I'm married 18 years (11 miserable) with 5 kids. I recently accidently found my first love on an auto parts listing (exactly 26 years to the day I last saw him). We emailed, and then he started calling. It's been like I'm 18 again.
He wants me & my kids to move to Canada, but there's no way the courts would let them leave the US.
I haven't filed for divorce, because I can't support 5 kids on my own, and I can't leave my kids behind, but I am miserable here.
26 years ago our parents kept Rob & me apart, and I have been very bitter towards them. Do I stay where I'm at for kids for the next 13 years?
2007-10-25 04:41:37 · 12 answers · asked by Outta Control 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Geez... That's quite a pickle.... Good luck buddy.
2007-10-25 04:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Little Army Monkey 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh that's right because this guy is going to be different, even though you have no idea who or what he is after 18 years of being apart. You actually think it will be good to go jump into bed with a guy you don't know and haven't seen in 18 years. I think you should move to Canada, leave the kids with the hubby, you obviously have no common sense or morals to teach the children.
Why do you let yourself be miserable for 11 years. Talk to your partner, go get counseling, fix the problem, work it out, that's what marriage is about.
2007-10-25 04:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't stay were you're but you shouldn't make your husband and children suffer by separating them so you can go off to Canada whoring around because of some childhood fantasy man. 26 years is along time and people change my bet is this guy in reality is not the same person you knew as a child... If you leave and moved to Canada leave the children in the home where they belong why should your hubby or them pay for your whoring around...
2007-10-25 05:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run off and live happily ever after with your Prince Charming. He is going to save you! NOT. Put on your big girl panties, try to work your marriage out, get a divorce if it wont work, stop talking to your Prince. You made your bed ( for the past 18 friggin years). If you dont have the ball% to do the above, then leave the kids with their dad and run off to Canada for some truly selfish fun.
2007-10-25 05:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by undone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you think there is hope for your marriage? Have you went to marriage counseling? Does your spouse even know that you aren't happy? Well if you believe that the marriage is truly over and you can't work through your problems then maybe you need to file for a divorce. But do it for that reason only. I wouldn't divorce just because my ex wants me back. The grass is not always greener on the other side! Believe me I know.
2007-10-25 04:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stay, but not with someone your miserable with. Let Rob come for you if he's serious about wanting you and the kids.
2007-10-25 05:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mona 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course your miserable with your husband. You got a new man to focus on.
2007-10-25 04:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you're miserable, chances are, your husband is too. don't stay for the kids, you'll be better parents if the two of you are happy.
please deal first with your marriage and children BEFORE you go running to your boyfriend. don't leave them for him, if you do, it will never work. the children will feel as if you chose him over their dad or them.
2007-10-25 04:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you had five children with a man your miserable with? shame on you.Yes you have to stay until the children are grown for their sakes.sometimes we have to act like grown ups and this is one of those times
2007-10-25 04:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If he wants you so much why are you the one that had to move...Let him turn his life upside down and move to the U.S to be with you
2007-10-25 05:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋