what are signs of molestation in an adult female?

Question

I have a friend and think she may have been molested by her father as a child, but she is now an adult mother and has a lot of serious problems. can someone tell me the signs of being molested even after the person is an adult other than not wanting sex!! this woman loves sex and is quite the homewrecker with married men and is abusive to her son but leaves is hard to prove to authorities (yeah one of those women) Im just wondering please someone just tell me the signs of being molested in an adult. I am worried and have tried to get her help and have reported her on abuse but not successful. thanks

Answer 1

I was molested as a child... so I can only tell you as far as whats going on with me.

I dont like a lot of touching where he touched me when I was younger.
I get uncomfortable sensations after sex
I cry... and dont know why at the time after having DR exams or receiving oral sex
I dont like to be close during sex.. but cant be alone after
and i usually turn being molested into a funny thing so im not uncomfortable with it
I tend to seek drama in my life when there isnt any
I like attn.. no matter how I get it

maybe these are personality flaws? but i think they lead back to the abuse

good luck to you

Answer 2

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what are signs of molestation in an adult female?
I have a friend and think she may have been molested by her father as a child, but she is now an adult mother and has a lot of serious problems. can someone tell me the signs of being molested even after the person is an adult other than not wanting sex!! this woman loves sex and is quite the...

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there aren't any set "signs" that an adult female was molested as a child. For some women, being promiscuous in their teenage years, and having marital affairs as adults can be a sign. For others, they rarely want sex because they equal sex with the abuse. But just because someone exhibits these behaviors does not mean they were molested as children.
Obsessive behaviors in adults are also indicators that they were abused in some way as children.

Answer 4

You're a caring friend, but other than to tell her to get help/counseling there's not much you can do and it's not your job to "fix her".
Maybe she's just a mean person? I know people that actually DON'T have an excuse to be a rotten human being.
However, even if she WAS abused as a child (and 3 out of 5 woman have been...), at some point in your life you have to make a decision to be a good person and not make other people pay for your misery.

Answer 5

Generally, you can't see the physical signs of childhood sexual abuse but you can often tell if the victims were molested by the way they behave. They tend to become very frigid and avoid sex at all costs or are highly promiscuous. Other signs are substance abuse and repeating the cycle of molestation with their own children. Your friend definitely does show signs of having been molested as a child and needs help.

Answer 6

not wanting sex is hardly a characteristic of molestation as a child. and just because she behaves in this ungodly manner does not mean she was molested. how old is the child? can he talk and tell you what is going on? keep making those calls if you feel, think, and know something is not right. keep calling until social services gets off their butt and intervenes. until then, the best thing you can do for her is be her shoulder to lean on, when she talks-just listen. you can get alot from a person if you just be the listener. if she needs help, offer it to her. you have done all that you can.

Answer 7

Anger at even the smallest thing and harsh when it comes to punishment of the males in her family, husband, son, brother. If she is not accepting the help it is because she is not ready to forgive herself. She has to know it was not her fault. Until she accepts her forgiveness she will continue to hate herself and most of the males she comes across. She has to be ready to go to counseling and talk about what happened. Please stick by her and it will be a tough and long road. Some people will heal and others will just get by.

Answer 8

I think sometimes I can identify when that is the case.

I am kinda big, middle aged with a beard.

When a woman I have never met kinda jumps when she sees me, maybe thats a sign. Or maybe she has no easy smile around men because she fears them.

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Answer 10

As much as you might think you are helping, it actually takes a few incidents with authority (i.e., police, social services persons, medical practitioners) to get her some help.

Anytime that one lay person is the source of more than one report, the authorities start to investigate if that person is obsessing.

The whistleblower becomes suspect!

My personal advice is to back off, dump her as a friend or whatever. That scene can bring you down, too! Quit trying so hard, find some healthy interests.