What is the one bad thing that happened to you that you will never forget?

Question

I remember when I was 16, I told my mother I wanted to live with my Dad. Understand that she had put me through hell for years (I mean violence, stealing, cops, legal proceedings, drugs, poverty, homelessness, and many other things), I just could not take it anymore. I stayed with her for years trying to help her but couldn't. So I told her I wanted to leave and she didn't talk for me for the whole week until I could get a flight out. And when I got on line she didn't want to say goodbye. So when I went to hand my ticket to the lady to board, I turned around to wave goodbye and she was already gone. She didn't call me for years and I had to call her years later to try to reconcile and it is not working. What is the one bad thing that happened to you that you won't forget?

Answer 1

Ah that's horrible :(

My step dad murdered my Mum in Aug 1997...It still tears me up inside... That has to be the worst thing that's happened to me without a doubt. I lost 2 parents in one day.

Answer 2

I was date-raped (not the drug, the situation) by my bf when I was 15 and a virgin. I was afraid to say anything bc I thought my mom would have him killed (seriously, and she would have). He was so controlling and perverse that he really had me messed up in the head too. He acted afterwards like was no big deal and consentual, he actually had me wondering if it was! I don't know how to explain that. Anyway, it happened several times and he even go more cruel about it, like saying "don't worry, we won't do 'that' today". I finally snapped out of it and got smart and told him to leave me alone in a public place bc I was so afraid of him. He stalked me for a long time after that and even broke in my house when noone was home. It was beyond creepy and to this day if someone talks about him, or I see him I want to vomit, literally. I still don't think I am good at connecting sex and loving emotions, even though I have looked for it my whole adult life. I've never really spelled it out to anyone like this before.

Answer 3

When I was a kid I was sexually assaulted by my mom's boyfriend. He was drunk and I awoke to find him down on me. I told my mom about it and she never really believed me. I ended up having him beaten up by some of my friends and he did admit to it to my ex wife years ago, so I felt somewhat heard. But mom stayed with this man for years, he just died a couple of years ago. I did attempt to stay somewhat friendly towards him for her sake, but our relationship was never what you'd call good. My son had a similar experience years later so I was able to use this as a way of helping him work through his troubles at the time. This is one thing that I know will never leave my thoughts regardless of how long I am on this earth. Best of luck in getting your life in line and hopefully your mom will see how good a daughter you are soon and get her act together enough so you two can have a healthy relationship.

Answer 4

9/11

Answer 5

Worse thing that ever happened to me was when my dad died. He was in Mississippi and I was in California. I was 24 & working just to pay my bills & going to school and I had no money to fly home for the funeral. It has caused me great emotional pain. I'm 43 now and it still get choked up when I think about it.

Answer 6

There's too much to pick one because like you I had an alcoholic/drug addicted mom and a verbally abusive dad so lots of bad memories there.That's good that you know you tried to help her though.I lived with my mom and tried to help too and it didnt work because she just kept choosing the alcohol.They have to want to get help to get better.I wish you the best of luck and If your mom cleans up she will then realize that she missed out on getting to know you and I hope it will work out for you:)

Answer 7

Two bad things. My son got sick and died. That was hardest to bear of all things.

And my Mom & Dad got in a fight when I was 6. Mom had promised me that Dad would take me to the store to buy me a book that I wanted. And he left. I didn't see him again till I was about 15, & I thought their divorce was my fault. It took me years, and some therapy, to realize that it wasn't my selfishness that drove him away.

Please believe me, your Mom had her own problems, and they were not your fault. If you had stayed with her, you could not have kept her straight. If you can not set all that burden down, I hope you will get some therapy.... I applaud your gumption in saving yourself by going to your Dad's.

Answer 8

i was sexually abused by a family member from the time i was 7 till i was 14. i finally told and it as brought to a stop. it took many years to understand that i was the victim. it was not my fault. i am 38 and i still have bad dreams about it. but with the love of my immediate family i am getting stronger.

Answer 9

First of all i want to say to you is that you don't owe your mother nothing. Thank goodness you were smart enough to leave and not suffer. She owes you if anything. As for me, I have a broken pinky to remind me of an abusive relationship i was in. I will never forget this.

Answer 10

My husband hooking up with someone at work. At that point I quit loving him with all my heart. We are still together. But I feel he has ruined my life forever.

My heart goes out to you about your mom. Believe it or not your situation is not all that uncommon. Women have a baby, distant the ex husband/boyfriend and want the child all to herself. Most times these women are emotionally ill and the child suffers for it. Many do not get out. You were one of the smart ones. Your mom will never welcome a relationship with you unless you forsake your father (do not do that!!!). Do not drive yourself nuts trying to have a loving relationship with her, she is incapable of loving back.