okay girls help me out here....i'm divorced and single NOW! but i'm afraid of hooking up with guys.....i'm not saying that i'm going to sleep with all these guys but eventually i will end up with one ..so my question is how do i get over the fact that my body is not so perfect...i guess i'm just thinking that the guy might reject me beacuse ..you know "stretch marks"....i mean i'm not fat and i don't think i'm ugly but i don't know i guess this is all new to me...any advise!!!
2007-10-25 08:16:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
remember ladies I'm not fat
i'm 4 11' and weigh 112
..it really is just the "SM" that bother me.
2007-10-25 08:22:54 · update #1
I'm shorter than you. I have a medical condition called dwarfism. Because of my dwarfism, I've had numerous surgeries that left me with many scars on my body. I'm not the most attractive person, but I'm not the ugliest either. I'm somewhere in between and my husband says I'm beautiful, inside and out.
If a guy can't get over the fact that I have dwarfism and other imperfections....they aren't worth my time. There are always people who are better off and worse off than you. No one is perfect, as you know.
Even though I have dwarfism...I have a full time job, car, apartment and I've got myself a husband.
2007-10-25 08:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer.
If you dont respect your self and your body....then no one ever will.
NEWSFLASH: EVERYONE has stretch marks!!!! It is totally unrealistic to think that you shouldnt have them....or that most people dont. Even celebrities have them....theres just some pretty magical computer programs out there that can make those go away.
Plus....if who ever you choose to be with has a problem with them then hes an unrealistic ******!
Your HOT and SINGLE! Do it up baby! Rock it! Within reason and like a resposible adult of course!!! ;)
2007-10-25 15:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thats your own insecurities, be proud of who you are, you gave birth to a child/children you have the strech marks, hey i divorced also, also have a strech marked tummy from 3 kids, and a bit around my hips, any mature man knows this is a part of life and having kids, esp if they have been married and had kids before as well.
A man who loves you will love you strech marks and all... goodluck!
2007-10-25 19:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl dont be insecure about that. Have a postive attitude and guys find that attractive. There are also lotions that are suppose to help with the stretch marks too but I wouldnt let that stop you from dating.
2007-10-25 15:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a little extra weight and had the same problem you do, for me I was nervous at first, still a little sometimes but the guy I'm with tells me that I'm fine the way I am. I think that a guy telling you this helps.
2007-10-25 15:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi , Im not a girl . BUT no one is perfact dont worry about the sm just enjoy yourself . Im sure if you get to the point where he can see the sm's the both of you will be thinkin about something else . lol Just enjoy yourself
2007-10-31 05:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by DR. Obvious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should pull yourself together and get other hobbies and activities to get into. You should meet someone and get to know them for a really long time. Work on your self esteem and find out who you are. You do not need to jump into bed with any man just because you can. This does not prove a darn thing to you or anyone else.
2007-10-25 15:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by leapfrog44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest turn off is insecurity. Stretchmarks should be a proud sign of a job well done! And are a part of life. Guys won't mind so long as you don't mind. TRUST ME>
Love yourself and everyone will love you.
2007-10-25 15:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey none of us have a perfect body especially after we get married the first time... and believe me you are not fat.. maybe you could get a makeover or a new hair cut just to boost your self confidence
2007-10-25 15:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by wenwen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are concerned about your outward appearance then do something about that now...if you are 20 # overweight....start exercising and loosing weight...possibly a new haircut or hair color is in store for you now.
2007-10-25 15:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋