ok I am 36 Weeks Pregnant and I am scared. I know women go through it all the time. But I am so scared of the pain. The epidural I heard is just like a little be sting and it nothing compared to the contractions you are/will be having. But the thing is every piercing every blood being drawn I passed out. The sight of a need make me sick and i 98 percent of the time passed out. I guess I am just wondering stories and words of encouragement. Also what do I do about my Boyfriend, yes we are together and happy But he sometimes is the joker and I think he will joke with me during labor and I think I may get really mad at him, because when I have those little Braxon Hicks contractions I get Irritated because he tries to hug and comfort me. I don't Want to be touched so do I have to say babe I'm sorry for all the things I may say to you?
2007-10-25 08:41:13 · 15 answers · asked by camopaiser 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think your bf will figure out really fast what he should and shouldn't do while you're in labor - trust me! ; ) My husband (my best friend and I absolutely adore and love him with my whole heart - we've been married 18 yrs) was threatened within an inch of his life when we had baby #4. I never had to ride in a car in labor before (2 were born at home, #3 my water broke at the dr's office and the hospital was across the parking lot) - I told him, "Robert, If you go over 1 more bump or if you drive too fast - I am coming over there, kicking you out of the van while it's moving and I will drive there myself!" and I MEANT it at the time - LOL!
With #1, he made the mistake of saying, "This isn't so bad! We will have to do this again!" during a contraction when it was getting harder - I almost punched him. Understand, I am not a violent person. The only thing that saved him was I had the ability to reason still and figured I might need him to be conscious later... hehehe
The pain isn't unbearable - you have to put it in perspective. It is TEMPORARY. It's not that bad when labor first begins - it's during transition that it's bad (and you won't realize you're in it - it's just bad for a few minutes and then they say, "You're at 10! You can push!!!" and you feel so much better!) I felt so relieved and empowered when I could push - it was a huge difference to all the time just waiting to get to 10 cms! I had a 24 hour labor with #1 and then #2 was only 3 hours. If you think you can do this and you know you were made to do this, it makes all the difference - relax, think about not fighting the contractions but breathing through it. I never wanted an epidural because of the risks - I was going to try natural and it was fine. It made me so proud of myself! It was so worth it - when labor is over, its over! My daughter was wide awake, had no problems nursing - it was fantastic!
I had back labor too with all 4 babies - so that's as bad as it gets. I wouldn't have ever chosen an epidural unless I had a 36 hour labor or something and I was getting too tired. It's fine if you need it, but try it without and see - you'll have lots of time to change your mind! Early labor isn't bad! Women have done labor and birth since the beginning of time - the movies make it look so much worse than it is. Pitocin would make it harder - then I can see having pain meds, but if everything is fine, I'm sure you can do it without any help = think HAPPY GOOD thoughts - not "I'm scared!!!" Happy thoughts put you in control - scared thoughts make it worse. You'll see - you'll be FINE!! Congrats!!! HOW exciting!!!
2007-10-25 08:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lamont 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had natural birth and the epidural and I will take the epidural in a heartbeat. For m it was not just the pain, and yes there is a lot of it, but it was the fact that after the birth, I felt more exhausted because hard labor is strenuous on the body and I fell asleep not long after I saw my child. Now with the epidural, I was comfortable, alert, watched my favorite dvds, laughed witrh my mate and my family until the doctor came in , checked me and told me it was time to push. The body still labors the same way, but you do not FEEL it the same. I also was also ecstatic because I got to hold my baby without all the exhaustion, count his fingers and toes and rested only when they took him to the nursery. Much better experience. The only caviat is that you need to do what the anethstitist tell you to do, like being still whill inserting the needle so you don't end up with a spinal headache, or spotty epidrural, where you can still feel contractions in a certain spot. Also, the epidural goes in your back, so you can ask the anethestist to only take the needle out once he is behind you; that way you won't have to see it. As far as labor goes with your mate, you should tell him NOW what you would like your experience to be, and that you need space when having contractions and that you would only like him to rub your back or massage you or hug you if you request it; also tell him that you are feeling a little anxious about giving birth and that you would rather him curtail the joking until you give him the "okay" so to speak. BUT if you get the epidural, you may change your mind, because you will not be in a lot of pain and may find his jokes an awesome and loving way to pass the time! Blessings....
2007-10-25 16:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by jmizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that bad....and if your watching " A baby story" stop....it will scare the hell out of you. Every women is different and you may not have bad contractions.....I didn't have contractions I had what they call back labor. And that's when you have the "contractions" in your back...but to me it just felt as if someone was pinching me....wasn't bad at all. And I did at the last minute get the Epidural becasue the contractions in my back were comming to fast and I felt as if I couldn't breath. It wasn't that bad I think the worst of the epi is the stinging in the back when the medicince is going thru.
After that your home free....you feel nothing at all from the waist down after that....I couldn't even feel one of my legs and the doctor was telling me to pick it up but I couldn't becasue I couldn't feel it.....And if this gives you any peace of mind I was on the phone the entire time I was delivering thinks to the EPI.... I pushed and then they passed me the phone back. GOOD LUCK and your BF will forgive u after he sees what your doing for him!!!
2007-10-25 15:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by saving grace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An epidural is behind your back so you won't see it happening. The initial IV is all you will have to deal with & the nurses will probably help you out. If you're worried about your b/f then make sure you have a back up in the labor room or just rely on the nurses. They will be able to tell if he needs to be with you or not. And don't worry about what you scream at him...he'll get over it & someday it will be a funny story to tell your kid! Best Wishes
2007-10-25 15:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Elaina D B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well the epidural is done in your back. you wont even have to see the needle. and trust me its worth it. you may be in so much pain from contractions that you probably wont care what they do to you to make the pain stop:)
also try not to worry so much not about how your BF acts, when you are in real labor and in the hospital if he is bothering you just tell him then "i just need some space" and im sure he will understand. ask if he could leave the room for a bit so you can get some rest. you dont have to be mean about it, but just tell him thats what you need to feel better
2007-10-25 15:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a spinal morphine, which is the same process. You cant feel it. They numb it. You can ask for some stadol first too, it really takes the edge off for you, and you dont care about anything.
It doesnt hurt. I promise.
And really , labor isnt bad AT ALL. pushing is fine, its from crowning until the shoulders pass that hurts, but thats usually like 2 minutes or 3-4 pushes. Thats when it hurts. And its over soooo fast you spend your time thinking "OH MY GOD THIS HURTS!!! I HOPE IT DOESN HURT MORE! oh wait its over?"
I promise, its NOTHING to be scared about. Its the most amazing time of your life ever, nothing compares to it. Its the moment you meet your child. Your body is amazing, it knows jsut what its doing, and you CAN handle it.
2007-10-25 15:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are THERE and you are going through it...ALL you are worried about is getting that baby out!!! Period. You won't even NOTICE if she sticks you with a needle!!! Trust me on this.... and hasn't the nurses asked you to turn your head away so you don't see it?
Close your eyes or choose a focal point, just as if you were in labor and breathe....Well, you WILL be in labor and you will be choosing focal points... and well, sweetie.... the shots will feel really good compared!
Relax and just enjoy the ride...just remember!!
Just when you think you can't do it anymore.....it will be over!
In fact, remember that for later too...just when you think you can't take it for one more minute, it's over....that's true with most anything in life.
2007-10-25 15:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Michele J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
needles arent that bad. when i broke my arm i had an IV in my arm and it was fairly painful. But it just hurts for a second or two. You'll be okay i promise. Once you say that bundle of joy you will be estatic. You will be exremely happy when you see what you have created. And for your boyfriend i just suggest lettimg him in for awhile and if he really is bugging you tell him he needs to leave. my dad was the joker type but my mom said that when he was in that room he was serious and did not make any remarks until after it was all over.
2007-10-25 16:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Milk Me I Dare You 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing i would tell you is tell ur b/f to chill out...when ur in labor the last thing you need is him playin around....you need to conentrate and not have more stress than you need....and tell him to back off until you say you want him to touch you. that way he doesnt feel bad and he wont annoy you either. now im just turned 21 and had my second son 4 weeks ago and i didnt have an epidurial for either of them...just some stadol for contractions. now im really bad with needles too....wayyy bad...so if you dont like needles (your gunna have to have an IV btw...) your better off witout the epi especially if you pass out....the pain of labor isnt that bad again i had no meds...so you can do it !!
2007-10-25 15:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by exxie6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women's bodies are made to handle childbirth. You can do this. Don't be scared! I think things will go much more smoothly for you if you stop dreading the process and instead embrace it.
(I just posted a question about how much I'm looking forward to labor and delivery!)
2007-10-25 15:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋