Well i known this guy for 8 months we were friends for the first 2 months and then we started to go out, well he has another girlfriend and i have another boyfriend...at first when we started to go out we decided to be just for fun but not get serious, well a month after he told me that he had strong feelings for me and that he loved me, i didnt loved him at that time but i told him that i loved him aswell, but then like a week later i started to have feelings for him and well now im crazy about him we have slept together and he is always telling me that he loves me i tell him that aswell, he also gets so jelous when i talk about my boyfriend or when i tell him that i been hanging out with boys, he asks me alot of questions when i mention boys...i havent told him but, im so jelous that he has another gf and that he knew her first than me it botheres me alot, but i cannot say anything because i got a bf too and i know he might be in the same position as me...
2007-10-25 08:47:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when i first met him i was going out with this guy then i dumped him and went out with another guy, then dumped that other guy and now im going out with my other bf who i met in college we been going out for like a month now, and this guy i been going out has been going out with his gf for 4 years, im 16 and he is 21, he is so crazy about me just like i am, but do you think this is wrong???
and do you think that he preffers me that we has only been going out wiv me for 6 months or do you think he preffers his propper girlfriend thats he is been going out for like 4 years???
in my situation i preffer him than my actual bf, but thats because i have feelings for him and my other bf is not that serious...
sorry if im not very understandable...thanx
2007-10-25 08:52:20 · update #1
oh yes by the way im in the uk its legal for a 21 year old guy to be going out with a 16 year old girl
2007-10-25 08:58:45 · update #2
crapface you full of crap
2007-10-25 09:05:15 · update #3
If you are willing to break up with your boyfriend put that offer on the table. If he loves you like he says he should have no problem breaking if off with the other girl. If he doesn't want to I doubt he loves you.
2007-10-25 08:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rosha N 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you don't have the right to be jealous of him talking about his girlfriend when you yourself have a boyfriend as well. Talk it over with each other and decide that either you are going to do this and you'll break up with those other significant others or if you should just part ways. It sounds like you guys have a pretty good thing if it has lasted eight months. But if it is lasted this long, you know you are going to get caught sooner or later so you better just take care of this now. I hope this helped!
2007-10-25 15:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? First, of all do you both have strong feeling for your significant other more than you do for each other? If so, then you both need to agree to end the realationship with your partners. But if you feel like you will be loosing something more and you love your boyfriend and he is more suitable than you need to let each other go. Either way, get ready to suffer the consequences of pain and hurt on both ends. Also, be prepared that you might regret your decision in the future, so be WISE. But make a decision before someone gets hurt and the situation continue to escalate. I hope thngs work out for you.
2007-10-25 15:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Single123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both are pathetic. You are not in love, you are in lust. Can't keep your hands off each other but pretend to have bf/gf and are jealous. I see warning flags though. His asking questions should be sending up warning flares.....he's an controller. Often this leads to abusers. You both still have bf/gf so neither is committed to this relationship. Neither one of you is emotionally ready for this. You both need a cold shower and to be w/o bf/gf for awhile until your hormones settle down and your maturity grows up. Deary, I'd run as fast as I could away from this trouble. Is it worth the hassle, possible abuse, lying, cheating.......? This is not healthy.
2007-10-25 15:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does this question really need to be answered and did it really need to be asked?!?! If you two were really committed to the people you were originally with then this would not even be a discussion. Now that it has led to more the both of you need to either evaluate your first relationships and decide if they need to be held on to or either evaluate your present relationship with eachother and decide if it is the right thing to do. How would both of you or lets just say you feel if your first boyfriend had another girlfriend on the side? You can't be jealous because you knew he had a gilrfriend. This whole situation is crazy. You just have a decision to make because it isn't right at all if you have morals!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-25 15:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by LuvableTa 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
oh my gosh. such drama. Why don't you break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and go out with each other if you "love" each other so much? Tell him you'll break up with your boyfriend for him if he'll do the same for you. Your boyfriend and girlfriend deserve to find someone that's not cheating on them and will be honest with them. You two cheaters need to be together too but don't be surprised if he cheats on you once you two are together. Once a cheat always a cheat. EDIT-I read your other details and now that I know your ages I say YES it is wrong. You are only 16 and he is over age! That is illegal in most states. He's just using you for sex.
2007-10-25 15:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Break off your relationship with your BF, and have him do the same with your GF. Your are setting a bad president for future relationships for yourself and your BFs by keeping this kind of life style going.
Also multiple love interests increases the risk of STDs and transition of them which is how AIDs and such as gotten so out of hand.
2007-10-25 15:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Harmon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the bf/gf and get on with life. You obviously aren't happy with the other gf/bf. Let them go and give it a whirl. Thats the whole point of not being married. Its to date and find the one you want. Not stick with someone and want someone else. Go enjoy the freedom of being legally unattached.
Also it really isn't fair to the bf/gf to keep stringing them along.
Good luck, enjoy life!
2007-10-25 15:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by momof2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong, especially as it is making you feel so sad and confused. What you need to do is finish with your boyfriend and give yourself a bit of space from your friend. The ball will be in his court next, you will have to wait and see if he ends things with his girlfriend, if he does take things slowly!! If not you will know that although you have presented him with the opportunity to be with you on a legitimate basis he hasn't taken up the offer.
Don't continue with this mess, what if you get pregnant and don't know who the dad is!!
2007-10-25 15:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by JOANNE C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i were in the same situation as you i would tell him that as long as were together we should not have other gfs or bf and that it doesn't make you comfortable that he is seeing another girl other than you
2007-10-25 15:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by maddie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋