We'll be 22 yrs next month and we are *there* ..
I know it's not me .. as I'm able to step back and take account for actions .. hubbs isn't there yet .. not sure he ever will .. I hope he will ..
I'm curious to hear from others that were like that and made it work ..
2007-10-25 12:32:50 · 7 answers · asked by Queenie` 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's where it's coming to a head .. the kids are all in H.S. .. steering them towards college, careers, etc .. and he really didn't have a part or say in them now it's showing .. I can't cover for him as I could when they were young ..
Divorce isn't really in the works, but he thinks things are fine (most men do I know lol) ..
I'd like to talk to a counselor or pastor, he doesn't think we need to .. but most things I give in, but I'm not on this one.
2007-10-25 12:53:50 · update #1
Will be married 30 years next month. And yes we did grow apart. It wasn't easy but we did FIX it. We started walking and exercising together. Somehow I found my best friend again and its a lot better. It seems like I was so much closer to our daughter and when she moved out it was like.....swim or sink. I looked at him and thought now what? We have nothing in common. Our friends weren't couples. Mine were from work and so were his bowling buddies were guys that he worked with. I really didn't think we would make it, but so far so good. It was scary it was like when we were first married and getting to know one another all over again. Every time I look in the mirror though I see this old lady staring back and wonder where in the hell did that nice young me go? Oh well ... Good Luck to you! Marriage isn't easy!
2007-10-25 12:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by ????? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been married 28 years and yes we did fall apart after 17 years and as usual he blamed me for not being happy.And turned to a co-worker for 2 1/2 years. Why do men think it's our job to make them happy they expect us to be a friend mother, wife, lover, maid, and doctor and if that wasn't enough most of us work 81/2 hrs. a day. With all that on our plate how can anyone be happy 24/7 and be responsible for someone else's happiness as well.
After he realize that what he had at home was what he wanted all along he came back home and i have been dealing with his cheating for 10 years now and it hasn't been easy. He is truly sorry for what he did i have to believe that or i would go crazy i think.
2007-10-25 13:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married 30 years. Yes about 10 years ago when all the kids left home, we grew apart some. I hated it so we decided to go to dinner just like a date at least twice a month. (we eat out often, but twice a month he brings me flowers and we go someplace nice).We make sure we tell each other about our day, even the stuff that means nothing. Just make sure you talk to each other.
2007-10-25 12:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah after twenty years at the same time, you want to be friends with one yet another, why else stay at the same time that long? maximum married couples are merely as lots friends as they're fanatics via then and in case you have been made a fool of via him, why nevertheless be friends, friends do not try this to a minimum of one yet another.
2016-12-15 09:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by blea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for 21 years. When I moved out two years ago I could tell things got tight. Neither of them ever knows where the other is. They're always acting like kids. "Your mother is such a witch." "Your father is always hunting, he doesn't give a damn what I do." " Your mother wonders why I hunt!?!? To get away from her." Its sad, but I wish they would do SOMETHING. Anything, really, to be happier.
2007-10-25 12:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Harbi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run like the wind hunny... wish I would have.
You cant wait for a man to be ready... they hardley ever are... and if he is not ready NOW it will only make things worse. I am going through the heart ache of that now. Save yourself the heart ache and tears and WAIT!
If the 2 of you are on seperate pages when it comes to such a mutual decision... it will become a NIGHTMARE that never ends... and you'll be giving advice on yahoo answers to try to help anyone you know NOT to do it.
treasure that "there" moment.. if your not in agreeance and you guys marry, you'll curse the day you met him.
2007-10-25 12:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by californiabaybe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there should be term limits on marriage
renew the license every 4 years
if not.. move on
take what is yours and go.. no bullsheep with lawyers and fighting.. done and over and go
2007-10-25 12:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋