Married and in-love with someone else? reasons this happens, what makes it definite?

Answer 1

what i suggest you do is have sex with the person, after u have sex with that person youll probaly be like " oh he/she isnt all that i dont want you anymore" well thats what i do

Answer 2

When you get married, you decide that you are going to stay with your partner despite attractions towards others that come up.

Through the course of a lifetime, you will find many attractive people crossing your path. A person outside the marriage is likely to seem more exciting and passionate, but as soon as you go through the trouble of a divorce, you'll realize it was a mistake- that this new person has all the same issues that make them a real person- just like your current partner.

The decision to remain with your partner is a sign of maturity and integrity. Attractions outside the marriage are a definite, but you can always decide to not give your energy to anyone other than your partner. It's all about you - are you willing to stop giving your energy to someone else and try to cultivate the love you once felt for your partner? If you were devoting as much energy to them, it's likely all the feelings would come back stronger than ever.

Answer 3

If and when marriage comes about the heart and mind think of the significant other. However, we are humans and others come on the playing field even when we least expect it. This is life in motion..there's nothing you can do about it. If you have feelings or emotions for someone other than your partner then that is a definite showing of your humanity and your own perception of it. What you do with it is entirely upto you and you alone. As you can feel it..then decide how you go about it. Talking helps a lot..talk to the one you are in lve with..what are the outlines to this and which way is it going for them? Ask yourself the same questions and then ask your significant other if it is right to follow your heart or not..remember that this is like asking for a divorce..but if your both up to such questions then go for it. You never know what to expect or who is around the next corner..its the same for anyone whereever in the world..male and female. No one escapes the love-at-first sight experience..at least that is what is stated in humanity books.

Answer 4

i know just what you are talking about,been there and done that,there is know clear answer to it,period,you just have to work through it,but take this from me it is a sin what you are talking about,the day will come you will pay for it also,believe me,it is true,and the payback is much worse believe me,i know first hand,first off to help the matter you need to tell your partner the truth,there is know easy way to correct the problem,when you married your spouse it was for life,remember that,so you have yourself in a big jam now,so do what YOU think is right,not what someone thinks,you have to live with yourself,you have to 'fix' the problem,no one can 'fix' it but youself,the reason it happened is that is what had been happening since the beginning off time and will go own until the end of time hpoe you all the luck in the world and also hope one day you will have it behing you and you will be happy,you will be a stronger person

Answer 5

What happens when you live with one for many years, and you want to grow and change and learn more about life and your surroundings and the spouse does not? What happens when you realize that your spouse knows nothing about you and what makes you tick? What if your spouse is happy with never questioning ideas and wants things to always be the same? Sometimes you are married and realize that you have lived your whole life without being truly happy simply because you had no idea what "happy" was. Sometimes you realize you have lived your entire life for others. Then sometimes you meet someone who should have been "the one". Many reasons why this happens. not sure what you mean by what makes it definate

Answer 6

well maybe you dont get treated right by your spouse and you are tired of being treated like that and you dont leave because you dont want to hurt them or maybe your afraid but you will never be happy till you make a decision on what will make you the happiest if your not happy leave and dont jump right in with the guy you are inlove with make sure and make you happy without some one and then see how things go then again it could be you just dont see your spouse very much and you spend more time with the other person but maybe if you put more effort into spending time with your spouse and him or she as well do the same you might realize you just wanted some one to spend time with but it takes two and if your not in the relationship fully it wont work if you love the other person more then i think you made a decision already but if you had you wouldnt still have doubt about what you need to do

Answer 7

One, you are married not...DEAD! Being married doesn't make you blind, or automatically make attractive men/women unattractive. You are attracted to othermen/women because you are attracted to men/women in general.

Now the In-love stuff...shame on you for ignoring your commitment to your mate. There's nothing wrong with being attracted. There is something else altogether different when you act on those attractions. The simple answer is: It happens because you allow it to happen.

Your question is like: Why do I eat the oreos when I'm on a diet? Or Why do I drink the beer when water is fine.


Now if marriage is just a piece of paper, then more power to you.

Answer 8

It should be clear that something is missing in your marriage. I think little secret crushes are alright; but full blown love for another? Moving from marriage to another love quickly sounds like rebound behavior. Before ending the marriage, try to remember what put you two together in the first place. Get some counseling, talk to a good friend or family member who's had a long, successful marriage. Good luck.

Answer 9

the reason this could happen is maybe you is not being for-filled at home. There is something lacking in your marriage and you may not want to admit it. You found something in the other person that made you you fall in love with that other person that you did not see in your marriage. So you have to deal with your own feelings about your marriage and the other person. Is the other person in love with you ? or Do the other person even know you are in love with him or her? Be real to yourself and the others involve. Life to short to keep people going in a yo-yo syndrome. Find out your feelings and do something right about your marriage and love. Do the right thing.okay

Answer 10

Reason - you feel neglected by your partner (or didn't see him/her long because of spatial separation) and search (sometimes subconsciously) for love somewhere else.
What makes it definite - well, at some point of time you will think - do I want new guy more, or spouse and say new guy. Then, its definite and you are in trouble. Don't let it happen.

Answer 11

I'm gonna put this on line here.you're marriedbut met someone else &you're in love.The reason-you just got bored in one way or another& definite because you'll either not get divorced or the other person is in a committed relationship too.