ok so i have been close friends with this guy for like ever. 3.5 years. (that is long when you are a teen) anyways he's been going out with katelyn for 5 months. she was going to a different school so mine and rj's relationship stayed fine. I would hear all the crap like him saying, " i feel like crap when im around here...i feel like im always saying sorry"...stuff like that. and i would just nod. (never bagged on her) OH, by the way did i tell you she i beautiful and he has no back bone. so, she decides to go to his school the next year, which is also my school. So over the summer me and rj hang out like normal, everything seems fine. then the next school years starts and i see the girlfriend she stares at me all weird and i go over to say "hi" to rj, she glares at me and he totally ignores me. then later that day i see rj all by himself. i ask whats up and he just walks away. apparently she thinks i hate her. so is it my fault or his or the girlfriends? Whats the reason?
2007-10-25 07:36:31 · 18 answers · asked by thespian2damax 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have tried talking to katelyn when they were first going out. I thought we could be friends but she has always been weird around me and idk i just don't want to lose his friendship. it was really good, like brother sister. really close especially when he was going through his parents divorce and i know he felt that to because he used to tell me. wrote it in my yearbook and stuff like that. i fell like crying just "typing" about it. :(
2007-10-25 08:05:00 · update #1
find out why she thinks you hate her? is he telling her things
2007-10-25 07:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, it is nobody's fault. It is just one of those situations where he is totally wrapt up in his girlfriend to the point that nothing else matters.
If it is a true relationship then you could lose his friendship if you make waves between them. If it isn't, then it will be over soon and things will be back to normal with the 2 of you.
In either case, you have to be a good enough friend to give him the space he needs to decide what he really wants. He just may be as confused as you are about the whole thing. But if you really care about his friendship, give him space and be patient with him.
Bonnie Ramsey
2007-10-25 07:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieram1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jealous of your friendship with RJ. RJ may have had some feelings for you at one point even though you didn't He is feeling guilty for telling you about their problems. He probably lied to her about your part in these conversations. You can confront them together, but here's the deal, what kind of friend is he that he is ignoring you? What a jerk! It may be a time to get new friends.
2007-10-25 07:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by sadmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you haven't given any hint that you dislike her or anything then she just has a problem with you.
I was in a similar situation, only I knew my friend for like 12 years. But it's the same thing. If you two are close and the girlfriend notices this, she naturally just won't like you because of it. Jealousy or whatever, even though the two of you are just friends. He might talk about you or something that she doesn't like I don't know.
And as for your friend, he's probably whipped, she told him to stop hanging out with you for whatever reason so he's doing it. That's kind of messed up and not what a friend should do.
I'd try to talk to him and figure out what was going on, because just ignoring you like that is wrong. Then talk to her let her know you don't have a problem with her and you don't have a problem with her going out with your friend.
Hope this helps and I hope everything works out :)
2007-10-25 07:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by undyingdarkangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably a threat....the teenage years sure are interesting!!!!
Try to talk to her - get her phone number or grab her from school and try to talk to her. Tell her that you've never gotten the chance to get to know her because she was at a different school and you think it's awesome that she's going out with your friend (whether you do or not) and tell her you want you guys to be friends too. It cant' hurt and if she isn't receptive then you may have lost your friend for awhile but I'm sure it's not the last girlfriend he'll have and maybe you'll get along with the next one. Good luck!
2007-10-25 07:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kim B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her and explain what's going on. If she doesn't respond, or doesn't want to hear it, don't worry about it. If she chooses hear-say over your friendship, she isn't a real friend. And as for RJ, do I even have to tell you........ignore him and stay away from him....He's starting confusion.
2007-10-25 07:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by True S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that RJ is at fault here.
I'd move on, RJ doesn't deserve your loyalty and friendship, let alone love and devotion.
Don't blame the girlfriend, it's in our nature to be jealous and posessive with our men.
2007-10-25 07:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by RetroDiva65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really does have no backbone.
I think it's her fault. She sounds extremely insecure and bitchy. If it were myself in that situation I'd explain myself to him and then just back off and let them get on with it. It's up to him if he wants to follow someone around like a pathetic little puppy and it's her problem if she wants someone to.
In the great scheme of things it's not the end of the world. You're better off out of it and getting on with your life rather than be around someone who is ready to brush you off like that.
2007-10-25 07:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ladylike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell with just that info. It sounds like you are trying to stir things up though. He's been your friend and your afraid his girlfriend is taking him away from you.
Why don't you just try to be a friend to both of them? That way you all get along.
2007-10-25 07:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to still talk to him about the matter and if he still acts strange then maybe its because his girlfriend told him not to talk to you. Sometimes females feel intimidated by their boyfriends' friend girls. Don't let this get the best of you.
2007-10-25 07:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by top notch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is threatened by you. Most girlfriends/boyfriends know going into a relationship, that their friends have a huge impact on that sort of thing. I suggest being more friendly to her, let her know that your not after him like that. If she doesn't get it then, then its her own problem.
2007-10-25 07:44:43 · answer #11 · answered by Peanut Gallery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋