2007-10-25 04:40:03 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This sure got alot of answers- I guess because it's controversial. To those attempting to lecture me, I'm married for 14 years and the only thing "open" in my marriage is my wallet- I'm of the Eeeewwww persuasion.
2007-10-25 06:01:16 · update #1
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2007-10-25 04:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
There are many levels of "open marriage", from swinging, to polyamory, to full-on open-we-can-date-others-alone open. Between the right people it's cool, it works for them. But some people are not cut-out for it. Both paths are right for those people. It's not fair to say that because it wouldn't work for you that it shouldn't work for anyone, either.
40% of married people are cheating, have cheated, or will cheat. So I find it amusing that at least 40% of the people on here that are making holier-than-thou statements about open marriages are presently, have in the past or will in the future cheat on their spouse. But that's different, right? ;-)
2007-10-25 04:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people do the open marriage thing these days. I personally believe that if you marry someone you should be in love with them and only them, and that an open marriage is like cheating, especially if you are getting physical in other relationships. I wouldn't say it's gross, but it's wrong. If you are afraid of commitment or of the relationship getting old, then you might want to redconsider getting married.
2007-10-25 04:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by ~Miss Furu <3 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Scotie, perhaps I am showing my age too much but in my opinion it would be a definite "Eeewwww". Far to many things could go wrong with an open marriage and like others have said why even bother getting married.
2007-10-25 04:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Even though we are swingers and have sex with other people, we do not have an "open" marriage.
If it works for you, fine, but for us it would open the door to problems. Inevitably one person would be getting more than the other and this would cause big problems.
EDIT Gypsy we only do what we do together. That's the difference. We do not conduct our activities independantly.
2007-10-25 04:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what the couple feels. I don't like it because I feel that if you get married it should be because that's the person you want to be with. I can't see really even wanting to be with anyone else besides my husband. I figure if we're happy and we satisfy eachother on many levels, what's the need for being with others in an "open" marriage?
2007-10-25 04:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's just wrong to have an open marriage. That's part of the mystique of marriage, I think. How do you keep it interesting, fun, and satisfying for both without having to go elsewhere? Plus, it's not just sex anymore. It means much more than that, even when you're getting drrty. You build up a trust with your partner and it just gets better and better.
2007-10-25 04:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by tanam73 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm in an open relationship, but we won't ever get married. What's the point?
And I'm interested "Nice Lady" what is the difference between open and swinging?
2007-10-25 04:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that depends on the couple.
My husband and I KNOW an open marriage is NOT for us........
but we have friends who let others into their relationship, and it works well for them. They love each other very much, and have a great sex life.
Works for some, but not for everyone.
2007-10-25 04:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kaja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your open mindedness - truthfully in an LDS ecosystem you would be the minority. i do no longer individually hate gays, i somewhat do no longer think of i'm judgmental of them, I somewhat have numerous gay pals and that i truthfully don't sense in any different case or see them in any different case, nor do i discover them offensive or ill or disgusing or think of they're destructive or this way of concern! i could attend a marriage if one among them became getting married and that i could easily be chuffed that they have got been in a committed courting with somebody who they enjoyed and who made them chuffed. in spite of if, if it got here on the pollfor my vote i does not or could desire to no longer with a sparkling judgment of right and incorrect provide my vote to advise comparable intercourse marriage. i does not be being actual to the eternal truths that i've got faith God has set for us. So i think of it somewhat is beneficial you're so open approximately it - it somewhat is ultimate, in case you desire a pat on the lower back we will do this too..... it somewhat is a confusing concern to stability once you have a ethical fee you have faith God expects and an opposing one which the worldwide endorses. purely you additionally could make those artwork on your very own coronary heart - as all of us could desire to in our very own way. remember that maximum LDS human beings (or a majority besides) somewhat be attentive to few if any gay human beings - they oftentimes cut back themselves to pals in the church and hence their stand on such issues is according to what place the church takes fullyyt. in spite of if narrow that could desire to look i think of it may well be considered beforehand you bounce on each and every of the individuals who look SO CLOSED minded or what YOU view as judgmental. all of us tend to decide issues that we don't understand. regrettably it somewhat is the draw lower back to ignornace.. SO - i'm as cool as i may well be with this concern - yet I do draw a line too.
2016-12-30 05:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not cool. Open marriages will surely lead to a divorce.
2007-10-25 04:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by Kathryn 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋