Right now my ex and I have joint custody.I don't pay support neither does he.We alternante weeks my son is with him a week than me than him so on so forth.My son is having a hard time.He is getting older and want to be in one pace longer.
Him-no job,lives with parents 40 years old,pays bills ie electric,gas etc plans on staying umemployed for a while or so he says.my son doesn't have a room or even his own bed there sleps on the couch.Mother has over 100 birds in the house no joke she really does
Me.stay at home mom,husband works a very good job,son has own room,going back to school,buying own home
2007-10-25 12:26:36 · 8 answers · asked by what did you say 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How is me being a stay at home mom and playing with my children being sure they have a nice clean home not helping my children
2007-10-25 12:38:10 · update #1
I meant to say doesn't pay bills
2007-10-25 12:53:00 · update #2
Stop letting your child make adult decisions. Be the adult already. Grow up.
Then stop trying to dump your guilt on this community. You created this situation. Now live with it.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 12:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your ex does not sound like a bad person. He doesn't abuse or neglect your child. He just doesn't have the same priorities as you. So what if the kid is on a couch? It's not like he has to sleep in a cage w/ the birds or something.
I think joint custody is fair. If the timing isn't good, just try out other combos until everyone is happy. 1 week on 1 week off seems optimal though.
2007-10-25 19:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me you hav the more stable home but depending on how old your son is have you ever thought to ask him and let him decide what he wants if he would rather be with his dad let him or he might become recentful and if he does try to understand most boys feel they need their father more than their mother but usually once the father has had the child for a while the child misses and wants mom but usually once this happens the child will stay with their mom and again it is his decision he made it and cant blame you or your ex plus it gives him a way of thinking he is respected in his decision by his parents and more than likely come to you and your ex with things that bother him or he is curious about because he will feel the respect torwards your opinion so before he does something because he was forced to do one thing or another he will come to you and know what he says means something to both of you
2007-10-25 19:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by usmhotchic123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every child has the right to grow up in a 'normal' stable and loving home. Sleeping on the couch at your 'the bird-lady' grandma's house is NOT NORMAL!!! If you can provide him with his own bedroom, with his own belongings, his own toys and most importantly - his own space, then your son deserves that, every child deserves that. Maybe he can visit dad every 2nd weekend, but for a whole week to sleep on the couch and not have your own space, that is not normal nor is it fair on the child. Also, one week here and the next week there and the next week back here again is definatley not normal. Kids need stability.
2007-10-28 20:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for Dad to move out from home. I'd make arrangements to have your son in your home with his own room and bed during the week and week-ends stay with Dad for the week-end until he proves otherwise. He's just showing your Son what a lazy father is and you don't want him believing this is OK do you (of course not). If push comes to shove, dig your heals in a go to court.
2007-10-25 19:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You BOTH need to get a job and set an example for your son. You being unemployed is just as bad as him being unemployed.
EDIT- Maybe *HE* enjoys being a stay at home dad so that he can play with his son. Why is it any different for you? Just because you're a woman and he's a man? Thats hypocritical.
2007-10-25 19:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You could apply for main custody with the ex having him on alternate weekends. The ex might kick up a fuss because that would mean he would have to pay child support. Talk to a lawyer and see what he says, as to what your chances are.
2007-10-25 19:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Apply for full custody.
2007-10-25 19:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋