ive tried rubbing her shoulders..she says "ouch"..i leave notes on fridge everyday."no response"..as if no notes were not there..ill call her at work and just say "i love you ".nothin...shes even mean to her older kids..i'm trying but im getting exhausted and frustrated..doesnt seem to be an affair on her end..but dang if i aint needin some lovin..can yall help me out with some advice?
2007-10-25 07:26:44 · 15 answers · asked by bojack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-25 07:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have done your ground work. Maybe a dozen roses. At least you can watch them for about a week. See if she takes care of them. I really think it sounds like the party is over. Is she going through the menopausal thing. I mean I leave my husband notes all the time, I rub more than just his shoulders all the time. I commend you for trying to show her affection. I think I must have missed your first write in, but I am gathering the marriage has just about crashed. Sounds like the spark is even gone with her attitude. Honey if you can't make the woman happy and the kids are old enough for you to split, then go out and try to find happiness. Sometimes you feel like you could eat them, and sometimes you wish you had of. LOL!!! Best of luck to you. I hate hearing of families not making because one is being selfish and in their own little worlds. Maybe she is cheating on you. I really wonder.
2007-10-25 07:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get a job. Have her stay at home and take care of the kids for a while. That ought to help things along a bit. Sounds like she's too stressed. Sounds like she's being the man of the house. Seriously tell her your getting a job and she's either going to have to stay with the kids or get a sitter.
2007-10-25 07:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by bakerchris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that she has some depression issues since after the birth??? I would highly suggest counseling - for the both of you... If she is no longer in love with you - at least she needs to open up about it... So just make an appointment and take her to it... It'll help - at least it'll get you two talking!
Good Luck!
2007-10-25 07:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bojack perhaps the two of you are in need of professional therapist to help resolve whatever issues may be present in your relationship. You can always go alone to see a marriage counsellor but would do the relationship better if the two of you were to go together. Talk with your wife and ask if she is open to seeking professional help.
2007-10-25 07:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i do no longer think of which you would be able to generalized relationships like that. Its no longer each little undertaking it greater like a buildup of all of them over the years. we don't be conscious of on the initiating of a relationship understanding that it will finally end up in divorce. i think of maximum individuals (women and adult adult males human beings the two) want the chuffed dream of being inclusive of the single we expect of will stand with us in spite of the undeniable fact that thick and skinny. the common certainty is we are only no longer arranged earlier asserting "I do's" do to many unknowns on how we work together with dwelling with yet somebody else. Nor are we arranged for the different fringe of the coin of divorce. Divorce isn't a common way out as you will possibly think of it relatively is given the quantity of them available. yet whilst relationships fail its greater suited to area then to be unhappy jointly.
2016-10-14 00:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead to leave notes,talk directly with her.Ask her what is the problem,what is going on,what really she want about you;what she believe you need to change,or both need to improve.Communication is the key in all relationships.Good luck.
2007-10-25 07:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married a cold fish! I would lay it out to her in plain english. Tell her you want and need sex! If she still refuses, ask her why.....if she still doesn't cooperate, you are left with three choices:
1) Divorce
2) Go to hookers or get a mistress
3) Learn to live with no sex
As you can see, there are no good options when dealing with a cold fish!
2007-10-25 07:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by Smooth Lyrics II 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to talk to a marriage counselor.
Don't force her to go. YOU go first and then later tell her the counselor wants to talk to her. Forcing her to go will only get her to dig in her heels.
You go first. And talk to the counselor about your problem.
Just let her know you're going. Don't even ask her to go.
LD
2007-10-25 07:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
MY HUSBAND DOES THE SAME THINGS, BUT IN BETWEEN ALL OF THAT THERE IS A FORCEFUL QUALITY, LIKE HE EXPECTS SOMETHING NOT THAT HE JUST WANTS TO SPEND TIME. EVERY TIME HE IS NICE IT HAS A PRICE TAG ON IT. HE HAS ALTERIOR MOTIVE. WOMEN CAN SENSE IF ITS GENUINE OR NOT. I CAN'T JUST SIT IN THE ROOM WITH HIM AND ENJOY ANYTHING, HE ALWAYS HAS HIS HANDS UP MY SHIRT OR DOWN MY PANTS, ITS QUITE ANNOYING. AFTER AWHILE, YOU JUST HAVE NO DESIRE AT ALL. ITS A HUGE TURN OFF.
2007-10-25 08:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋