My husband just told me he wants to give up working and all worldly possessions and live in a Buddhist Monistary! This means I would be paying for all of the bills myself, I might as well be single! Am I a fool for being with someone as whimsical as this, and should I leave him? I think it is over for our marriage, i just want someone else's opinion. What would you do?
2007-10-25 10:10:02 · 12 answers · asked by pizza_party9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him to go ahead - see if he is serious - if so... divorce him and move on!
2007-10-25 10:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It also means giving up all attachments, so you would be better off making it official with a divorce so you can get on with your life. Becoming a monk is not whimsical, it is very very serious, and you should certainly find out how serious he really is about it before making any decisions.
2007-10-25 10:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I totally respect the notion of following one's passion, he is ignoring his responsibility to you and your vows. If he goes and you are still married when he leaves, I would suggest making certain that he has no outstanding bills for which you would be responsible. It might not hurt to find a lawyer - not necessarily a divorce lawyer, but someone that could be able to help you figure out how much of his dream you will have to finance.
Would he support you if you made a similar decision?
2007-10-25 10:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by anon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be allowed to be a Buddhist monk AND married, so if he is serious, he'll have to divorce you anyway. Try and stay on friendly terms and sort out your finances, if your nice-he should give you all his wordly possessions (I'mm thinking house/car) so money wouldn't be a worry. But make sure he's serious first!!!
2007-10-26 22:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Meryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him up and get a divorce. This might be his version of a mid-life crisis. But no matter what is going on with him, no husband should be acting this selfishly without talking to you. It is ultimately his choice. You need to find someone who loves you and puts your vows first.
2007-10-25 10:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that if he does...he's a liar.....marriage is supposed to be a PERMANENT commitment...nonetheless, if he still wants top go...all you can really do is let him go. You're probably much better off anyway...this guy sounds like a real flake....not because he wants to divest himself of worldly goods; but because he also wants to do it at your expense by breaking his commitment to you...
You might also ask him if he realizes that monastic cultures have long been "dens of sodomy".... not necessarily by consent either.
2007-10-25 10:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Monastery life is not easy. If he even goes, he will be crawling back within a week.
You know if you should leave him, not anybody answering through a website. You need to make up your own mind.
2007-10-25 13:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Teaim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I'd like to do that too, but I am aware of and dedicated to my responsibilities. He needs a plan. If he cannot plan it out in a way that does not increase your burden, perhaps he should abandon the idea.
2007-10-25 10:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl he is probably messing with you.
but he wants to be a monk, then you need to find out what is really the problem between you two. bills should not be your main concern.
2007-10-25 10:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he wants to explore homosexuality. My gay aunt beatrice left her husband and became a nun. Guess what, a year later she left the nunnery with her new girlfriend.
2007-10-25 10:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Brittney 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like a bad joke!
2007-10-25 10:18:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋