when you meet a girl...and she tells you that she has kids...do you right away shine her off?? ...or is not that big of a deal??? ..........just wondering???....and be honest!
2007-10-25 08:11:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before I had kids I would never date women with them cuz I love kids and was afraid Id fall in love with the kid not the woman. But now that I have kids myself and if I wasn't married Id say I wouldn't think twice but I would make sure there was a connection before either brought there kids into the equation
2007-10-25 08:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bow Hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are he are looking for at that moment. I married a woman with two kids, but I also dated a few women before I got married that had kids. Some of the time we wanted different things. One just wanted to date and have fun. She had been in a marriage for a long time and wasn't ready for a commitment. It all depends on where you are and where she is.
2007-10-25 15:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Not* telling is the deal-breaker.
You spend all this time getting involved with a woman and then suddenly poof she has a kid she "forgot" to tell you about? Bleccch.
Better to know up front.
Later, if it's moving ahead, we'll meet the kid and hear all the fun stories from you about your psycho ex and why you chose him to impregnate you. But for now, at least say you are a mom. People trying to say they "forgot" that is lame-oh.
2007-10-25 15:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest,Its not that big of a deal unless you cant get along with her kids.
It all depends what you what really,some don't mind and some would never go for it,it really depends on each person.
Good luck and take care.
2007-10-25 15:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sorry deleted 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It completely depends on the guy! Older guys may not mind but most don't want to raise someone elses kids and have to deal with some baby daddy for the rest of their lives.
One thing I can tell you is don't bring home guys for sex while your kids are home. It will scar them for life!
2007-10-25 15:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Smooth Lyrics II 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I married a woman who had 2 little kids.
It's important to be honest! If you tell a guy and he says forget it, than he wasn't for you.
If you HIDE it from him and he finds out and then leaves, you will probably say "well he just doesn't like women with kids". No - it's that you HID it from him. Relationships built on dishonesty don't do well.
2007-10-25 15:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disco stu, I have to ask what do mean by "hid them"? My daughter would never be a part of my dating scene. Now if it seemed that a particular relationship was going to be more than just dating, I'd be more inclined to be open about having a child? Would that be considered hiding my child? I do that to protect her, as I don't want predators knocking on my door because they know I'm a single mom.
2007-10-25 15:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just complicates things. But as a mature adult, this in and of itself would not make run the other way. It would just make me realize and accept the fact that at best, I could only expect to be #2 in her life. For me and my ego, that is fine. Children should always come first.
Tell me this. How would you feel about a single father? Trust me when I tell you as a single father, we face the same difficulties as single mothers do.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 15:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated then married a woman that had 4 sons. I had one son from a previous marriage. She has since passed away, but the boys still call me dad and have more respect for me than their father.
Sure I was intimidated at first, but it all worked out in the end.
2007-10-25 15:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by Randy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having kids never stopped my interest. Actually her interaction with her kids gave me more info on her which I compared to my expectations. One good 6 year relationship and probably 1/2 dozen rejects.
2007-10-25 15:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋