of prevented that baby from growing in side of you. Call it fate or whatever you believe.
This is your child, your miricle. And birth is indeed a miricle.

There is also the option of giving the baby to adoption.
I gave birth to two boys and adopted my daughter when she was 11 days old. Our family was made complete with her.
She is an adult now and she is my best friend. She is expecting her third baby the first of the year. I can't imagine the love that a parent has when they know they can't raise a child and they give that child up so that a childless family can love and raise this little one.

Keep your child. Be strong.

Answer 3

It would appear from your question that the two of you were making love. A broken condom was the farthest thing from your mind, and neither was getting pregnant. I support your decision to NOT have an abortion. It's your body and you have dominion over it. He's scared and isn't ready to step up to the plate and play the role of daddy, at least not at this point in time. While you're opposed to abortion are you prepared to take on the responsibility of motherhood. It's a lifelong commitment, and one that you should think through thoroughly now. If you don't think that you are ready to go the distance, you might look at the possibility of adoption. Adoption agencies can help you with finding qualified, loving couples who want a child but can't conceive. Adoption could be the best option as far as your yet unborn son or daughter is concerned. You (and your friend) gave your child life. Adoption could give your child a life. Sit down with your boyfriend (and your respective parents) and calmly work out a solution. It's too late to point the finger of blame. Now is the time to figure out the best way to approach the problem. Good luck, and thanks for standing up for life.

Answer 4

Tell him that it is MURDER....if he doesn't want it to live then just cut him off and out of it's life.
You do not need a man to raise a baby.

Here, here is something to help you out with your reasoning.
It was taken from one of those small little babies that people give out to help reduce abortion:


Precious One

Week 1: Conception; the baby is smaller than a grain of sugar, but the instructions are present for all that this person will ever become.
Week 2: The babay attaches and burrows securely intot he wall of it's mommy's womb.
Week 3: The baby's blood vessels and sex cells form. Foundations of the brain, spinal cord and nercous system are laid.
Week 4: The baby's heart has begun to beat. Eyes, ears, and lungs begin to form.
Week 5: Tiny arms and legs appear, as well as the baby's face. The baby's blood is now seperate from the mommy's.
Week 6: Tiny fingers and toes develop. The baby's brain is divided into three parts for emotion and language, hearing, and seeing.
Week 7: Buds of the baby's milk teeth appear. 99% of the muscles are present, and brain activity is detectable.
Week 8: The baby begins spontanious movement and is now well proportioned, about the size of a thumb. Every organ is present, but immature. The skull, elbows, and knees are forming.
Week 9: If prodded, hands and eyelids close. Genitalia become visible, indicating if I am a boy or a girl...aren't you excited mommy! Muscular movement begins.
Week 10: The baby's fingerprints begin to form. Nerve and muscle conections have tripled. Eyelids fuse together temporarily to protect the baby's delicate developing eyes.
Week 11: The baby "practices" breathing and facial expressions, even smiling. The baby can also urinate and stomache muscles can contract.
Week 12: The baby is now 3 inches in length and weighs about 2 ounces with fine hair on the face. The baby is able to swallow and feels and responds to skin stimulation.

I hope this helps and makes him think.
I wish you the best of luck!
Contact me if you need anything!

Answer 5

You do not need to explain anything to anyone, your body belongs to you and no one can legally force you to have an abortion! Tell him that you are sorry he can not see things from your point of view, that what happened was an accident and that you neither blame him for it nor expect to be blamed by him but that only you have the right to decide what to do next..and most of all,that a friend would not pressure you to act against your conscience over something as important as this. I am not saying that no one should be allowed to have an abortion; but no one should ever be pushed into doing so as if it was something that did not matter anymore than deciding to throw away a new scarf because you didn't like the pattern on it after all!
Do what you think is right for you, accept the support of your real friends and talk about all of this to your doctor who, if he or she is of any use, will listen to you and understand the pressure you are under. Best wishes ..

Answer 6

You need to explain to him that you do not believe that human life is disposable.
Maybe it is easy for him to make decisions about your body so quickly because he does not know the potential risks of an abortion. Go to your local clinic, or look up online the possible risks of getting an abortion and use that as part of your reasoning for not wanting to do it. I believe one of the possible risks is that it can cause you to become sterile (you may not be able to get pregnant again in the future).
Why does he want you to have the abortion so badly. Is it because he doesn't want to have to support you or a baby? The two of you need to talk about what you will do in the scenario that you do keep the baby. If he does not want to be a part of the baby's life, and you are still against getting an abortion, you will need to decide how you plan on taking care of the baby without his help.
He cannot control what you do with your own body. Just remember that. He needs to at least respect the fact that you do not want to have an abortion and help you weigh out the pros and cons of each decision.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 7

It is your right to not have an abortion . But it might not be too late for 'Plan B pills' which are last chance contraception . But most like you would need the RU pills at this point ,which are a form of abortion .
On the other hand are you willing to give him full access to the child if he pays his fair share of child support . What effect will your not having an abortion have on his life , and your life ? Will you feel pressured to move in together and get married because of this ? Lots of things to think about ! Thats why you should use two or more forms of birth control .
For Rob and me : Please don't jump on the pop culture bandwagon of naming your kid Dakota , or Montana or such . Don't we have enough annoying Brookes and Britannys running around ? !

Answer 8

i am sort of in a simular situation to you right at this very moment except that we were both too stupid to use a condom and i just relied on him pulling out and now this has happened and i am very scared and feeling pretty alone.

Just tell him that these things happen for a reason and if something is supposed to happen then it will happen. Let him know straight out how you feel, let it come from the heart and hope for the best. You could tell him that YOU will be the one who will live with the guilt for the rest of YOUR life even though he may be able to brush it off and get on with things, YOU will be deeply affected by this.

I now realise why God made us women be the ones to carry a life inside of us until it is ready to be born... its becoz us women are strong enough, we have the heart strong enough to protect a life before it is born whereas men could so easily dismiss a human life.

Answer 9

Tell him that you don't want an abortion. Tell him what your plan is for the child. If you intend to keep the child or place the child for adoption. Let him know if you want him to be a part of the child's life and what you expect from him as the father, if you intend to raise this child. As soon as the child is born you may want to consider another form of birth control. In the end it is your body your choice just don't expect much from him if he is already talking abortion he may never come around to the idea of being a dad.

Good luck

Answer 10

Abortion is a choice. It is your decision. You just tell everyone that you aren't willing to make the decision to end the pregnancy. It is a hard thing to live with and many woman have ptsd because they were forced to make that decision. Whatever your reasoning is, it doesn't have to be theirs. You are the one that has to live with the consequences either way. They aren't really. If you have the baby, they aren't going to be the ones responsible forever and have to go through labor and all of that. He is a man he gets the choice of weather to be in the childs life. You make that decision when you choose to have the baby or not or to give it up for adoption. You aren't asking him for anything. You are just asking him to respect your decision to not suffer for the rest of your life over regret or pain of doing something that you can't take back.

Answer 11

He needs to understand that this is your decision. Its your body. Are you going to keep the baby or put it up for adoption? I'm assuming, since you feel so strongly, that you are going to keep the baby. He's probably concerned because a child will be a long term commitment and mean that you will have to be in his life forever. He's not going to feel what you feel, no matter how you explain it, he's a man, your a woman, the child is inside of you. Good luck.