I am not thinking about having one. This is just something we were talking about at work. We are all split down the middle...
2007-10-25 04:51:32 · 48 answers · asked by jennyღ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok...please read the entire question... I'm not having an affair with anyone!!
2007-10-25 04:56:51 · update #1
ONCE AGAIN PEOPLE!!! I'm not having an affair. I would not do this!!! Stop calling me a home wrecker and a $lut!!! But in some other peoples defense.. What if the man cannot leave the marriage due to financial reasons, or whatever. I know plenty of women who cannot leave a marriage and NOONE knocks them when they have an affair. PLEASE PEOPLE TRY AND BE NICE
2007-10-25 05:02:16 · update #2
It's a hard pill to swallow. It is morally wrong; however, I do believe that sometimes people do marry the wrong people and a lot of the time for the wrong reasons. So when the right person does come into their lives they are in a dilemma. A married person with children and property stands to lose a lot more financially and emotionally. And for that reason, if you love that person, you love them enough to let them go so they can handle things the right way and then come back when they have!
2007-10-25 09:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having an affair with a married man is wrong, no matter what the situation...
So many people jump into marriages without even getting fully prepared for them. It's sad knowing that the majority of marriages end in divorce....it's sad that no one stays together "forever" anymore....
You can't use the financial excuse for not leaving somebody. If you don't want to be with that person, you find a way to leave...work a little overtime to get some extra cash...do whatever you can, the financial excuse just doesn't work.
Plus, what does that say about the guy? He's married and having an affair with another woman? Say he does divorce his wife and moves in with the "new woman"....that relationship has a lot against it....he was willing to do it with his exwife...who's to say he won't do it to his new woman?
2007-10-25 05:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by ღMeggღ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I read your question and be sure... I know what u are saying. Be safe than sorry. Some love can be first love in sight when that happen even not known that he or she is married.
Something like the way that I was expericacing. It ain't easy. I would disagreed with having a affair with a married man. I had a good man once who was supposely to be "getting divorce" from his wife and then then 3 months later he went back to her.
I am still hurting bad from that relationship. I would not reccommand that until he is 100% divorce or single for sure.
2007-10-25 05:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm suprised that anyone would be down the middle on this. this is not okay- its immoral- and it would make the other woman a homewrecker. Yes- even if the married couple have problems, or are separated, or are soon to be divorced.... it is not someone else's place to get involved. they could have a family, that could be even worse.
the door on the marriage should always be closed- not ajar- closed- before someone jumps into something that has nothing to do with them..... i think its the most arrogant- disgusting thing- things anyone can do. why couldnt they find their own woman, or man? Some people will say they cant control their feelings- well- you CAN control how you react to them. These people need to stay the *&^% away from other people's husbands or wives.
2007-10-25 05:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by **leigh** 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you and you're co workers need to find some meaningful work to do, are you really that bored! What kind of answers do you honestly think you would get. Yes, it's a dream come true-applies to men or women, being made felt like a second fiddle, ruining someone's family, hurting young children, getting STD's, having that reputation follow you for life, yes is it a very intelligent choice!
People who have affairs are usually missing a brain cell or two.
You're watching too many movies, ever seen Fatal Attraction, rent that, that will end all of your "curiosity's" very quick. Oh, and it might be a good flick for Halloween too!
2007-10-25 05:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by cinny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think to each its own, personally I don't think I would do it ever again. For me, I need more, For starters, I want to be number one, and I don't want to have to constantly come second to someone else. Even, if he chooses you first sometimes, ultimatley your still second. Also, if we get serious and your still going home to her I am going to feel cheated, I mean if you really love me, and what I bring to the table, than choose. Choose me, period. Also their is that little thing called karma. I believe that the same thing you give to universe it what you get from the universe. So if your taking his time and attention from the relationship that he vowed before GOD to stay in, then in your relationship with him or the next guy something will have their attention, whether its another woman, work, his hobby, whatever. Then to be honest I just can't trust a married man, if you lie to your wife, the person who you are supposed to forsake all others for,please I have no chance in having an honest relationship with you. I mean to go even further than that our whole relationship is built on a lie.and I perfer to live in truths! It's built on the fact that I can offer you or do something that your wife can't. I mean if that were REALLY true than tell me why are you married to her again. Then for those that say they just want to have a relationship with a man, without all the drama that the wife has to put up. Well, think about this, the whole relationship is drama, what if the wife finds out! DRAMA! she could sue you, attack you, etc, What if he and wife end their relationship, DRAMA cause now your next in line to deal with the DRAMA!, what if you get pregnant, DRAMA!,or what if he starts cheating on you another party! I mean no matter how you slice it DRAMA< DRAMA
2007-10-25 05:04:00
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I don't think it's a smart thing to do. ANY married man who has an affair (for whatever reason), will be dishonest in other areas also. And anyone who has an affair with a married person has no reason to think that this person would ever be faithful to anyone.
2007-10-25 05:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by sixftrd 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a really stupid idea, personally. He obviously can't keep the promises he made to his wife, so how can he keep the the promises he's making to you?
I think that a woman who truly respects herself and is confident of her self worth would never do that. But that's just MHO.
I also don't believe that a person can't get out a marriage. They might be afraid to, or might have trouble affording it, but anyone can get out of their marriage. There are people who will help you if you're in a situation like that.
2007-10-25 05:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Extra-marital affairs are much more to think about than to get involved with. Maybe that's one of the problems, you think easy in and easy out -just a little harmless fun and usually it turns out anything from bad to catastrophic.
We all are sexual beings that's why so many books, movies, songs and entertainment in general is based on love, romance and infidelity. And we all would like to have pleasure without risk or pain.
2007-10-25 05:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No affairs are good for anyone involved, including the one left at home in the dark about the whole thing.
2007-10-25 05:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋