been seperated for 7 months now and my husband does want a divorce but he has not filed for one, so what do u think i do not believe in divorce its my belief and he hasnt filed yet ty for your input jewels
2007-10-25 08:17:44 · 12 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So.. you believe that divorce does not exist? That someone can not get a divorce?
I don't think it really matters what you BELIEVE. The fact is your soon-to-be-ex-husband no longer wants to be married to you. He WILL be filing papers to the court to dissolve your marriage. It doesn't matter what you believe... what matters is that according the the law, your marriage will cease to exist.
2007-10-25 08:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If either of you have any intention on gettin back together (being 7 months u might not) then one day one of you will want to start over most likely. Right now niether wants to go through with the divorce, but eventually he might and even if you don't believe in it I'm pretty sure a court can order you to sign the papers.
So what I"m saying is even though you don't believe in it doesn't mean you will never have to sign any papers.
I do have a question for you. Why would you not want to divorce him I mean I'm guessing he is moving on maybe even with another woman. Is this just being selfish and not wanting to let him go or is it religion reason? Why would you want to stay with legally married to someone who is not at all committed to you? Do you plan to be seperated for the rest of your life and its okay because its not legal (all it is is a piece of paper) he is already and you really divorced if you move on with someone else right.
2007-10-25 08:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a divorce and he hasn't filed one yet, then perhaps he doesn't either.
However, if you can't work it out, then it isn't fair to either of you to string it out. You may not believe in divorce, but it DOES believe in you.
Seven months is a long time to be separated and you should probably consider that it is over. My wife's family doesn't believe in divorce and yet all four daughters (my wife being the last one to go down) are now divorced.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 08:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Avatar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not believing in something doesn't keep it from happening. Like somehow if you don't condone it then you aren't sinning? Whatever, the fact is you'll be a divorcee and that is that. Regardless of who files, who signs, or who gets what. Marriage takes two but divorce only takes one. Believe it or not nothing you can do about it.
2007-10-25 08:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some states say that once you are separated for a certain amount of time and can prove separate residency, then it becomes a legal separation. In other words, you are divorced. You should look into your state's laws. On the other hand, if you don't want it, then fight for the opposite. He may not have filed either because he doesn't want it himself or he doesn't want to spend the money. Also, most states consider co-occupancy with the opposite sex other than with your spouse to be illegal. You should look into these laws too.
2007-10-25 08:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have never been in that situation but my bible says that God hates divorce. I don't think that he really wnts a divorce b'cause if so he would have done it by now. Get in your word and pray let God guide you and he will never leave you stranded. Why don't the two of you talk about what happened or where did things go wrong communicate is the key. I am engagged to an older man and we communicate about EVERYTHING he has been married before it did't work out but we both agreed that if one of us fall short we must pray for one another and talk it out.Put God first and he will fix any and all situations.
2007-10-25 08:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Boo Boo Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not you believe in divorce, it's a reality. If it's not working out don't stick around due to some ridiculous belief that divorce is immoral. Life is too short. You deserve better.
2007-10-25 08:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by trolleology 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol i have been seperated for almost 2 years and my husband says he wants a divorce but doesn't get one and when i try to move on and date he gets mad or comes over and stalls till its to late to go...lol I don't know the answer and I wish I did. Let me know how it works out for ya. I am stuckin this 2 year circle of it..how long are you willing to wait around
2007-10-25 08:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are separated with no intention of getting back together, then you pretty much are divorced, just not legally. i don't see why that would be any different than actually getting divorced. if you are not going to file and he hasn't yet, then i guess you just go on living your separated life.
2007-10-25 08:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...and what, pray tell, is the advantage of staying married all these past 7 months? What benefit have you recognized?
2007-10-25 08:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋