2007-10-25 11:36:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
I hate my disability and sometimes I even get angry at it. When I even think about going back to work and then I get the "c" word (can't) in my head. I cant work at this place or that place because I will have to be on my feet and I have arthritis in my back or I cant relate to people because of my bipolar. Listen, you have every right to hate your disability and even get angry at it.
2007-10-25 14:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are times that I "wish" but seldom go there because it doesn't help anything except make me want to feel sorry for myself. I came down with polio the same year the vaccine came out and was in the hospital for over a month while they "treated" us. My left leg atrophied quite a bit and the leg and foot are smaller than my right leg and foot so I don't remember ever having normal legs or feet since I was 7 when this happened.
When it bothers me the most is when I have to buy shoes because I wear two sizes and both feet are small, especially compared to the size of feet out there today. As a child, I hated shopping for shoes because it was not only difficult to find two pair that matched but not knowing it at the time, I got tired easily because of the post polio problems. Today I shop through a catalogue or online because most shoe stores no longer carry a the size 4 or 5s that I need for my polio foot.
I had surgery when I was 8 to try and correct problems with the polio foot and that in turn has caused me tremendous problems later in life because I walked incorrectly on the ankle for years ~ and I did a lot of walking when I was younger but now am lucky to do things around the house that need to be done on a daily basis. Thankfully I have a very loving and understanding husband who never complains or puts me down and married me 4 years ago knowing that I had limited abilities. I have had 13 surgeries since I was 3 (most polio related but not all) and have osteoarthritis and have more surgeries coming up in the future (I'm holding off on them as long as I can).
There are times I wish I could walk and run or go up stairs without holding onto a railing but overall, I've had a good life and I know the trials are there to help make me a stronger Christian. I also know many people today who had polio years ago are a lot worse off than I am so I give thanks and make the best of each day. Our situation in life doesn't have to control us, only if we have a bad attitude and wallow in self pity. I choose not to do that :)
2007-10-25 22:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are both disabled with Rheumatoid and osteo arthritis. There are times when we go through the "it's not fair, why can't I," type rant but over the years we have got used to most of the things we can't do anymore. It took a while to accept the things we can't do and accept the things we can. Some stuff takes a lot longer to do than it used to but we get there in the end. We, generally, help each other through the really bad times like the "feeling sorry for ourselves" times but that doesn't get us any where really! Feeling sorry for ones self can be more debillitating than the actual disabilities. There are a lot of people worse of than us and we remind ourselves of this when necessary. Anyway, most disabled peoples biggest disability is.......able-bodied people! They generally have good intentions when trying to help but we have our own way of doing things and they tend to get in the way lol. It's ok to hate your disability just the same as it is for us to hate ours. We all do what is necessary to get through each day. Don't beat yourself up about it. Try to keep a good sense of yourself and your abilities not so much your disabilities.
2007-10-25 19:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What does hate accomplish? Does it make you feel better?
Ever hear the phrase turn lemons into lemonaide?
2007-10-25 23:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its actually a gift. I couldn't participarte in Yahoo Answers without it.
2007-10-26 00:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and i are both disabled,it is a very hard life and most people dont understand which makes it worse..........
2007-10-26 02:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by john doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, but then I remember that it could be worse, every time I am at the hospital I see somebody in worse shape than me.
2007-10-25 22:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sometimes, but then think oh well and move on =)
2007-10-26 00:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by GOLDENFAIRY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime
2007-10-25 20:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋