I am a pregnant 17 year old, baby due a week before my 18th bday, my grandma is throwing me a baby shower 2 weeks before my due date. My family didn't find out until i was 30 weeks along, i am nervous about my baby shower. I am a little embarassed still, i was wondering how i should act at my baby shower...
should i act proud that i am a pregnant 17 year old
should i act embarassed
should i act excited
should i act worried
should i pretend that its no big deal
I don't know what to do really. I am all of those things and more, i just want to make sure people get the right idea about me. I love this baby and i'm happy to have a party to celebrate her and to get gifts for her but i dont want anyone to judge me or my baby. I want people to understand that i am not irresponsible ( i was on birth control) and i am going to take care of my baby and i am happy that i decided to keep her. what do think i should do?
2007-10-25 10:46:24 · 27 answers · asked by carolina sundance 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just act like yourself..if you are happy, excited, or whatever just show it. All that matters is you taking care of that baby when he/she gets her who cares what anyone else thinks....good luck and congrats!!!
Mother to twin 2 year olds and a 8 month old!!!
2007-11-01 04:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy2three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act the way you want to....theres no certain way to be pregnant....i was pretty miserable at my shower (i just had it a week ago) and that's how i acted. you should be proud of yourself for not putting this off as something that was very unimportant and nothing that you done...you should be proud of yourself that you are, at age 17, taking responsibility for what you done and not running to the abortion clinic to get an abortion or giving it up for adoption so that someone else can care for what you made. i was only 20 when i found out i was pregnant and in some peoples eyes that's not much better than 16 or 17...but i didnt care...i married the father of my child...whom im very in love with and we plan to take care of our son as anyone that was 25 years old or older. the people that do look down on you will not show up to your baby shower unless they just want to make your dad miserable...and when that starts to happen maybe you should tell a family memeber to ask them nicely to leave the home, because its your day to CELEBRATE what's about to come into your life. maybe if you are still in a relationship with the father. ask him to come along. i know most people say men shouldnt be at baby showers but if you are feeling as if you need a little more support then ask him to come along. i wish you the best of luck....you are more responsible than some 22-23 year olds i know...dont be ashamed of yourself.
2007-10-25 11:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Teri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 18 and im 32 weeks pregnant and I know how you feel.Don't overthink things i did for almost the whole time I was pregnant and most of the people who i was worried about turned out to be the most understanding. Don't be worried about the way people will act or if they are going to judge because it's not their place only God can judge and im sure he is proud of you for keeping your baby and if they are throwing you a party im sure your family is happy and as soon as they see that baby girl they are giong to completly fall in love with her so good luck and congrats!!
2007-10-25 11:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by mexican_angel4u2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look... enjoy the party. act normal, happy, and proud as any new mother to be would. make a speach at the party. say something along the lines of .. "i know some of you think im irresponsible for having a baby as such an early age, but to me, this is the best thing that has ever happened to me. i DO feel embarrassed that i'm having a baby now and i was taking precautions but this baby girl already means more to me than the world, and i know i have to grow up now. i want to thank you all for coming to welcome my baby into the world. i know i'm still a frightened little girl on the inside, but i also know i'm going to make a brilliant mom. thank you all so much for supporting me through this and i love you all for the help you are giving me". this way you are expressing how you are feeling, and dont really know how to act about it, but also shows you are responsible, and you are proud of becoming a mom. good luck hun and all the best with your little girl :-) x x x
2007-10-25 11:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by ~"*Make Me A Mammy*"~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when i found out that i was pregnant with my 1st child! When i had my baby shower i was feeling like you! All you can do is be yourself! And be happy that you're able to bring in a wonderful gift from GOD into the world because everyone can't do it! I'm now on my second child at 19 and i don't at all feel as if i should be embarrassed or anything!
2007-10-25 11:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Keshia E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For those who attend the party, just convey how much you need and appreciate their emotional support, in addition to your gratitude for their much needed gifts. Let them see that you are not naive about the hard road you have ahead of you, but that you believe its worth it for the precious life you're carrying. I'm speaking as someone who doesn't even condone sex before marriage, so I'm sort of extreme. But I believe that no innocent baby should be a source of embarrassment. No matter what, I couldn't imagine one not being excited, nor scared. The only thing that would put me off is if you acted like it was no big deal, because that is the last thing that it is.
2007-10-25 11:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by mel1026 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont 'act' anything! Just be yourself and act how you feel...I understand what you mean though. I am 21 and became pregnant on birth control so unplanned of course, and although me and my boyfriend are so happy now, it was kinda mixed emotions at first..because everyone knew it was unplanned nobody knew whether to congratulate us or not, and often made me feel really uncomfortable!
Just be happy that you obviously have a very supportive family and friends, they are the only people that matter...who cares what everyone else thinks..good luck to you and your baby, I am sure you will make an excellent mum!
2007-10-25 10:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by **sugarplum** 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The baby shower is a celebration that revolves around you and your pregnancy. This is nothing to be embarassed or nervous about. Enjoy your day.
I do recommend, though, that you make sure to appear to enjoy all your gifts. People put a lot of thought into their gifts, and the last thing you would want to do is appear ungrateful.
2007-10-25 10:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by whoppers1029 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Act proud because i am sure you are proud of you for making the decision of keeping your baby...this is not the time to worry about what others will think of you,now you must care about you and your baby nobody else matter at this moment.
Good luck and put a smile in your face :D
2007-10-25 10:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Act however you feel like acting. If they are throwing you a baby shower no one there is going to judge you as they are all there to celebrate you are pregnant. Congrats and dont forget people are gonna judge you when they see you out - walk proud and dont be ashamed that you are a young mum, and dont be afraid to ask for help if you need it. good Luck to you.
2007-10-25 10:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋