I would prefer answers from people who had tried the swinging lifestyle and can give me an honest opinion of both pros and cons of swinging.
Thanks.
Tony
2007-10-25 09:30:24 · 15 answers · asked by cho4o 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pros: Can make an already hot sex life even hotter, gives you an opportunity to try new things/explore fantasies/learn things you never would have thought of. If you are a voyeur/exhbitionist by nature...well...obvious benefit there. Meeting new people (many of us are friends even outside of the lifestyle -- I've met one of my best girlfriends this way).
Cons: There is the risk of disease/pregnancy (though most people in the lifestyle take precautions, the risk is still there), JEALOUSY, meeting people you don't click with, etc. Affairs have been known to happen.
If it's something you are going to try, proceed slowly and make sure you're communicating EVERY step of the way. Neither partner should be "taking one for the team" or participating just to appease the other.
Basically, in a solid relationship with good communication and strong trust, it can be a fantastic experience. In a relationship that's on shaky ground, where the communication is faltering, trust is lacking, etc., it can be DISASTROUS.
2007-10-25 10:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Being A Swinger
2016-11-12 04:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by house 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pros and cons of a swinger's lifestyle equals to the cons and pros of a monogamous marriage.
2016-03-13 10:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be "found out." You cannot hide it, the people you will be involved will---WILL---talk and gossip, just like everything else in life, these people cannot keep their mouths shut about it, and they will---WILL---uh, forget to include the fact that they were involved with you and swinging as well. It's a game of "discretion," but no one, -----No one-----is "discreet at all. The very first time my wife and I met another couple, that's the "first rule" were told, to say nothing....But even before dinner was through, our hosts, who demanded no one know, well....the sister in law knew. A boss new...A close friend knew...A neighbor nearby knew....In spite of being warned of discretion, and keeping it quiet, our hosts revealed that a LOT of people knew of their swinging. Nothing happened. We made a few excuses, and left, especially when we were told that the neighbor that was mentioned earlier was "keeping an eye out in case my wife and I turned out to be "dangerous"..." That was it, but----sure enough, some months later, some trouble broke out with this couple and their uh, "activities," and the husband lost a job and everyone found out....Who got the blame? my wife and I, though we never spoke a word of it and we never did anything with this couple. And yet, we were 'running our mouths..." We also had a Pastor and his wife who were into this and they of curse, needed complete and total discretion too, but no, oh no, a Pastor and his wife??? Its a wacky world. One we are guilty of creating for ourselves. We have stopped doing this for over a decade now, but you still never know who knows.... And that's a problem..... You got to a store or work, and you don't know who knows.....Even if you say and have said nothing........
2016-12-09 04:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if you decide to become a swinger.... make sure your partner agrees to the rules you both set.... Make sure your life can handled the lifestyle.... Keep in mind, there are two of yall.... and thats the only person that you love...
You have to agree to rules, by agreeing there will not be anyone cheating.... but if you step outside that field of rules, you get in the cheating area... not everyone has the same set of rules....
2007-10-25 09:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by christy s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
On court TV there's a case going on were a guy talked his wife into swinging i think you can get all the pros and cons you want by watching this case..
2007-10-25 09:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
absolutely DO NOT DO IT! if your married?? don't sabotage your marriage for this crap! I tried it only once it almost destroyed us and we are still struggling to make it work! its not worth the stress and pain caused by emotional turmoil! not to mention STDS many do not use protected sex and do not get tested regularly. In my opinion, spice things up by using toys, role playing, different positions! you will be happier that way. Never introduce another person into your bedroom!
2013-10-09 09:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pros: It can be a blast for both.
Cons: Jealousy, insecurity, misunderstanding. Disease/accidental pregnancy - technically yes, the risks depend on the behavior of the individuals.
It will only work if the "cons" part is completely taken care of.
Boogie time!
2007-10-25 09:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Pros:
Sexual variety
Can bring spark back into your relationship
Meeting open minded people
Fun parties
Cons:
Risk of STDs
Jealousy/insecurity
Possible career or civic issues if you are outed
Hiding (or not) the fact from family, kids, friends
2007-10-25 09:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd think its extremely dangerous. You can never know if the other people you are sleeping with has a std.
Also I believe that sleeping with anyone you aren't married to is adultery weither or not your spouse is ok with it.
2007-10-25 09:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋