To all of you homosexuals out there!?

Question

Do you ever sit down and comtemplate and think maybe something in this life made you choose your sexuality?
Or why you are different?
I dont want to hear"do you sit down and wonder while you are stright cos i`l thumb you down.But serious do you have moments of doubt?

Answer 1

My opinion is that we all chose to come to this existance from the other side. When we came we was born into life as either male or female. However when we died we was reborn into the same existance usually with the same characteristics meaning if I was a male in my past life I will be A male in my next life.
However some times one would return just the opposite and this is when confusion would come forth. I if was i male in 3 of my lives on earth, but returned as a female on the 4th how would I Know how to be a male?Real homosexuals are doing just what they are suppose to be doing? They cannot be any other way trust me they have tried. Now a freak is totally different? I am not gay I am a spiritual adviser and I look at all things spiritual.

Answer 2

For what it's worth.....

I'm not homosexual & I'm in a monogamous relationship but I have a regret that I never had a lesbian experience (or 2!) before I met my soul mate because now I know it will never happen. I've told my fella this & that I'm very jealous of him sometimes as he has experienced things from the other side of the fence.

I don't wonder if I 'chose' to be straight - I just am. But I do believe in trying most things at least once if presented with an opportunity & so what if I decide I like the experience & want more? It could be anything from whether I prefer Marmite or Vegemite on toast through to if it’s men or women or both that float my boat.

Try not to spend too much of your life questioning things like this - as long as you’re happy, what else does it matter?

Answer 3

No, I haven't , I don't, and I probably never will because I know that I didn't choose it. The American Psychological Association have done several studies in to this and here are their conclusions:

http://www.apa.org/topics/orientation.html

I'm proud to say that I'm not arrogant enough to consider myself more knowlegable about psychology or the biological genetics of sexual orientation than those who are professionally qualified and experienced in that area of study, as it is their job. If the professionals have bothered to conduct studies in to it and thourough research, then unless I've done atleast as much sudy in to it and have come to a different conclusion, then I don't see why I should claim that somehow I'm special and that I'm right and all those hundreds of professionals are all wrong. That's why I don't understand people who think being gay is a choice. What makes them think that they're right when they have no evidence? Only a weak theory that they honestly think somehow all the world's mainstream psychological associations missed out.

Look at it this way: Someone tells you the world is flat. You say "Well, no it isn't" then they ask you to prove that it isn't flat. So, you take them to NASA and show them videos clips and photos of the Earth from space, you let them speak to all the scientists and they tell that person that world isn't flat and show all the evidence to them. You could even take that person tp space and show him/her (less likely though). And then when you ask them to prove the world is flat they just say that's what they believe. You'd think, what makes you think that all those scientists are wrong and you're right? You don't even have any evidence to support your claim?

This is the same. What makes people think that all those psychiatrists (who are trained, qualified and they know what they're doing) are wrong, but you, with no evidence or study, are correct?

Have a nice day :)

Answer 4

Sometimes, I do sit down and think about it.
I think of how I was with some boys who were downright wrong for me, and maybe it was because of my experiences with them that I "turned to girls."

But then I realized a few things -- even before puberty, I knew I liked girls, and I was open to liking boys. I knew if I dated boys, society would not judge (well, the majority of it anyway).

I sit and think, well, this happened here, and this happened there -- and then I realize how much trouble I had getting into the relationships with men in the first place. I think about how often I would have sex with them (which, in all honesty, was VERY rarely -- penetration was almost always out of the question).

I have had talks with each boy I dated -- the little "heads up" convo. It always started with, "It's nothing against you..." or "Just so you know..."

So to answer your question, I have most definitely sat down and questioned my sexuality and whether or not it was a choice. I do believe that some people choose to be homosexual, however, I also believe that these people were more than likely bisexual in the first place, to be that OK with being in a relationship with the same sex. However -- I definitely know people who hide their homosexuality in order to keep together a family, or be accepted. I also know straight people who give up on the opposite sex, but eventually, they go back to them after they realize their minds were clouded with a discriminating judgment made after one poor experience.

This was a good question. Thanks for helping me look into myself.

Answer 5

Sometimes I contemplate HOW homosexuality occurs, but not WHY. I'm gay and I don't really see any reason to wonder why. I just am, and I didn't choose...I don't know if I was born this way, something happened early in life, I was raised a certain way, or I simply developed these preferences. Quite frankly, I don't think it matters very much, because all I know is that I love women, and that it's been that way for as long as I can remember.

Answer 6

I have actually doubted myself. It was after not really taking interest in anyone for a long time, and I started to wonder. When I sat down and thought about it, and I did, it became obvious to me! I doesn't matter what I label myself as, if I fall in love with someone, then its okay! Doesn't matter who it is. So, right now I wouldn't label myself as anything just yet.

Answer 7

no doubt here. i feel good about who i am and who i am with.

you have to get over the idea that homosexuals are "different" than "normal" people. we are just like everyone else. it's just that we find sexual fulfillment with a member of our own gender.

i wonder why you are asking this question? do you think some gay people are going to read your question and have a moment of blinding revelation? and change their ways? this is not going to happen. so what is your point?

Answer 8

I don't have moments of doubt. I doubt that I ever did. I never could bring myself to do anything with girls other than escort them to a dance and a hug a kiss goodnight. I waited until the summer after high school to get busy with guys and I'm glad I did. I met someone almost right away and he was the one.

Answer 9

Nope!I know exactly why I choose to be gay.I was married for 14 years.I contemplate and wonder how guys can like women and want to live with them sometimes.And for the "different" part,what is different about it?Different from radical Christian beliefs?The same people who believe a dead criminal resurrected to be God?Puleeze!I'll tell you what is "different",those people who cant seem to purchase a can of their own business and hate all over the place like runny duck squirt...
Hugs!

Answer 10

Well,yes i do.
I think about it,will my parents get mad if i turned out to be gay? or Will my family accept me as a gay person,Will they respect me?
All sorts of questions keeps on popping out of me head and i question myself.

I dont choose my sexuality,i just love the person with all my heart and i dont judge or choose their gender like if thats a girl,i wont fall in love with her.I just love the person sincerely.

Have a nice day mate