me and my fiancee are getting married in january. they all agree [his prnts and him] that we should move in to their house for a couple months to save up money. we would help out with bills, food, etc and would have half the house to ourselves. is it okay?
2007-10-25 05:25:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sure. If it is a limited amount of time. (under a year) Lots of couples do this. My husband and I did while he finished off his last year of college. My boss and her husband did while their first house was being built.
2007-10-25 05:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "they" all agreed, were you brought into the discussion as well, or was this decided without you present?
Although helpful and considerate, most newly-wed couples move "out" of the family home and into one together after they marry. You start saving and planning for the future before you get married, not afterwards.
It's not easy to live with in-laws and if you are uncomfortable with the arrangement, I would sit down with your fiance and talk about it. Maybe there are alternatives?
Congratulations and good luck to both of you.
2007-10-25 05:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ I think thats perfectly fine... I mean after all have you looked at the prices/mortgages of houses now? They are outrageous and I dont know how anyone can afford a huge mortgage, tons of monthly bills, car payments/insurance, gas, children, etc! Staying witht hem will give you & your hubby a great chance to save up as much money as possible! Good Luck and Congratulations! :-)
2007-10-25 05:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok, but way too stressful...no matter how nice your in-laws maybe...you will just want to have your own life soon...
As far as saving is concerned...look for cheaper accommodation.....i think every couple should have to be able to pay their rent before marriage...i am sure you can too...
What is best for you right now is to do as they want you to..and save as long as you can stand them..but once to move in it will be hard to get out..and living with in-laws seriously is no fun...
I am talking from experience...
2007-10-25 05:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by SSK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how close you are to your inlaws here. its a great idea to save money yeah, but what happens if it affects your marriage also, inlaws can be a pain in the butt at times but it depends on how your inlaws are of cos.. if they dont interfer in your life yeah its all good but if you feel they are nosy an can cause dramas maybe not a good idea cos you dont want them to affect your marriage esp when you are only just getting married.. if you both feel its a good idea go for it but if you feel anything inside that doesnt feel right to you dont so it.. follow your gut instincts...
2007-10-25 12:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet_mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Queenbee, that is very thoughtful of his folks. Hopefully you get along with them and that there are no issues that might create any problems. It is an excellent way for young couples to save some cash and allows them their privacy. Be grateful that you have this opportunity. A long and healthy marriage is wished to you and your mate.
2007-10-25 05:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats perfectly fine.. my friend and his fiancee moved out to cali.. they are staying with his aunt until they save up for their own place. its actually very logical, why pay all that extra money while tryin to save for a wedding and other expenses when you can live in a house for a bit cheaper for now.
2007-10-25 05:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable and get along with his parents why not? My husband and I lived with his parents for a while until we were able to save up enough money to purchase our own home. Unless you prefer to rent now, and purchase later... it's something you and your fiance' will have to agree on.
2007-10-25 05:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a Honey moon first. heheh. then i do think its OK but really save money and don't spend it on dumb things. you will have to look for ways to make your own home so get a good down payment, emergency money, and savings. good luck on your life journey
2007-10-25 05:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Paul H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ok for a while..but for long run,,it is not...I think it is better for you to have your own place...take a small one if yu can not afford a big one...then save for the future...
2007-10-25 05:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by lynnhgotico52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋