2007-10-25 07:02:58 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't even like my own family....so I don't expect my husband to like them either, lol.
2007-10-25 07:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, First things first. You don't have to do anything, if you just can't bare them, and you feel like you have given it your best shot that is all you can do. And your husband shouldn't try to make you do anything but your personal best, once you have done all that you can do. He should respect that and try and respect both parties-(you) letting his family know that they need to respect his feelings, and by loving and accepting you they are ultimatley accepting ALL of HIM! You are are part of him. He should also respect his family by letting them have their opinions and feelings which they are entitled too. He shouldn't try to force you down their throats, sort of speak. But ultimatley both sides need to be cordial and respectful. If it's to a point where you can't come to family functions, I think out of respect for you- your husband shouldn't go either,unless you don't mind or ( unless it something that he needs to attend, like a wedding, funeral, etc)Hope that helps! But I do have to be 100% and admit, unfortunatley when you marry someone you do marry their family like it or not. So you guys should have clear definitions of what is expected. What is acceptable and unacceptable for the situation. And be realistic of the strain this may have on the marriage. The marriage can survive many strains whether they are all of a sudden or whether they are accumulated over time, if you and your partner have a strong foundation. Clear, defined, expectations that allow both parties to get their needs met.
2007-10-25 07:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a law but a wise idea. Family is family and regardless of what a person says about family members, when others say something about them it can often cause friction. When you marry someone you are actually marrying their family also.
2007-10-25 07:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from experience- you had better look long and hard at the family before you commit to married life together. unless you get lucky and move out of the country, you will see those lovely people constantly. you will have to buy presents for the spiteful drunken mother-in-law, you will have your sister-in-laws half-retarded kids running all over your house at christmas, breaking or stealing your stuff with impunity. you will have the slobby brother-in-law at your house constantly because he's either between jobs or got evicted again. trust me- you had better love the family now, because after the wedding it's too late.
2007-10-25 07:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Straightedge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you don't have to like them. my father in law is a total jerk- i have tried to get along with him but every so often he gets mean to me or the kids so the last time he acted like a jerk i decided that new boundaries had to be drawn and i would not be visiting him anymore. if my hubby wants to take the kids to visit then he can go alone. i worried that this would cause our relationship to suffer but other than the trouble at first it has been good. respecting that these people you do not like are still a part of your spouse is more important than actually liking them.
2007-10-25 08:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no as you are not marrying his family just him but it does help out if you can at least get along with his family
2007-10-25 07:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should, since they are now your family too. Plus you will have to deal with that family for the rest of your life. You might as well get along with them.
2007-10-25 07:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but it will really help but don't make the mistake that I did by putting up with my husbands step family because of the inheritance issue. When step Mom died earlier this year everything was left to her children!!!! Wasted years pretending that I liked this family!
2007-10-25 07:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, Just be civil it just makes things easier especially when you have children. If your worried about meddling tell them that your married now and that their job of raising their son or daughter is done. To go back to their own spouse and worry about them.
2007-10-25 07:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tree70 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't like half of my inlaws and i stay as far away from them as possible. If there is a get together i'm as polite as I can be for as long as i can but that's about it. My husband knows and he dosen't force me to spend time with them. I sometimes have to host some of these get togethers and it goes down the same way....I TOLERATE THEM for as long as I could...that's usually 2 hours.
2007-10-25 07:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it sure would make life easier. Because believe, blood is thicker than water. Spouses tend to come and go these days, but your family is always there.
2007-10-25 07:06:05 · answer #11 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋