When do you stop trusting another person? How many chances do you give them until you cut them off?

Answer 1

"Actions speak louder then words." "We are here to be used
but not abused." Certainly people deserve another chance,
Depending on the person's age and track record, as well as
circumstance, maybe even more then just one more chance.
If and when you feel like this person is dragging you down,
emotionally, draining your energy, and you become moody in
their presence, you have already waited to long to let them go in peace and love, and you might lose your temper and not let go in peace. Blessings

Answer 2

A lot depends on the severity of the situation, although I
personally find betrayal one of the worst offenses between
so called "friends" or lovers. White lies can curry forgiveness
but downright whoppers, no...unless it's something benign
like telling someone you're sick when you're not. The time
when the axe comes down permanently is when a
confidence is breached or a lover has cheated. This is
an ingrained personality disorder that taints the whole
relationship with mistrust and doubt as the lying probably
started the day you met the person. It takes a long time
to rebuild trust with someone else after this happens....and
personally (though I abhor really frivolous law suits) I think
a branch of the old "breach of promise" lawsuit could be
put in place for this one.

Answer 3

I don't feel that we are here to trust others.
I feel we are here to learn to listen to our higher self and trust in that.
If they are also doing that, listening to their higher self and trusting in that, then the only sane answer is forgiveness.

Trust in your own feelings, and you will not get in that position of someone doing something that you can't trust. You would already have foreseen it.
I love my friends, but I would not trust them, they are fickle and I love them for it, we all live on the premise of moving on the basis of obviousness in listening to our intuition and we all know that.
We can call the other on it, there is an unwritten rule, that we are learning to love in all circumstances, so to witness and support each other in this process is the trust.
We trust in this in each other, nothing else can be trusted, unless you have an understanding.

Forgive and forget, and learn from your errors.

I personally like mission statements, helps set the stage, people know what is what, then it is the glue they are forsaking, not the person.

Maybe this doesn't make any sense to you, but bottom line, you really shouldn't put your trust in people to be a certain way. It is too binding on both.
We need to be free to move with the ebb and flow of life, love and God.

At the very least, it should not be taken personally.

Peace in the heart.

Answer 4

That's really a tough call sometimes, sometimes people are untrustworthy, while other times they just make mistakes.... I generally like to take my time about sizing someone up, before cultivating a relationship with them, though, and can generally tell pretty quickly if someone is likely to be a gossip or something like that, and then I just don't encourage thier "friendship" in the first place. If I have placed my trust in another, and found it to be abused, still a tough call, I guess it depends on the situation, or the nature of the "betrayal" before I would cut someone out of my life...........

Answer 5

If you're married, there should be a huge line that neither partner should cross when it comes to fidelity. (my opinion, my standards) That's what the commitment of 'any exclusive relationship' is all about in the first place.

If you have to ask this question about trusting somebody, you've already got a problem staring you in the face. Just the fact that a partner has given you reason to doubt their honesty in the first place says you have a problem that is only going to get worse. Each time they give you reason to question their actions, or intentions, or whereabouts or fidelity, they in essence undermine the relationship until it is impossible to put back together what they've managed to break up a piece at a time.

I wouldn't want to give a partner anymore of my time and effort and love and devotion if they'd already proved to be be untrustworthy to me. If you have reason to doubt and not trust them, you don't have sh_____!!! anyway.

Answer 6

I stop trusting someone when I can prove they lied to me. I don't need 5 lies to know it was a lie, the first one, means they are a liar.
I probably give too many chances. I put up with more hurt than I should. I really let someone tear me up, b/f I let go. I'm more suspicious of people than I used to be. I wait longer to call them "friend" than I used to. This saves me from cutting them loose later. It's like having a probation period for friendship. I let someone prove their value to me, then I add them as a friend.

Answer 7

If you don't need to 'trust' in the first place, you don't have to ask the question. This problem may just be a matter of being attached to 'trusting.'

A better question is "Why is 'trusting' important to me? What is the origin of people being 'untrustworthy' in my experience? Where did come from?"

Once you cease overtly caring about the issue, you will not encounter untrustworthy people. Forgiveness is more profound as a transformed internal state rather than simply a matter of giving people more chances to prove themselves.

Answer 8

scorpios are not famous for giving many chances...

it depends on the situation, and what has been done. i don't trust easily, and someone who breaks a trust isn't easily forgiven.

that doesn't mean that i would never speak to the person again, or that i would try to hurt them in any way. i just would not let them that close to me again.

to me breaking a trust isn't like someone forgetting to return a movie they borrowed, or borrowing money and not being able to pay it back. it's nothing so trivial as that.

as i said it depends on the situation...

bright blessings to you

Answer 9

You stop trusting another Person, when you find out she/he, lied about something you said, so, for me that is one too many chances.

Answer 10

mmm are you directing this question to me or am I paranoid or just guilty? We were taught to respect everyone until they no longer deserve it.Being a scorpio I can cut folk off for eternity sometimes but I tend to think that if they are honest enough and speak straight from the heart they will always be my friend.