when my husband and i first met my sis said that he tried to hit on her.i asked him if it was true?he said it was not.she said it was.so now almost 7 years later it is still a question that i ask myself .IS IT TRUE OR NOT.I NEED Advice!HELP!
2007-10-25 08:06:19 · 16 answers · asked by memoriez2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So.. after 7 years this still matters? why? has he done something to make you wonder if he is trustworthy?
why does it matter? he could have said "hello" to your sister and she could have taken it as him "hitting on her" or he could have asked her if she would like a quicky in his truck... does it really matter? I mean you married him knowing that this may or may not have happened?
You've had your answer.. several times from both of them..
One person's politeness is anothers hit....
2007-10-25 08:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows. People have a different measure of what hitting on someone is. What he saw as complimentary conversation she may have seen as being hit on.
Who cares. This happened seven years ago. It was before the two of you were in a committed relationship. You just met. Maybe he did hit on her, but so what. He didn't cheat on you. He hasn't hit on her in seven years. Sounds like you have a good guy, so why stress the relationship over this.
My opinion. Maybe he did. If I hit on my wifes' sister when we first met, I probably wouldn't admit it seven years later either. That would just cause more questions like "do you still want her", "you think she's more attractive than me", and blah blah blah.
Bottom line. It doesn't matter. Seven years has passed and he hasn't done it since. He's with you.
2007-10-25 08:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years give it a rest if that was supposedly an isolated incident...besides, you say it occured "when you first met" so you weren't even an exclusive couple at the time. It may've been poor behavior if he did do it, but at the time he had no idea how he'd come to develop feelings for you.
Why are you still clinging to something that should be a non-issue? One of them is obviously lying, and the chances are higher that it's him (she's nothing to gain from it) but not many people like to admit to boorish behavior, y'know?
If he'd done it on your wedding day or after you were married, or even after you'd been dating exclusively and declared love for one another it might be something to be upset about, but even then it would have needed to have been dealt with back when it occured, not over half a decade later.
Let it go...
2007-10-25 08:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know, in a perfect world, the idea of a flirt-come on-whatever between in laws is a definite NO-NO. Now, I could say you're sister may want him for herself or wants him out of the picture because she wants your company back, either way, I'll give you my 2 cents.
I would have NEVER believed it either when my sister told me that she and my then husband were carrying on with an affair. But I got him to admit it, after hammering him with questions day after day.
The real question for you is: Do you want to know?
2007-10-25 08:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, first thanks sister for being immediately with you. and that i agree, he's not any longer telling the reality. Have a immediately communicate with him and tell him you already know he did it and if he ever tries it again, you sister will in simple terms be effective you already know asap. tell him it is beside the point habit with the different woman, yet noticeably your sister. He might want to coach you some appreciate. If he would not get the hint, hit him the position it hurts. enable him sleep in yet another mattress room until eventually eventually he contains his senses. If he would not or receives disenchanted, tell him to take a hike. adult males go with you to care and they go with to be reeled in. in case you do not say some thing, he will imagine you do not care besides and he can do what he needs. do not enable him jerk you round. bypass woman!
2016-10-22 23:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by lertora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years of marriage you already know the answer. I understand nobody wants to be betrayed. Don't betray yourself. Women have intuition that actually does work if she pays attention to it. If you have doubts, why? Are you the jealous type? Has he acted suspicious? Follow those instincts!
2007-10-25 08:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by Virtual Evie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is whom do you believe? If you love him and you trust him after 7 years you need to let it go. You also need to look at what type of relationship he has now with your sister. If your sister has moved on you need to also let it go and move on.
2007-10-25 08:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by shlywatt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years? I personally think that you should drop it unless they've brought it up again. Why should you waste your time mulling over something like that. It all depends on how serious your sister really was about it, and how strong of a relationship you have with each of them.
2007-10-25 08:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some women flatter themselves....imagination.....Unless he's proved himself a consistant liar in the past, believe him..
Does your sister have a history of flattering herself or being egotistical??
2007-10-25 08:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by John[nottheapostle] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess the important thing, is do you trust him? what kind of a relationship do you and your sister have...could she be jealous of you? there are alot of questions that need to be asked first...but it was seven ye ars ago...is your husband a man of character or is he a skirt chaser.....
2007-10-29 08:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by marcella l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋