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For example I have heard a few people say that both partners have agreed not to make new friends because they shouldn't have a reason to go out looking for more fulfillment. I think this is a huge load of crap. My boyfriend and I are very social and have a large circle of mutual friends. His friends become my friends and vice versa. We have been together almost 2 years and we absolutely could not be happier.
So where does this issue come from? Is it insecurity? Or is it because you like to control someone? If you think a simple thing as making a new friend will lead to that person cheating, then you are with the wrong person. You are telling them in a roundabout way that you do not trust them. If you don't have trust, you have nothing.

2007-10-25 09:00:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

If another female is being inappropriate around my man, I will let her know. It makes no difference to me if she is a friend or a stranger.

2007-10-25 09:32:54 · update #1

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I think it is a combination of both insecurity AND the need to be in control. I believe keeping someone to himself/herself at all times not only shows selfishess/insecurity/need to control, but it is also a very quick way to end a relationship. Naturally, the dynamic you have with your friends will change with a developing relationship... but it is no reason to forbid new friendships from being made.

2007-10-25 09:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 5 · 1 0

I totally agree with you. Some people can not handle anyone, not being there for them, they don't want to share. I have found out if you really know a person and are in a relationship, you could trust that person to go on a vacation, and not worry. My husband and I did things together, but I some times would beg him to go with just his friends without me.

2007-10-25 16:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1 0

I agree with you about the whole insecurity thing but nowadays its hard to just trust so a person may look at it like "why do you need to make new friends?" I wish a lot of relationships were like yours

2007-10-25 16:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 1 0

uh...well, that depends. you could have girl/guy friends but i think thats setting a relationship up for problems. it is not insecurity, its just smart. but obviosly your relationship has no restricions, so why do you care who does? and my husband trusts me, he just does not trust other men with me. see the difference??? just as a woman may not trust other women with their man. meaning flirting ,making advances, coming onto them. that is very normal my dear:)

2007-10-25 16:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by blakesgal 3 · 0 2

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