I feel like time alone with your partner is vital after kids come into the picture. I fell that it makes a better marriage and well being in general. I worry about finding quality time for myself and hubby after our baby is born and how our relationship will change. How do you find time for each other and how has your relationship changed once a baby comes into the picture? Just curious if anyone else had this fear when they were pregnant with their first...
2007-10-25 14:16:08 · 5 answers · asked by emmy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The cool thing about kids is that they DO sleep..lol. We have four and we spend plenty of time together. It's all about your priorities. Keep them straight and everyone in your family can get the time and attention they need. Good luck :)
2007-10-25 15:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel this way somewhat. When you have the baby you will experience a new love you have never felt before! It will make your bond with your husband stronger & you will find time to be together. I have 2 baby's 12 months apart....It's not the quantity of time it's the quality!! Make a date night once a week with your hubby - go out & do something romantic or put baby to bed and have a candle light dinner at home!! You have to make the time, to keep the romance going. Leave your hubby love notes & tell him how much you miss him. It is possible to have a GREAT marriage & have children. I'm not going to lie to you it can be exausting..but it's soooooo worth it!! Congrats on the pregnancy!! The best is yet to come!
2007-10-25 21:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a common fear and a common problem. Couples dream of getting away for the weekend. While that sounds great, it is almost impossible. Settle for short times together, or the 3 of you. Walks in park, cuddling on park bench, etc. We had a detached garage off the alley and used to hire the neighbor girl to watch the kids while we "ran errands." But the car never left the garage. Even if we didn't have sex (usually did) just spending an hour together talking, or making out listening to radio was special. Friends of ours traded garage door openers with their friends and when one couple was out, the other would use their garage. Sometimes the door would open during usage, but homeowner would just close it again and go in thru front door. And, after approx 6 mos, do get that weekend (or even one night) away. Good luck.
2007-10-25 21:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you, alone time with your spouse is VERY important to your marriage. My wife and I, we set aside 1 night a week for a date night, and have either family or friends watch the kids for us, so we can have time alone so we can have time with each other, away from distraction from the kids.
Our relationship has changed alot since we had kids, and my wife and I have 3 kids, and for us, once we had kids, it changed how much time we had to ourselves. And sometimes we have had to be creative about it. So for us, either having our date night or waiting till the kids went to bed was when we have our alone time together.
2007-10-25 21:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
Let your hubby know in one way or another that he is your MAN.
See, when a baby enters, the 1st one anyway, it is very very difficult sometimes because the guy is used to getting all of the attention, then, bam, little to no attention.
Very important to make time.
2007-10-25 21:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋