He just comes home from work and basically ignores me.He wont go out or do anything like go to a bar or theme park or whatever.He does not like going to church with me and sometimes I go alone.It is so embarassing.He has been recovering from meth and lied to me on lots of times.Told me his best friend is on meth and that he refuses stoping their friendship.He calls him during the day but not me.The sad thing is the best friends wife is super sweet major christian and speaks 5 languages and teaches to deaf children.Somewhere in this I am the bad person?The best friend bad mouths me and my husband does not defend me.My husband has hit me twice and I never had the heart to turn him in.So he says he will divorce me before he would quit being friends with this so called best friend.Do you think maybe he is gay?
2007-10-25 13:16:20 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does not matter why he does not sleep with you. It does not matter why is friend talks bad about you. It does not even matter if he is gay.
He hit you....LEAVE.
2007-10-25 16:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I think that this marriage is over. For four months he has not touched you, went out with you or really talked to you besides arguing. There has been no relationship. If he is doing or did drugs and you go to church and he is not even trying to go with you half the time, that should tell you something too. If he has lied to you lots times already he could be lying about this friend using meth unless, you know this for a fact yourself. If the wife of your husband's friend is like you are saying, it is hard to believe that her husband would be using drugs, but I might be wrong. He might be using that story for a cover about another woman that he is having a possible affair with. Do you know, have proof that he calls his friend? Then he may be gay if he would leave you before his friend. You can do better than this guy, Hell you deserve better.
2007-10-25 20:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by carsgrl2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know someone in a similar situation. Meth isn't something you can just quit taking. It is soooo addictive! My opionion is he is still doing Meth & that is why he is so close to his Meth buddy--not because he's gay. I'm sure he's seeing some other woman to meet his sexual needs. Or I don't know what age he is.......but if he's 45+ or has health problems he may not be able to get it up anymore, and doesn't want you to know he's impotent. This happens sometimes to older men & that would explain the drug use & seperation from you. Good luck, and I hope this helps!
2007-10-25 20:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say just move on now!! Obviously,he dosen't care about you & if he lets his friend talk down to you he probably does too.The best thing you can do at this point is to leave & find someone who respects you & cares enough about you to value you in the relationship.It'll probably be hard at first but you'll be a lot happier once you get on your feet & are away from the physical & emotional abuse.Good Luck :)
2007-10-25 20:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if he's gay or not but he has disrespected you and by ignoring you, he's hurting you but he doesn't seem to care. You're not a bad person. He has been ignoring for 4 months. He had been physical with you. He prefers his friends. Don't take this anymore. Let him be with his friends since he likes them so much. If you can, leave him and start a new life.
2007-10-25 20:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by goldenmoon27 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe you need some time apart?
absense make the heart grow fonder?
if you are not there to ignor, at first, he will be glad.but it's no fun to be mad and pout at someone who is not there to recieve it. it gets lonley.
you will not be there to abuse.
and the kindess you've shown him will weigh on his heart.
it might cause him to start appreciating you.
going to concilling will not help if he does not want to go.
it makes him the bad guy.
I don't think he's gay. i think he thinks his buddy really needs him and to abandon him for you would somehow betray his buddy and lesson his manhood.
but the thing is he is married to you.
his priorties are screwed up.
if you go away.
he might miss you and realize, hey, this meth dude is gonna sink or swim, but I'm starting to sink without my girl here.
these are just my thoughts.
I'm not a shrink but I think it might help.
blessings.
f.c.
2007-10-25 20:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well..regardless of gay or not gay / affair or no affair he doesn't seem to care about you, actions speak louder than words Everything else is higher up on his list before you. Leave...it's better than allowing yourself to be treated like crap.
Essentially you are giving him the ok to be treated this way, As long as you stay he will continue this behavior.
2007-10-25 22:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Care♥ mommy 2 my boys 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All that you suspect is surely correct. You sre in denial and I thought that was a river. Wake up and smell the coffee. Next time he hits you play like you want some and have a lil somethin hiding under the pillow make him feel relaxed abnd attempt to go down on him and remove his use to be manhood or make him think you are but you have to be strong. this way you are in control. if he threatens your life then get it on as jlo did in enough. it ends with you.
2007-10-25 20:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
guess he has chosen whats important to him, meth and marriage to someone straight just doesn't work. the best friend bad mouths u because u have his number and remember that birds of a feather do flock together and usually a leopard doesn't change his spots, or i have never seen it happen anyway.
2007-10-25 20:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let's see... You are having trouble with your spouse, you turn to strangers for help, you present only your side of the story and then ask if your husband is gay. What could the problem be??? People like you make me want to do meth.
2007-10-25 20:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tisker 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋