i beleive in child support&womans right to choose however why is it women go to blame mode on men?

Question

i beleive in child support&womans right to choose however why is it women go to blame mode on men . If you did not want a child you should not have slept with her .

The responsiblty is both the male and the females .We dont say to women if you did not want to get pregnant keep your vagina shut . So why do we go to blame mode on men when they articlaute there concerns ?

Answer 1

I put the blame on both for the pregnancy. This is where equal responsibility applies. It takes two to have sex. It takes two to fail to use protection. And it takes two to get pregnant. It takes one to decide whether to keep the child, so the man needs to be more careful knowing he won't have much to say once it does happen.

I honestly don't believe in too many "accidental" pregnancies. They happen, but the percentage of pregnancies being blamed on "accidents" are simply too many for me to believe. People use methods that increase the likelihood of "accidents"...this, I would call irresponsibly choosing more risky methods, not accidents.

Answer 2

Yes, we DO say to women "if you don't want to get pregnant keep your vagina shut." I think it's pretty good advice to anyone. And I think women are often encouraged (a great deal more than men) to "not sleep around."

And your point is the point I try to make consistently. That BOTH are responsible, and that men shouldn't just take the word of the woman (especially if they don't know her very well) and simply accept that she is on birth control, and not take measures yourself. THAT is negligent, and when she "oopses" you, don't be surprised, and DO admit your own fault in the matter for leaving your reproductive choices and responsibilities in the hands of someone else, especially someone that you obviously couldn't trust very much in the first place.

EDIT-Yes, Ember Halo, perhaps not those EXACT words, lol!

Answer 3

If a man doesn't want to run the risk of getting a woman pregnant, then he must not become sexually involved with her. Once the seed is dropped, it's dropped. It's done. No turning back. Case closed.

If DNA tests prove positive, men must step up to the plate and take full responsibility for their children. What they think about the mothers is irrelevant. The children need the loving care, time, and attention of both parents.

Men expressing their concerns is one thing; however, not taking responsibility for their children is unwarranted and unacceptable.

Answer 4

Where have you been, under a rock? The first person blamed is the woman, the first thing people think and say when an unwanted pregnancy occurs is "she should have kept her legs closed"

What you are referring to is the comments made to a man when he decides to complain about her choice to keep or not to keep the child. This is a secondary comment towards a man that does not want to take on the responsibility of a child or does not want a woman to have the right to choose.

Answer 5

I've been hanging out in this little dysfunctional environment (GWS) for about a year now. Long enough to identify the trends. And right now, there is a huge trend of anti-feminists balking at having to pay the price for pregnancy, but not having any choice in the matter. Before that, it was a battle about physical strength. And before that, if I recall correctly, it was something about Affirmative Action and women getting unfair advantages in the workplace. And on and on it goes...

The common denominator in all of these topics is this....you don't ever come across people in the real world talking about these issues or even thinking about them. One anti-fem comes out with a concept, and a few jump on the band wagon. From the group of them, one young buck assigns himself the leader of the pack and bellows the loudest and with the most outrageous language. The young buck in this argument is Brad...he is the self appointed 'affront man'.

So c'mon ladies (and equally bored men), just stop paying attention. Don't answer the questions...don't pay them any heed. And soon enough, a new topic will become the latest rage. Hopefully, it will be a little more interesting and make more sense than this particular drivel...

Answer 6

We aren't blaming men completely. The woman is also at fault for knowingly having unprotected sex with an unwilling man. Both parties should be held accountable.

Answer 7

There are no women on here whining about how they got pregnant and don't want to deal with the consequences. But there are plenty of men. That's why you only hear the one side.

Answer 8

I'm going to copy & paste what I'd posted here before:

Well they say: "her body, her choice"

Is it "her" responsibility?

No, they drag the man back in to finance "her" decisions.

He gets ZERO say.

If it's "her" body & "her" choice, don't pull "him" into "her" domain only when it's convenient.

It's only "both" when it's convenient for the woman.

This system is yet another example of "male privilege" I guess.

If women have the LEGAL right to not become mothers, men should have the LEGAL right to a financial abortion it they do not wish to be fathers.

It's either that or do away with the 14th amendment because it isn't worth anything.

"Oh, but it's for the child... we're doing what's best for the child."

Tell that to an aborted child.

Answer 9

My g'ness. Roll-over questions with roll-over answers, straight from the Y!A archives, it may not be as accurate, but it's still a roll-over to many of the Q's & A's that has been given.

DITTO on Super Ruper! I second it.

Answer 10

Exactly... but a lot of women are not rational and lack accountability of any kind.