How do you handle a flirty neighbor?

Question

My future husband and I are building a new home and everytime we check on the progress our married neighbors come over to chat. The female neighbor smiles, stares,stands close and touches my futrue husband plus she is doing this while she is with her husband. Do I talk to her or what? I hate to start a war before we move in but I can not tolerate this much longer. Thanks for any help.

Answer 1

I say pull her aside and be straight up, tell her you don't like it.
We finally had to ignore ours, she finally got the hint.

Answer 2

That would make me uncomfortable as well, but that is me. She may actually mean no harm, especially since her husband is right there when this is occuring, she may just be one of those women who is just touchy, feely, (especially with men). I used to work with someone like that, and once I made a joke about it, and she was very offended. I wound up looking like the jackal. To her it was just in her nature, she had never even given it a second thought, and so when I made a comment/joke about it, it made her uncomfortable- she later told me that from that point on whenever I was around, she made it a point to stop refrain from any touching. And the even funnier thing is I never noticed that she stopped. i guess it was just one of those things where it annoyed me because it was different than what I considered normal to be. But it never really was a huge issue to me, I just thought it was annoying and strange. So if this is something that really makes you uncomfortable, I think that you should have your husband say something to her being that she is touching him and not you. That way you don't look like the insecure wife. From you post I don't think you are but I just want you have a heads up on what someone from the outside looking might think. Especially if you don't go the about the situation in the right way.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well that kind of takes all the fun out of getting married and getting a new house doesn't it? I guess you could return the favour and cop a feel or two from her man to see how she feels about that. After all what comes around goes around. Either that or find a different house to buy.

Answer 4

Talk to ur future husband , explain to him her action hurts u , so that next tiime when she tries doing so with him he can show the resentment through his body language, action can speak more than words. U should have cordial relations with the neighbours but they shouldnt take u for a ride.

Answer 5

Well, are you sure it is flirting and not just being friendly? I know it sounds kind of like its stepping over the line of friendly. If it were me, I would just stop by and talk to her woman to woman. Explain that you think it is inappropriate, and it seems like she is being overly friendly. See how she responds. She may think she is just being friendly, or she may be a tramp! Who knows? Just go talk to her.

Or, talk to your future husband, explain that it makes you feel uncomfortable, he could step up and say something, or move away when she starts, that would get her to stop, seeing that she has made him uncomfortable. Good luck! And congrats!

Answer 6

Yes, it's time to have a talk with her. For all you know, her husband may not have noticed or even worse, they are swingers, either way, it's time to set some boundaries, if it doesn't get through to her, tell her you will have this talk with her husband.

Answer 7

When she starts to move in on your man take his hand and pull him away while looking right at her. She'll get the message! If she keeps it up after that, punch her in the mouth!

Answer 8

A swift knee to the box should get the message across.

Answer 9

Tell your future hubby how you feel, maybe he hasn't even noticed. Perhaps he could let her know by pulling or moving away from her.

Answer 10

They are probably swingers looking for a bit of group action.