My fiance's "ex fling" so to speak, was calling me private all night talking crap to me leaving me messages and I did not answer the phone for her. She said in the message along with other things that has beem talking my fiance and that he went to her house last Friday & the Friday before that. I cant see this coming from him at this point as we have been doing really well in our relationship, we are ALWAYS together but I cant remember what was going on the day she said he came over. I asked him and he is telling my "HELL NO" he didnt go there and she is trying to start stuff as usual & that he would never do anything liek that to me.She does have a history of lying, b/c she has lied to him about me and she has lied to the cops to get us in trouble-she lies all the time. However, he has a past of cheating on me and did with her at one time-they now have two kid and so do we. I dont know what to believe and I want to trust my man, but how do I know?
2007-10-25 07:55:40 · 12 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow - heavy stuff. Well first of all - ask yourself if you trust this man, and if you do then you both will have to work together to make this relationship work. Some cheaters do change - but not many. Change your home number and make it unlisted, change his cell and your cell number and if she calls again on your home line then he is not being on the up and up.
Good Luck.
2007-10-25 08:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Feline05 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're going to have to play detective. Check cell phone and credit card records. Look for receipts in his pockets for items. If he's been buying gifts, and you haven't received anything from him, that's a red flag. Does he act apologetic for no reason? Does he get irritable and upset when you ask simple and innocent questions? Does he act secretive? Has he suddenly started doing his own laundry? Do your friends trust him? What does your instinct tell you? If he has a history of cheating, especially with this girl, then you should at least follow up and if you find something, confront him. I wouldn't automatically trust him, sorry.
2007-10-25 15:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would have left him the first time he cheated... you took him back, so, he is likely to do it again... even if it's not w/ her... the truth is you want to trust him, but, you can't, and he does not deserve trust... he's a cheater... I would dump him, yesterday... trust has to be earned, it's not a gift... show the kids that you don't put up w/ cheaters... good luck =)
2007-10-25 15:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He ain't no Prince Charming. He has lied, he has cheated, he has two little ones to prove his infidelity... what other evidence do you need? If it looks like duck, walks like duck.....
You seem to want to believe what you want to believe, so why asking here? Seems to me that you want to keep on being blind even though the truth is slapping you right on the face.
Good luck
2007-10-25 15:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Jessica. Why did you stay with a man that has a past of cheating on you? Find out and if he is get rid of him once and for all.
2007-10-25 15:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you continue in a relationship with a cheater, you have no right to complain when it goes wrong. Self inflicted.
2007-10-25 15:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
for now, i would believe him. the "other" woman doesn't usually call the girlfriend and rat the guy out because then their relationship would be over. believe him, but watch him from now on.
2007-10-25 14:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know its hard to not believe what she is saying. But if she likes to lie then thats probably what she is doing. Change your number and then you don't have to worry about it
2007-10-25 15:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Black Diamond 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHO CARES... THAT'S NOT THE ISSUE HERE!!!
Please take a look at yourself here... why would you want to stay with someone who cheats on you and lies... PERIOD!
Why are you teaching this to your children? PERIOD!
2007-10-25 15:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
lets make this simple. Find someone you can trust an jettison all this excess baggage.
2007-10-25 14:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋